What kind of personality can easily offend others with their words?

Let me say four sentences first. First, there are over a hundred people, all kinds of people. Second, it is difficult for one person to satisfy ten people. Third, who will not be told behind his back? Who doesn’t talk behind people’s backs? Fourth, life is just about saying bad things about others and letting others say bad things about you behind your back.

When you understand these four sentences, you will look rationally at the question of what kind of person’s personality is easy to offend by speaking. First of all, you must understand that everyone is an independent individual and will have their own problems. One's own way of thinking and perspective on problems, so it is said that there are more than a hundred people, all kinds of people, most people behave and deal with things because they think their own method is correct, so they do it that way. Very few people feel that the way they speak is wrong and still do it. Second, it is difficult for one person to take advantage of ten people. No matter how good you are, some people will say you are bad. No matter how bad you are, some people may say you are good. The only difference is that there are more people saying you are good. Or do you think there are many bad people out there? So when you reach this level, you have to look down on some problems. Don't mind it too much. Third, who will not be told behind his back? Who doesn’t talk behind people’s backs? When you think someone else's way of speaking offends others, have you ever thought about your own way of speaking? In fact, sometimes it offends people? Fourth, we have reached a state where life is just about saying bad things about others, and letting others say bad things about you is normal! No need to mind too much.

When you understand the above four principles, what kind of personality will you look at objectively and offend others? Which of the following situations are the most common?

First, fast-talking people can easily offend others. I believe that people who are 80 years old are naturally disgusted with fast-talking people. If you think they are all unstable factors, just stir up trouble if they are fine. Dongjiao The Xi family is short on gossiping. Even if this kind of person does not speak ill of others, it is easy for people to immediately think that he is speaking ill of others behind their backs. Once people form this impression, no matter whether you say it or not, as long as someone knows that someone has been said something bad, you will be the first person to be suspected and the easiest person to offend.

Secondly, people who speak half-said are most likely to offend others. Some people always speak half-said, and they speak vaguely and unclearly, but they do not speak clearly. In fact, this kind of person can easily offend others. For example, Lao Zhang said in the company that he heard that the company is going to lay off people recently! Then when everyone asked him what was going on? He smiled and didn't answer, which could easily make people think that he knew some inside information and took action, but he just didn't tell everyone that he was eating alone. This kind of person offends people the most!

Thirdly, people who constantly attack, stimulate and hurt you in the name of your own good are the most likely to offend others.

Some people's opening remarks are: "We have such a good relationship, that's why I'm talking about you. Look at you, you don't work hard, you don't put your heart into what you do, and you laugh and laugh all day long. You don't know what you're living for." ? "If what he said is true, that's fine. In fact, many times he is just looking for trouble and attacking people! You obviously work hard, but he says you don’t work hard. You obviously work hard, but he says you don’t, and he still says this in the name of doing your best! You have no room to refute, just say you are angry or not

Fourth, people who brag easily offend others! Some people don’t know what’s going on in their heads. They just like to brag. They’ve obviously had income for a long time, and yet they go around bragging about how rich they are! You obviously don't know anyone, but you just like to brag about your relationship. What kind of connections can you accomplish? What's the point of saying this? In addition to satisfying your own vanity and entertaining yourself, you look like a joke to outsiders! People who love to show off and brag can easily offend others!

Fifth, it is easy to offend others! It is undeniable that there is such a kind of person in real life, who is born to argue! He can pick up whatever you say, and whatever you say seems wrong to him! There is nothing in this world that he does not know, and everything he knows in this world is correct, and everything you say is wrong! Not only that, he also wants to constantly instill his own opinions into you and squeeze you, just to give you an argument! Such people gradually have no friends around them. They are just born to offend others!

The words of "people with sharp mouths and soft hearts" are most likely to offend people. This is mostly used to describe women, but it also applies to men.

