The girlfriend asked, "It's almost the New Year. Isn't 200,000 bride price enough?" How should I deal with it?

I cried the first time I heard the song Farewell. It was so sad. The song is slow, deep, depressing and painful. A loving man looks at the helplessness, helplessness and humiliation of his beloved woman marrying others, and through singing, he stings people with stories one by one.

..... I said, let me see you off on your wedding day. You nodded and didn't speak, and tears rolled down your cheeks. It was the suona that woke me up from my dream. People who should be married become fools. ...

Guo is in a small town. The conditions are good, and Lai is also good. He belongs to the upper middle class. His parents are both middle school teachers. However, Guo Wen's academic performance was not very good, but his parents were strict and he finally went to a college. After graduation, through my own efforts, I still found a good job with a good income, with an annual income of 6.5438+0.5 million.

When Guo Wen was in college, he talked about a girlfriend. When I graduated, I broke up because I disliked being poor at home and couldn't help him in my career. When the girl was about to break up, she said, "Love is wonderful, but the reality is too cruel." . Guo Wen understood her and did not complain.

Later, Guo Wen found a girl from his hometown. The girl and Guo Wen are in the same county, and the distance between them is not close. They are in the south and north of the county seat, separated by the county seat. Guo Wen thought that all rural people would understand and understand each other. And my girlfriend graduated from a technical secondary school, with little difference in academic qualifications and the same language. Most importantly, he thinks his girlfriend is quiet and blushes when talking to people. He thinks such a girl will understand him, and he likes such a girl.

The two have been dating for some time. Guo Wen has been to his girlfriend's house and met her parents. They are very satisfied with him. In the process of chatting, I talked about the bride price in the countryside. The girlfriend's parents said that this is not what they asked for. That's not the point. As long as Guo Wen and his girlfriend have a good relationship and have nothing to do with each other, they have a place to live. Guo Wen was very moved by the words of his girlfriend's parents.

Years ago last year, Guo Wen made a down payment of 350,000 yuan and bought a house in the county seat by mortgage. Years later, my girlfriend and I also talked about getting married. For the convenience of saying things, it is difficult for the two families to make it clear in person. Then they also found a friend of * * * as a middleman, which is a matchmaker. The girlfriend's family asked to get engaged first and wait until the Spring Festival to get married. Then when it comes to the bride price, at first, it was said that according to Guo Wen and his parents, later, now it is generally 70,000 to 80,000. When you are ready to do something, ask the matchmaker to say that it is perfect to get 65438+ 10,000. At this time, Guo Wen's parents were already angry, and they began to talk well. When they step by step to the front, their appetite is getting bigger and bigger. Even after their engagement, they will talk again when they get married. I feel unhappy. Guo Wen's parents want Guo Wen to break up, saying that this family is not authentic. However, Guo Wen believes that it is very common for rural boys to get married, have cars and houses at every turn, and their parents are young, and it is very common to get hundreds of thousands of bride price. So, I think100000 yuan is almost the same. I don't want to break up

Then, he talked to his girlfriend, who said she didn't want that much, but her parents thought everyone wanted it. If her family is small, or things are not done well, she will be laughed at. Say that finish, also said that a few married in her village not long ago, a girl looks worse than her, all aspects of the conditions are not good, but the engaged husband took the initiative to give 200 thousand bride price, several boys in her village got married, and spent hundreds of thousands back and forth. However, the conditions of those two families are good, the boy looks almost worse, but the parents have the ability to give. Guo Wen, ask her if she can be less. She said that in fact, the family thinks that this hundred thousand is even less. Now, I don't know who listened to me and said it was an opportunity. If you don't take this opportunity to point out the bride price, there will be no shop after this village. It is said that it is for children. If you are in a hurry to spend money, you can use it first.

Guo Wen, after listening to his girlfriend, was a little disappointed. But he didn't reply. I am no longer actively planning my engagement. Then, the girlfriend's family really let the matchmaker take a message. The matchmaker was also angry this time and said, "I am an authentic matchmaker, and you entrusted me." Now I feel that things are getting harder and harder to say. What can be discussed directly in the future. I'll give you the last message. The bride's family now sees more than 200 thousand bride price, and it has changed again I feel like I lost money, and now I want 200 thousand. See for yourself, give it if you can, and you can't talk for yourselves. I won't give you any more news. " No way, Guo Wen had to contact his girlfriend and said, "The money earned from working in recent years has been spent on buying a house at once, and every month I have to save money to repay my mortgage. The quality of life has declined again and again, but I still feel nervous. 200,000 is not a small amount, we have to make up. " I haven't contacted my girlfriend since. My girlfriend occasionally sends a message, and Guo Wen is also a lukewarm response.

Not long ago, my girlfriend felt that there was something wrong with Guo Wen and she never took the initiative to contact her. She thought he was angry, angry, but the Spring Festival was coming, and his family was not engaged, so she tried to send him a message: "The Spring Festival is coming, isn't 200,000 bride price enough?" After a while, she received a reply from Guo Wen and almost collapsed. Guo Wen's message was, "Oh, sorry, I forgot to tell you. I saved enough money long ago, but I didn't give it to you. I have almost enough money, including engagement and marriage. I got married on the 26th of the twelfth lunar month. You take advantage of the year to let your parents find another family with better conditions. "

It turns out that after the matchmaker gave up last time, Guo Wen's parents decided to give up this marriage after consulting with some relatives. It's not that there were too many bride price, but that the attitude of the woman's family was unacceptable. She reneged on her words three times and five times, and her words were not counted, and she was bullish all the way. If we go on like this, we will be engaged and given a bride price, and we may not need any money in the future. We will get on the sedan chair, get off the sedan chair and change our tune. I feel that no matter which level you pass, the lion will open his mouth. So, think about it, or give up, not appropriate. Then Guo Wen met his former junior high school classmates, learned about his situation in the chat, expressed sympathy, and said that he would not want so much, hoping to associate with him. As a result, the two people chatted very well. Then, there is really no requirement, it depends entirely on the meaning of Guo Wen. Then, they took out this 200 thousand, which is enough to do things. So I decided to get married on the 26th of the twelfth lunar month. Originally, Guo Wen wanted to tell his ex-girlfriend, but he got angry when he thought about it, and then he felt that he had broken up with everyone, so he didn't say anything.

The ex-girlfriend called several times and asked to meet, but Guo Wen refused. On the phone, she cried very sadly. But I can't go back, so I have to let go.

In a few days, Guo Wen will get married, and his ex-girlfriend doesn't know that the song "Farewell to Family" will be sad. As long as two people love each other, it is really wrong if the bride price breaks down, which is a pity. On the other hand, the feeling of breaking up because of the bride price is not necessarily true love. So, there is nothing to regret. Just find the one that suits you!