Wake up, those friends circle praised you for just slipping.

A few days ago, I shared an article I wrote in a circle of friends, and the result attracted a lot of praise, which really made me very excited and felt that it was an approval of what I wrote. Afterwards, I asked two colleagues I like. They just liked it when they saw the circle I sent, and they didn't read the content. They don't even remember what topic I wrote.

Friends circle likes you but doesn't pay attention to your content, just like two people meet in the morning to say hello, the form is greater than the content.

There is a joke that satirizes this phenomenon:

When they met on the road, one of them asked each other, "Have you eaten?"

"No."

"If you haven't eaten, eat quickly."

Therefore, a nodding acquaintance in real life is called a favorite acquaintance on the Internet.

02

People's life is getting faster and faster, and time is fragmented. Everyone has a limited time to stay on each APP, and the dynamics posted by others are only a few seconds, which is only enough to give you a compliment. I don't have time to see what you shared.

But at the same time, in order to maintain our relationship, people showed that I had been in your circle and paid attention to you, so I left a footprint of praise.

This kind of praise is not a real concern, or even a batch operation.

I once saw a comment from a circle of friends, "I really recited it today. I left my keys at home when I went out." There are several praises in the comments section below.

People don't really care, and praising them is just a slip of the tongue.

03

With the popularity of social software, communication between strangers becomes easier. People who were impossible to know before can now easily become WeChat friends, but the number has increased rapidly, but the social quality has declined.

The connection we hope to maintain through praise is only a weak relationship, very fragile and unreliable.

A WeChat friend you used to know occasionally liked him and found that he suddenly lost his state recently. Go to his circle of friends, it turns out that he blocked you.

You sent an activity to a classmate you haven't seen for years, begging for praise from the child, and she deleted you the next day.

A fragile relationship will be shattered because of a very small thing, even just a bad mood. Weak relations have little effect on enhancing everyone's feelings.

Closer distance between people requires heart-to-heart communication again and again and a strong relationship.

The most direct difference between a strong relationship and a weak relationship is the different contact methods and frequencies. Regular offline meetings and one-on-one chats make it easier to build strong relationships. Occasionally, online interaction only maintains a weak relationship.

04

Many people confuse strong relationship with weak relationship, and regard the weak relationship on the Internet as a good friend in life.

For example, a good friend who has just talked several times online is not very familiar with her. She recommends her products to you.

Or you can't say it once a year after adding friends. I hope you can reply a comment to his circle of friends today.

I just want to say, "Excuse me, are we close?"

Sometimes, friends and classmates who used to be familiar with each other, because they haven't been in touch for a long time, the relationship is getting colder and colder, but we ignore this fact, and the result is that we suddenly find that the relationship between you is not so iron. He will block you, even delete you, just because you are not important and don't contact him.

05

Nowadays, weak relationships are very common, and many strong relationships have also become weak relationships. In the final analysis, it is because people are used to mobile phone communication, which is convenient and fast. Therefore, I am too lazy to spend time offline to meet and chat.

But if you want to be more than just a friend who likes you, it is very useful to improve social quality, strengthen current activities and increase social frequency.