In everyone’s impression, the so-called tofu heart means that the person has no bad intentions, is soft-hearted, and compassionate; the sharp mouth means that the person speaks straightforwardly, shows no mercy, and hits the nail on the head. It's like stabbing a knife into people's hearts. Generally speaking, this is a complimentary word to encourage the person being addressed not to argue with the speaker. So, do people who speak like this really feel like this? I don't think so:

1. In the name of "good for you", this kind of person conceals his dark psychology of getting pleasure from other people's misfortunes and misfortunes. Randomly criticizing other people's work and life practices, speaking simply and rudely, and derogating other people's behavior and emotions are actually a kind of emotional vent that only cares about one's own pleasure and does not care about the feelings of others.

2. This kind of person has a strong desire to control. He likes people around him to obey him and imposes his own opinions on others. Randomly belittling and denying others is actually a way to undermine others' self-confidence. In order to improve oneself and achieve the purpose of others looking up to him, he can gain the psychological satisfaction of controlling others.

3. This kind of person is relatively selfish and willful at heart, unable to put himself in other people’s shoes, let alone consider other people’s emotions and difficulties. At the same time, they are emotionally unstable, easily agitated, unwilling to control themselves, and blind to the harm their words may cause to others.

Therefore, if there is such a person around you, for the sake of your own happiness, try to stay away from them.

Attention! People with various personalities have some ways of speaking and habits that can easily offend others! It’s best not to associate “speak to offend people” with “character”! Only then can you conduct a comprehensive study and pay attention to the way you speak that may offend others! In order to avoid making the same or similar mistakes!

The old ghost lists some words and communication methods that can easily offend people for your reference and warning:

1. Think "I am not evil, I am doing it for your own good" all day long. Speak without paying attention to the occasion or method

Some people speak regardless of the occasion, location, or the composition of the people around them. They just say whatever they want. Regardless of whether what he expresses is right or wrong, he always uses mantras such as "I have no evil intentions, I am a good person, I am doing it for your own good, and I speak from my heart" to show off that I have a clear conscience.

This kind of people are easy to offend others.

Maybe this person really has no evil intentions and is really doing it for the other person from the bottom of his heart.

But he ignored that everyone is "human" and is affected by emotions, face, ways of thinking, etc. None of us can reach the heights of saints.

Therefore, it is necessary to emphasize the artistry and strategy of speech, communication, and expression.

Those who whitewash themselves for various reasons, no matter how innocent or sincere they think they are, will offend others.

No matter how good the reason is, it cannot be the reason for refusing to change or study communication art and skills!

2. People who love to be more truthful and insist on imposing their own concepts and thoughts on others on some non-principled issues

Daily communication and communication between people may Express your own opinions and opinions on certain people, things, things, problems, phenomena, etc. This is normal, natural, and happens almost every day.

Some people like to be too serious. Originally, many matters do not involve any issues of principle or major issues of right and wrong, but they prefer to be serious! From his way of speaking and vigorous expression, he can make others feel that he is forcefully letting others accept his views and thoughts! ——This is very fatal!

Perhaps his thoughts, views, and opinions do have merit, but don’t force everyone to accept your own opinions! Everyone’s perception must be different!

We also often call such people "gangjing".

3. Communication and exchanges that love to steal the talk and limelight

Some people, from the bottom of their hearts, like to be the "core, center" in everyone's mind, and strongly hope that everyone will regard them as the "core" "Focus", which leads to the phenomenon that they often interrupt others, steal other people's topics, and inadvertently deny the content of others' speeches during communication.

This idea of ??wanting to be the "center, core, focus" requires a "degree". If you are the one speaking on stage, you have to find a way to draw everyone's attention to you. But when multiple people communicate, everyone is equal. Don’t let the whole communication turn into your own performance because of your inattention!

4. People who speak too modestly and always make people feel that they are wrapped up tightly

Some people always seem to be too "controlled" when they speak, and always make others feel uncomfortable. People have an impulse to say to this kind of people: If you have anything to say, just say it! Secretive! It’s uncomfortable or not! If you want to say something, just say it. If you don't say it, you will be pushed back. Those who hesitate to speak...

We can encounter this kind of people in our lives.

Let’s talk about these four categories first! There are many, many more types. I will share more later.

The more you share, the more you gain!

