People hate you not because you can't talk.

Many people often ask this sentence when they find that others are not paying attention to him after a series of chats.

However, many times, people don't want to talk to you, not because you are not good at talking, but because of your character and cultivation.

People hate you not because you can't talk.

One day, I left work early, just in time for a primary school to finish school. The children rushed out of the school gate in droves and were about to run to their long-awaited parents. A teacher suddenly stopped the students in front and asked them to shout "goodbye to the teacher" before letting them leave.

It turns out that some rules will not change for decades. In the corner of the line, there was a little boy who was out of place in the line because of his frowning brows and gloomy and dignified expression, probably because he didn't like such a ceremony.

After saying goodbye to the teacher, it is the children who say goodbye to each other. Most children are reluctant to embrace and throw themselves into the arms of their parents. Only the little boy silently bypassed the crowd and walked to his mother's side, and no one paid attention to him.

His mother attached herself to him and asked him gently, "Why don't you say goodbye to the children?" The little boy didn't speak and plunged into his mother's arms. The mother hurriedly explained to the parents of another child next to her: "Our children just don't like to talk."

Many mothers around me are particularly worried that their children will not talk, so they have been coaxing them and warning their children to communicate with teachers and classmates more from an early age. Therefore, we have learned to talk freely since childhood, because we can like it.

If the child is unsociable and excluded, most parents will interpret it like this mother: my child has no friends because he can't talk.

However, in fact, I see many taciturn children surrounded by close partners. They can't say good things, but every time there is something delicious, they will silently leave a copy for their friends. The cool appearance makes people love it.

Not long ago,

A male colleague in the IT department of the company came to me with a sad face, complaining that he was old and didn't have a decent girlfriend, and his parents kept urging him to get married early. This big boy born in 1980s is very nice and easy-going. Although he doesn't earn much money, it's not a big injury. There were several girls who got along with each other before, and they all died in the end.

Actually, I don't understand either No matter how poor and ugly people are, everyone loves them. I really don't see any reason why he can't find a girlfriend. He always said it was because he couldn't talk and wouldn't take the initiative to chase girls. Even with the help of friends and matchmakers, he made some progress and met several times, but most girls didn't hear from him.

He came to me not to complain, but for a girl, Coco. Coco is my neighbor. I know that she has been single for many years and has been expecting someone who loves her.

But she is a quiet girl. I don't think the boy Kan Kan is talking about is suitable for her. So, I introduced this male colleague to Coco.

After seeing him several times, he likes cocoa very much, but Coco is a little shy. He thought that because of his stupid mouth, he wouldn't cheat or please girls. I don't believe it, at least Coco isn't.

That night, I made a special trip to Coco's house to chat with her and wanted to know the real reason. She told me that once, he drove Coco out to eat, because it was the rush hour after work, and the traffic jam and pedestrians rampaged, which made him very anxious. He kept honking his horn and cursing those unruly pedestrians. I finally got to the restaurant, only to find that there was a long queue. This time, he was even more impatient and almost quarreled with the waiter who occupied the seat.

I finally understand why Coco turned him down. Every time I was late for an appointment, Coco sat there quietly flipping through the books without waiting for me. Every time I get impatient because of a little thing, she advises me to relax.

I know, they can't be together.

When Coco talked about equality, I suddenly thought of a very popular male classmate in college.

At that time, silent handsome guys were not popular, and most girls liked boys who could tell jokes. But he is an exception, taciturn, but always loved. It was not until we made a school magazine together that I realized that there is no love for no reason in this world.

Every time he stays up late to catch the manuscript, he is the last one to leave and clean up the messy classroom. Every dinner party, he doesn't reserve a seat a few days in advance. He always takes up the place where he can't order early, and he is never afraid to wait for embarrassment.

On another occasion, I saw him give a beautifully packaged Daoxiang Village gift box to his girlfriend from other places, which should be a gift for her to take back to honor her parents. I guess he never said what he would do for you, just did it.

Language is a way of expression, but it is not the only way. Behavior can reflect a person's character more truly than language.

Every time I walk in the street, I feel warm when I see a boy deliberately walking to the girl's left just to stand between her and the traffic. No matter how beautiful it is, it may not be safe at that moment. However, some people foolishly think that rejection in life is just because they can't speak.