The "Rule of Threes" in interacting with people, why some people say it is the most comfortable relationship

The relationship between people is intricate and complex. It contains interests, friendships, and mixed with various people's values ????and emotions. As the old saying goes: "Leave three points in everything you do", this derives from the "law of three points" in interactions between people. What does it specifically refer to? Why do many people say that this kind of relationship between people is the most important thing for both parties? What about a comfortable relationship?

When you don’t know someone well, you should keep your words to yourself. Not long after the two people started to contact each other, they actually didn't know much about each other. You can only judge from the other person's movements and tone when they first come into contact. Some people may be careless, while others may be shy and cautious. When two people start to get in touch, they usually don't go too deep into the issues they discuss. Each other has a sense of mystery. Because they can't figure out their origins, they may not know the purpose of the other's visit. Two people who are not familiar with each other should always speak with caution. If two talented people talk happily when they meet, it is possible that both parties really have the same aspirations, but it is more likely that you have been controlled by the other party. It is precisely because of the rich experience of the other party that he can immediately judge what kind of person you are, and he can immediately make corresponding adjustments to the conversation based on your personality. No matter what topic you bring up, the other party can If you can catch it, it can be said that your knowledge is definitely inferior to that of the other person. You must pay attention at this time. Don't immediately regard the other person as a close friend and tell the truth about what you know, especially some business secrets, company secrets, etc. In today's society, there are hidden dragons and crouching tigers, undercurrents are surging, and competition is more intense than ever before. If a secret is accidentally leaked, it may be a huge blow to the company. Of course, as the source of the leak, you may also ruin your career. Therefore, old people often teach us not to mature too quickly. Those social masters in society should be on guard against them, lest they are plotted without even knowing it.

Even if two people are already very familiar with each other, they still have to keep their own secrets. Two people are already good friends, good brothers, or good best friends, so you still have to be cautious when interacting with them. These three points are actually a kind of protection for oneself. A person cannot show it to others without reservation. Only by having some sense of mystery is he responsible for himself and his family. Looking at history, many of the capable soldiers in the storms of history actually fell into the hands of their own people. Why? Because it is his own people who know him best. Know where he is strong and where he has weaknesses. It is impossible for a person to have no weaknesses. Once he is fully understood by others, the initiative is in his hands. He will take advantage of you when he wants to. When he encounters interests, he will regard you as a stepping stone. Even if In modern times, we can easily see from some cases the conclusion that the police finally reached: acquaintances committed the crime. People can be very familiar with each other, but they cannot understand each other too well. When your characteristics are discovered and your shortcomings are understood by others, you may be suppressed by others. In the end, I can only give myself one sentence: "If you encounter someone who is unkind, you will bring it upon yourself." Therefore, when getting along with acquaintances, you should also keep your balance. That's the best way to get along.

Even between relatives, the principle of thirds applies. Remember the widely circulated "Hedgehog Law"? In the cold winter, two hedgehogs were shivering from the cold, so they decided to hug each other for warmth. However, the hedgehogs were covered with sharp thorns. As soon as they got close, they were pricked by each other's thorns and screamed. What's the best way? ? As a result, they finally found the right distance to keep each other warm without letting each other's thorns prick themselves. The same is true for our relationships with each other. Even between relatives, don't let each other know everything. Because family members are the best relationship, but once the other party knows about your embarrassment, she may inadvertently tell you, or sometimes she will nag you in front of you because of something. Arguing over a certain trivial matter is actually a waste of everyone's time because some trivial matters are trivial in nature and there is no need to let the other party know about them. The same applies to their own children. Why do adults sometimes lie to their children? In fact, they are also giving them a beautiful lie. Just to put his mind at ease.

For example, some children will ask their mothers where they went on Sunday. In fact, their mother went to work part-time on Sunday in order to make money to support the family. However, this will make the children feel that they are working very hard and feel distressed. Unlike their mothers, Just lie to the children and go play with their friends. Letting children play with their friends reduces unnecessary worries and is also a disguised form of protection for the family.

Keep three points in mind when it comes to interests, "Every bustle in the world is for profit, and all the hustle and bustle in the world is for profit." In the face of interests, people who can save three points often have a big picture. This is also the principle of Li Ka-shing, the former richest man in Hong Kong. The affairs of the world and the interactions between people can be put simply in two words: interests. There are basically no people who can be indifferent in the face of interests, but Li Ka-shing is very good at grasping this aspect of human nature. When interacting with others, he gives up three percent of the profits so that business can continue. Only those who let others make money can make money themselves, and only then can both parties cooperate and win. And those who only see immediate benefits and those who love to scheme against others may indeed make some money at the beginning, but they will not be able to do it for a long time, because others have suffered a loss once, and they will not make money if others have not. Will never work with you again. As for those who have a big picture, their first thought is to let others make money. In this way, even if they make less, their reputation will be spread. On the other hand, others will still come to you for cooperation next time, because real money is real money. This is also the reason why Li Ka-shing can become the richest man in Hong Kong. Giving up three points of profits actually implies the great wisdom of business philosophy.

Some people say that the "Rule of Threes" when interacting with others is the most comfortable rule for dealing with relationships between people. It is a law that has been proven useful over time and through history. Whether it is strangers, relatives or friends, this law has its application. Interacting with people is also an advanced course, but we are not taught how to do it in school textbooks. The experiences and lessons learned in society are also worthy of our appreciation, so that we will not suffer any disadvantages when we travel in the "jianghu" in the future.