Being able to speak is an instinct, being able to speak is a skill. In life, it takes us one or two years to learn how to speak, but it takes us a lifetime to practice how to speak better.

Speaking itself is an art, but many people lack practice in this area, so they become disgusting "laymen", and some even miss many opportunities because of it. So Which specific people are particularly likely to offend others with their words? I have summarized three types:

The first type of people are duplicitous. They are always good at pretending when they speak, and they always imagine that no one can expose their tricks.

But you have to know that the only trick in this world that will not be exposed is sincerity. Without sincerity, no lie can stand the test of time.

Therefore, if you are duplicitous in life, sooner or later someone will expose you. In the end, you will lose not only trust, but also the recognition of your friends around you.

The second type is outspoken. They always use the inherent nature of their personality as a shield. In fact, they do not consider the feelings of others at all and only care about their own mood.

People who speak outspokenly and do not pay attention to the occasion or what others think are indeed selfish, and will be resented by many people.

The third type of people speak without a stand. They never have a principle of their own and always act according to the prevailing situation, which leaves people with the feeling of being a grassroots person.

When you interact with such people, you will feel very tired, because they never have their own opinions, so what they say always means nothing. If you talk to them, you will only change your mind. Come to be sad.

Speaking that hurts or offends others is not necessarily directly related to your personality. I have seen people who are lively, cheerful and very lovable speak and offend others, and I have also experienced people who are introverted and shy but don’t like to talk. One word can kill someone, so speaking to hurt or offend others actually depends on whether that person cares about other people's feelings, has the awareness of empathy, and knows how to respect others from the heart and language.

Many times when words offend people, the main reason is usually because of the person speaking. However, in fact, the person listening also has some factors. For example, some people are particularly sensitive and always make things worse. It is easy to conjecture other people's meaningless words into various bad meanings, and thus feel that what the other person said hurts oneself, but in fact the other person does not have any malicious intent.

“A kind word warms three winters, but a bad word hurts someone in six months.” A large part of communication between people relies on language. No one wants to hear other people say bad things about them, so in When talking to others, even if you cannot say anything beautiful, you should at least understand which words are hurtful and which are respectful words, so that you will not hurt others with your words.

Speaking to offend others means that during a conversation, the language, expressions, voice and intonation of the words used make the other party feel uncomfortable, or even cause the other party to misunderstand and think that the other party is making fun of you.

What kind of personality can easily offend others with their words?

People usually think that people who are sharp-tongued, outspoken, quick-tempered, and straightforward can easily offend others with their words.

If it is the first time you meet someone, or if you have just come into contact with them, the words of a hot-tempered person will indeed make you feel uncomfortable.

But as the time spent together increases, the mutual understanding increases. Such a quick-tempered and straightforward person makes people feel very straightforward to get along with. If you have something to say, say it face to face. You don't have to worry about gossiping behind his back, or worrying about whether he has any dissatisfaction in his heart.

So what kind of personality can easily offend others with their words?

Those who are selfish, disrespectful of others, and have low emotional intelligence and cannot hide themselves can easily offend others when they speak.

For example, I have met such a person.

During the Chinese New Year, high school classmates who had not seen each other for a long time held a class reunion. One of my classmates is much fatter than in high school.

Another classmate said very exaggeratedly, wow, why have you gained so much weight? !

Then Balabala began to talk about how she maintains her figure and loses weight.

I felt the same way when I was listening to him. This classmate was really annoying, stepping on others to improve himself. The classmate who was talked about must have felt even more uncomfortable.

To offend others, as the name suggests, means actions or words that cause resentment and dissatisfaction to other people. It may infringe on the legitimate interests of others, or it may be the stimulation of words that make people feel disgusted. What kind of personality is easy to offend others?

1. People who are straight-tempered and don’t consider other people’s feelings, but they are not bad at heart. They are arrogant. They should think more from other people’s perspective. When doing things and speaking, they should not just think about their own pleasure and be rational. Then make some decisions and communicate.

