Mr. toad in my heart

Title: Mr. Toad went to see a psychiatrist.

Type: psychology

Author: Robert? Deborah.

About the author:

Robert de Bord1932 was born in Brisling, a small town on the outskirts of Bristol, England, and entered Cambridge University after military service. /kloc-in the winter of 0/940, Bristol was attacked by German blitzkrieg, and Robert and his classmates were often evacuated to Cornwall to continue their classes. During his schooling in Cornwall, the thriving fishing industry in Foy Port was very new to Robert Jr., which also established Robert's lifelong interest in coastal leisure life. Coincidentally, the tranquil Cornwall is also the source of inspiration for many works by kenneth grahame, the author of The Wind in the Willows.

After military service, 1952, Robert entered the Self College of Literature of Cambridge University. When studying in Cambridge, Robert met Mary, who was studying in a nearby girls' school. After graduation, they got married and spent nearly 50 years together.

After graduating from Cambridge, Robert went on to study in a missionary school and became a full-time pastor. With the transfer of appointment, the couple moved to Huddersfield, West Yorkshire, where he became a parish priest. After that, Robert gave up his religious career, joined Fisher in Oxford to suppress the steel company, and finally worked at Henry School of Management for a long time. By this time, Robert and Mary had two children, Nicholas and Louise.

Robert has integrated his more than 20 years of psychological counseling experience into this book, which contains the main psychological counseling courses he taught during his time at Henry School of Management. From the first edition 1997 to the present, The Toad See a Psychologist has been reprinted and sold well for a long time.

Robert has always liked life by the river. As a child, Robert and his boy scout friends canoed on the Avon River in Bristol, and as an adult, he sailed a boat on the Thames, all of which provided the original materials for him to shape the characters in the book. Even if his health problems later, he will find opportunities to walk along the river with Boris, the Kane dog at home.

Robert died on February 4, 2020.

Content introduction:

Should I see a psychiatrist? This book will give you the answer.

Toad is a passionate, fashionable and adventurous guy. He makes a lot of troubles and jokes. But now he is depressed and unable to extricate himself. His friends decided to help him, including the clever and dignified badger, the caring but careless mouse, and the considerate and kind mole. After discussion, they decided to urge Toad to pay attention to this problem and take him to do psychological counseling, so the story of this book began. At the end of the story, after ten interviews with consultant Heron, toad's heart finally changed quietly.

Excerpts from excellent sentences and paragraphs:

"'Children's self-state' is built from the remains of our childhood and contains all the emotions we experienced in childhood. You know, when we were born, there were only a few basic emotions. At a very young age, these basic emotions gradually evolved into more subtle and complex behavior patterns, became the core of the self, merged into a part of ourselves, and defined our life-long behavior. Because of this, certain situations and scenes will stimulate our basic behavior patterns and make us react automatically, so we will act and feel like we did when we were young. The specific situation and scenarios vary from person to person. "

Badgers will never be consultants. Like all angry people, badgers never listen to others. He just wants to act like a teacher and criticize their shortcomings.

The heron continued: "Of course, the key point of this picture is that I know you are beginning to realize that all these behavioral strategies are actually defense mechanisms developed from our childhood to protect us from harm. This kind of injury may be real or imaginary. When adults are angry, sloppy, depressed or bored, we wonder whether they are behaving improperly, or unconsciously or uncontrollably repeating their childhood behavior patterns.

? "Critical parenting state": critical, angry and serious.

Reading experience:

Just because I think it is very interesting, I feel more and more like Mr. Toad when I look at it. I always want to blend in with people or circles, but I feel social phobia. Many times I don't understand what I did later. Why did you say that? Why did you do such a thing? I could have done better!

Slowly found that many things come from childhood, childhood experience makes you lose your reason and judgment when facing things you don't want to face, and naturally choose to avoid choosing childhood treatment!

When I saw Mr. Toad describe that he would not be angry, he really looked like himself. He feels that he will be sulking all the time, but he won't vent. He won't get angry. It is really a bit extreme that the sentence "Happy childhood cures life". I don't think my childhood was unhappy, but many things that happened in my childhood did have a great impact on my life, but people should learn to heal themselves, keep the good ones and get rid of the bad ones.

Recently, I am also learning how to educate children, so this book has also sounded the alarm for myself. I hope I can correct what was bad for me in my childhood and the way my parents treated my children badly. I hope I can do my best to give my child a happy childhood. I don't need him to heal his childhood all my life. Recently, I feel that the pressure on children is really great! Although the country has been encouraging to reduce the burden, it is really difficult for children to have carefree play time after class, and to have their own learning skills and practice calligraphy. The most common complaint I hear every day is "I didn't play again today!" Yes, he wastes a lot of time invisibly, but as an adult, I ask myself, can I make efficient use of my daily time? How can you ask for children when you can't do it yourself? I wish I could, but I may not be able to create more time to play carefree with my children! Grow up with children!