Why do people always misinterpret what others say?

Some people are right on purpose. Maybe there are some contradictions in your life or work that have not been solved, and the other party likes to give you "little shoes" to wear. If you tell a joke casually, people will make a big fuss, which is completely deliberate misinterpretation! This kind of thing is very common, not surprising! Isn't there a saying that "if you want to add a crime, you can always find a solution?" That's probably what it means.

However, some people will misinterpret your words, not because you have offended each other in any way, but because you make people think more and feel that you mean what you say. As for whether you are sincere or not, people will think you are sincere anyway!

I have a colleague who is the same. Sometimes it's really not others' deliberate misinterpretation, but his attitude and tone, which really makes people have to misinterpret.

My aunt in our canteen once asked that colleague, "Hey, I haven't seen you for several days. Didn't you come to work?" Then my colleague (male) said, "You know I haven't been here for days. What, did you miss me? " As a result, the canteen owner almost died! Just yell at him. What did you say?/Sorry?

Indeed, what do you say? It is inappropriate for a man to say such things to a woman, not to mention that his husband is still around. What do you say is appropriate? Even if it's just a joke, this joke has already been played, and others have to misinterpret it! Others don't know that they think they are having an affair? Isn't it?

So sometimes it is human nature for others to misinterpret your words. When you think about who others are, you should also think about whether there is something wrong with what you say, so that others have a chance to misinterpret you. The phrase "the speaker is unintentional, the listener is intentional" is still a loophole, which gives people more opportunities to think, isn't it?

You can't change who others are and what kind of psychology they have. You can only change yourself. So be sure to think twice before you act.