Zhihu: How did you become self-disciplined?

After reading many answers, most of them talked about goals, time management, tomato clock working method and so on. In fact, people who really understand these things have long been self-disciplined, but for lazy cancer patients, these words are cliches and have no motivation. Just as the primary school teacher said, you should have your own dreams and what to do when you grow up. Most people just think about it and think too much. For example, there is a joke on the Internet that when I was young, I wondered whether to go to Tsinghua or Peking University when I grew up, but when I grew up, I found myself thinking too much.

Obviously, the topic of self-discipline should be aimed at lazy cancer patients. People who truly realize self-discipline do not lack goals and motivation, and all the time management methods that make them efficient. Because they have the property of spontaneous combustion.

Combining with myself, I want to share with lazy cancer patients how I achieve self-discipline.

First of all, lazy cancer patients have a strong procrastination, and they will postpone a goal indefinitely, thinking that there is still time anyway, so it is better to start tomorrow. As a result, I have never been able to start.

My greatest self-discipline is to look at this matter. I haven't read a book in the four years from graduation to graduation. Every time I make up my mind to buy a pile of books, there are only two kinds of results: 1, and no one has been optimistic about the bookshelf; 2, usually look at the first few pages, never open the back.

However, from 17 to now, I have read more than 80 books, one book per week on average, and I have written a lot of reading notes.

So, how are these done?

First, pay someone to supervise you.

At the beginning, I joined a reading and punching group. The rules are as follows: I continuously output reading notes 2 1 day, and the deposit is 299 yuan. If I insist on it for more than 18 days, the deposit will be returned, and the deposit below 18 days will be confiscated.

In order to push myself, I took part in this punching activity. The first week was fine, but the pain began in the second week. There are reasons not to study every day, such as coming home too late from work and taking the baby to bed. But thinking that the money is still in other people's pockets, I began to chew books and write notes (hahaha is really a money-oriented guy). Finally, I persisted for 20 days. The missed day was that the department held a meeting late into the night, and even if I wanted to read a book and take notes, it was only the next day.

Are you relieved after the deposit is refunded (laughs), but at this time, you actually find yourself in love with reading. 265,438+0 days to form habits. Although this habit is forced to form, when continuous reading opens your new cognitive world and thinking, you will find it too valuable. No matter how to cultivate, the hero does not ask the source, and he is used to not asking how to raise it, and it will be achieved.

So every time a friend asks me how to love reading. I want to share with you the original words of the reading community of Ma Xiang's life home that I established myself.

To borrow a phrase, "Like is presumptuous, love is restrained", you should go through the storm with someone before falling in love, and so is reading. There is a seemingly painful process before you fall in love with reading. When you take what you like as a lifelong career, you will definitely go through such tempering. Love is never easy to get, right?

Second, the theory of throwing hats, get the words out.

I often tell my friends about the hat theory. What is this? There is a western proverb: "Throw your hat over the wall." When you meet an insurmountable wall, throw your hat over. To get your hat back, you will force yourself to climb over the wall.

I posted it in my circle of friends every day during my reading and punching in, from the first day to the last day. Let me show you.

Many people are afraid to say it first, for fear that they will not be laughed at in the future. In fact, you can force yourself to have this shameless spirit. In fact, your audience is really not as much as you think. Don't be afraid!

After the first day, just like throwing a hat out, no matter how difficult it is, you must find a way to climb over your psychological wall. This is a very effective method to treat lazy cancer patients. As long as you take the first step, the rest are friends in the circle cheering for you.