When I studied pua, I found that pua was a complete joke.

In recent years, foreign girls' cheats have been studied by studious China people inside and outside, commonly known as pua. Many people use these routines to deal with the relationship between men and women, some are fooled and some are not fooled.

Deceived sisters or men are disappointed in human nature, and never believe in love to the detriment of time, money and even life.

I have a rough look, and this secret book is nothing more than three steps.

1, Liren, a romantic poet and overbearing president, secretly planned to package himself as a single-minded, rich, talented and respectful gentleman to women, which aroused girls' curiosity.

The most important thing is that this kind of man is very active with the target girl. They take the initiative to speak first and then start asking questions, getting closer to your heart step by step, observing your preferences by looking at your circle of friends, and judging your mood and past experience. Many simple girls think they have found their soul mate, but they are actually routine men with a little more experience.

When a gentleman asks you to be caring and attentive every day, I think many inexperienced girls will be moved by a hard heart. Even though he is not handsome, short and not as perfect as a circle of friends, he is as emotional and emotionally dependent as a woman.

Once a person begins to confide in you about his privacy and distress, he basically trusts you and believes you.

Once a woman moves her heart, she will basically lose her mind.

2. So, the second step is that these fake gentlemen start to act, show their vulnerability, and then let you pay, because the logic behind this is that if you really love me, pay for me.

? If you don't want to give, you don't love me.

As a result, many silly girls began to abuse themselves and kept paying to prove that they loved this fake gentleman.

In addition to attracting you to pay, I will further control you.

There is a difference between controlling people and being kind to others. Being really nice to people means not asking for anything in return, just asking you to be happy. All actions and language are based on your emotions. The controller is mainly based on the controller's emotions.

Give you a date, give you a slap.

Publicly exaggerating, realistically belittling.

For example, "Look at your bad temper. Who wants you? Only I want you. "

"You are not stable, you are stupid, you are stupid, and I am educating you for your own good."

"Although you are not good-looking, gentle and virtuous, I like you ~"

This kind of preaching, which is suppressed for a while and touted for a while, is likely to make people fall into servile troubles. Why? Because you will continue to please him in order to get his praise.

When you covet his concern, his thick skin and his so-called intimate knowledge, you will fall into these three traps set by him.

02

In recent years, I have stepped out of the ivory tower and gradually become independent, no matter in my career, studies or thoughts.

The biggest advantage of this independence is that you know what you want, instead of listening to others, following the crowd, or listening to your parents. You have no opinion.

My biggest feeling is that when I have no opinion, I can easily be pushed around and bullied. However, as long as you have your own backbone, no matter how outsiders brainwash you, you can't be controlled.

The so-called pua discussed above is actually aimed at traditional well-behaved women. Their weakness, lack of opinion and love are all shortcomings that have just been exploited.

With experience and thinking ability, this kind of control through acting, repression and moral kidnapping is completely unworkable.

Afterwards, I found that this so-called pua exists not only in the communication between men and women, but also in all interpersonal communication.

03

My mother is a controlling woman. The best control method is push and pull. I treat you well, and then I play tricks on you. Plus mom's label, it always looks like it's on top.

Has she studied pua? Definitely not. It's just that all the negative energy generated by her parenting is thrown at me.

She treats me with a subtle emotion, hoping that I am good, but she doesn't want me to be better than her, and she doesn't intend to invest in me. Instead, she hopes to have a successful career and be at her mercy. Anyway, everything is subject to her preferences.

Both hard and soft, complaining to me that life is not easy, and love to suppress me, saying that I am worthless. It has caused my feelings for her to be very complicated, and I love and hate her.

This kind of emotion even appears in interpersonal communication.

There was once a boy who pursued me and controlled people in this way. Inferior love words have been pushed a lot, but he is a selfish and dark person at heart. After I refused to accept him, I immediately turned my back on my shortcomings and said that I was inferior to him everywhere. Then I turned black in a rage, and he immediately cried and begged me for forgiveness.

This is really a good play. In fact, I love myself the most, because he has expressed his objectification and hatred for women more than once, and built all the values of women on the values of early marriage and early childbirth, thus forcing me to submit.

Then he will make himself the first good man in the world. It seems that only he will like me and degrade me to nothing.

Isn't this mode the pua mode? Does he specialize in research? I don't think so. It's just that he is very thoughtful and likes to control people and then extend these routines and dramas.

Some people are not making friends, but controlling others to achieve their own goals.

I took stock of the past and found that such people are insecure, dark and unhappy, so they don't want others to be good.

Many times, what separates people is not achievements and achievements, but the ability to face setbacks. The mentality of facing the dark side has caused the gap between people.

Bullying the weak and fearing the hard, so I suppressed you. I hope you are obedient and at their mercy.

04

These people are hard to meet at the beginning of their growth. Many innocent people care about the evaluation of people around them, but it is definitely the people you care about, such as parents, such as so-called friends.

Give you a jujube and slap you.

Call it hello and treat you like an idiot. In order to appear less lonely, you start to try to cater to it again.

As long as you have a little self-esteem, a little ego and a little opinion, you won't be hurt by these dark people.

If you don't get pua in interpersonal relationship, you should know where your bottom line is. If someone says something that hurts you, your body instinct will tell you that you are unhappy.

Sometimes, in a bad environment that is not respected, learning to be selfish is to protect yourself.

People who love to suppress others are also suppressed by others, looking for the next prey to continue to vent their dissatisfaction.

I want to tell all simple and beautiful girls:

Don't be afraid of loneliness, there is no need to accept depression and exclusion for integration. High-quality friendship is definitely mutual help and respect.

Learn to refuse, learn to be angry, learn to be attacked, and learn not to be respected. You can speak out bravely. He has taken the initiative to attack you. Do you still care about so-called harmony?

Establish your own evaluation system, starting with a certificate, starting with a beautiful performance, and starting with a series of exams that affirm your value. Don't be dragged down by these rotten people, be lazy and diligent, and be good for yourself.