2. Villains who are greedy for self-interest at the expense of others, and people who like to talk about others behind their backs are hated by everyone. Be upright and full of positive energy, and you will win the favor of more people.

Everything harms the interests of others, or words cause harm to other people's hearts. Therefore, in addition to paying attention to your appearance, you must also pay attention to your words and deeds.

It is generally said that people have a straight personality. People who say anything can easily offend others. After saying this, they will say: I have a straight personality! What I mean is, don’t blame me for saying unpleasant things, I have a straightforward personality!

Isn’t this really a good character? This is a sign of low emotional intelligence. You don’t consider whether what you say will hurt others at all, you just want the pleasure of not making yourself unhappy! Or they are very competitive people who will speak out no matter what, but always feel like they have lost if they don’t speak out!

If you feel that it is for the other person’s benefit and you must speak, then you must also speak in a certain way. If the way is wrong, it will be difficult for others to accept and listen.

Therefore, I personally think that people with low emotional intelligence are most likely to offend others with their words!

Perfect communication is the cornerstone of success

Speaking is a commonly used communication method in people's daily lives and is an emotional channel for expressing meaning and thoughts. Speaking is an art. A good talker is a person who knows how to show off his charm without offending others. And those who can't speak will be counterproductive and have offended people without knowing it. In fact, whether one can speak or not is also related to a person’s personality. So why is it that people with a certain personality tend to offend others with their words?

I personally think he is a straightforward person. Because most people with this kind of personality are simple-minded, talk without meaning, speak straightforwardly, and say whatever comes to mind. They never have too many scruples, do not beat around the bush, and do not know how to use their strengths and avoid weaknesses. What should be said and should not be said as long as the chat box is open. Can't stop. Sometimes the speaker is unintentional, but the listener is intentional, and the person is offended without even knowing what he said. Maybe this is what people often say: "Misfortune comes from the mouth"!

When I first started doing business, because I had no experience and I was outspoken, I would sometimes dissatisfy customers just because of a single sentence, and I would lose the opportunity to make a deal and even lose the business. I remember one day, a young female customer came to my store to buy a faucet. After I introduced her to different grades of products one by one, she found it too expensive and said that other people's products were cheaper. I couldn't get angry, so I just said: "You don't understand". As you can imagine, the customer got angry on the spot. Not only did he not buy the faucet, he even said back to me: "You understand" before leaving the house. I was embarrassed and confused at that time. angry. This incident is still fresh in my memory. Just because I said "you don't understand", the business was not completed and the customer was offended. Although I am telling the truth, if the customer doesn't accept it, it proves that I don't know how to do business, I don't know how to talk to customers in a tactful tone, I don't think from other people's perspective, and I don't think about the problem from the perspective of the consumer. Being self-righteous is also a lesson learned as a businessman.

Therefore, language is also the embodiment of a person's moral sentiments, the carrier of cultural literacy, and plays a decisive role in interpersonal communication. Therefore, whether in work or in life, we cannot be quick-tongued, never consider other people's feelings, and offend others.

Offending someone is a relative term.

If you say you have a different personality, it is easy to offend others.

Then everyone offends others every day.

More appropriate in terms of general unpopularity.

It is easy to be unpopular if you don't care about other people's feelings.

When others say that the child’s academic performance is average.

You are there to say that my children’s grades are very good.

When others say that parking spaces cannot be rented.

You said it’s a good thing I bought it early.

There is a saying that goes to the heart.

It means being able to understand the other person’s situation.

Make up for each other’s psychological shortcomings through communication.

For example, suppress first and then increase.

My child’s grades couldn’t improve at first, and then he got XXXXX.

The more specific XXXXX is, the better.

There is another misunderstanding here.

It is possible to become a good old man.

Think of each other all the time.

Be wary of offending others.

When in this situation.

Also very easily offended by others.

Interpersonal relationships often have strengths and weaknesses.

There is always a core in a group.

Friends always make up their minds.

Don’t deliberately cater to others.

Maintain your own independent thinking.

Protect your bottom line.

Many times we offend others.

It is a necessary psychological defense method.

Be gentle with others.

Be treated with kindness.