He has three sons, why is there no one behind him to carry the banner?

An old man died in the unit next door the other day. He has three sons. However, at the funeral, none of them wanted to take a guide for him.

For funerals in the north, children and grandchildren should carry banners in front of the coffin and lead them all the way to the cemetery.

The boss said that when his mother died, he had already carried it and fulfilled his obligations.

The second child said that he didn't get the money and the house, so he didn't care.

The third said that although the house was his, he was dissatisfied and didn't care.

The host of the funeral ceremony finally had no choice but to put the banner in front of his coffin.

Neighbors said that he carried the banner himself.

Speaking of which, this neighbor has good conditions in all aspects. Before he retired, he was an executive of an enterprise, with a pension of more than 10 thousand, while his neighbor's pension is usually 3,000 to 5,000, which is quite high salary.

It stands to reason that under such economic conditions, life in old age should be quiet and beautiful, and it should be glamorous, not to mention the sadness and glory behind it. How did it come to this?

Gradually, around the funeral of the old man, around the pension, the right to life, etc., the plot reversed and reversed, and the neighbors followed suit to watch a realistic dog blood drama comparable to a TV series, and the plot was still in progress.

It turns out that the old man and his present wife are husband and wife halfway, but it has been nearly 20 years.

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Regardless of first marriage and remarriage, if a relationship only wants to take and doesn't want to pay, then even if it is barely maintained, it will not have high quality.

After the death of the old man, the fact that no one beat the children made everyone talk for some time.

After my wife cried in the neighborhood, she followed him 18 years, without leaving a penny. Now the stepson says that the house is her own and she is not allowed to live in it. If she wants to kick her out, please help her rent a house. If it is cheap, she has no money.

There are indeed enthusiastic neighbors who can't stand it, help her inquire, but according to her bid, it is impossible to rent a house in the city.

So some people are indignant and think that the stepson is too much, and the old man's bones are not cold, so he will start with his stepmother.

However, don't listen to one side of the story, let the bullet fly for a while.

Soon, the situation reversed.

The old neighbor who met the couple halfway said that the situation was completely different from what his wife said. The old man not only gave her money, but also an unexpected amount.

Once upon a time, when chatting with everyone, my ex-wife did the same, complaining everywhere. The old man usually asked her to talk, but she didn't interrupt or explain, but once she couldn't listen anymore. The old man said in front of everyone, you always say you don't have any money. What are the hundreds of thousands you gave when you got married? Young people are not that colorful, are they?

Besides, I spent tens of thousands of social security for you a few years ago. Now you have a monthly pension of more than 2000 yuan. I won't do it for you. Can you get it?

Everyone was dumbfounded. It is really unheard of for an old lady who has been married for two years and is almost 60 years old to receive such colorful gifts in this small city of the 18th line. The old man also gave her social security, which is a hardcore crop and a lifetime guarantee, and it is really good for her.

The problem is that the dissatisfied wife wants more, and all she does is take care of the elderly's diet and daily life.

The old man paid real money and goodwill, and made very thoughtful arrangements for his wife, so that her wife had no worries. He must want to spend his old age with her and walk hand in hand to the last moment of his life. However, how can his wife's words and deeds not disappoint him?

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Marriage is not only the combination of two people, but also the integration of two families. It makes sense to pay attention to the right match in marriage. If the social status, education level, living environment and economic conditions of the two sides are too different, it is relatively difficult to run in.

Water melts with water, but oil is difficult to melt with water.

This marriage has not been recognized and blessed by the children from the beginning. None of the sons is satisfied with the stepmother that the old man found for himself.

My late wife has been living in the countryside, and her living environment, lifestyle, cognition and habits of things are very different from those of the old people who have been living in the city.

After the novelty has passed, it is a stumbling block to life. The age difference between the two remarried old people is 8 years, which is not the main aspect of the contradiction.

My wife hates one thing. When I first came, my daughter-in-law came to see the old man and was very cold to her. She also told the old man that if you want to find someone with high shoulders, you should find someone with similar conditions. The old man is a bank executive, and then his wife is a rural old lady, empty-handed and with nothing. My wife said that my daughter-in-law didn't respect her from the beginning.

How did two people get together? More details, neighbors don't know.

More than half a year before his death, the old man was hospitalized for seven days. It is said that he had symptoms of hematuria, and then he went home, kept it at home, and didn't go downstairs much. More than a week before his death, I couldn't eat, but I don't know why I didn't go to the hospital.

In those days, my wife didn't take care of her wife, but was busy hiring a car and transporting all the electrical appliances of the old man. The old man is conscious, but he can't get up, just watching. Later, even Simmons was removed from the bed, and a mattress was laid on the hard bed for the old man to lie down.

The old man died at home, and the unit leader came to mourn. The children looked at the empty room and held back their anger on the spot because of the leader's face.

But when it was over, the stepson put her card on the table and asked her to move out. Said the old man had passed away, and this place had nothing to do with her.

Usually, the relationship is not harmonious, all for the elderly, and others don't pester her, so they quickly vacate the house.

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Life is inseparable from food, clothing, housing and transportation, which is a serious practical problem faced by remarried elderly couples. Especially for the elderly who want to find long-term meal tickets, they should plan ahead and get legal protection. In this way, they can rest in peace and reduce disputes behind them.

The stepson asked his wife to move out of the house for his own reasons.

Although this house is occupied by the elderly, it was bought by my stepson during the housing reform, and my father and ex-wife have been living in it.

The stepson said that his father is here and it is no problem to live in it. With his father gone, it is reasonable for him to take back the house.

When the stepmother came, they had grown up and got married, and they didn't fulfill their support obligations, and he didn't have any support obligations. Besides, the stepmother has her own children, and they should support her.

Both the children of the old man and his wife proposed to the unit where the old man was at that time that he should inherit the pension alone. My wife said that she had an old man's will, which said that all the pensions would be given to her.

The children of the old man are dismissive. The old man's pension and his wife's pension add up to nearly 20 thousand yuan, and his wife has been taking it for several years. They live frugally and spend little money. They hired a nanny less than a year ago, and the old man died. They don't settle accounts with her and want a pension.

Now this realistic family ethics drama is not over yet.

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As a bystander, while I feel sorry for them, I also have some ideas of my own.

As the saying goes, it is difficult for an honest official to break housework. Everyone does not fully understand all the ins and outs, and the parties have no obligation to explain their doubts to everyone. However, what I just saw has aroused people's speculation and become the talk of everyone after dinner.

1, attaches great importance to family privacy. The old man gave his wife a bride price and applied for social security, all of which were said by himself. When the relationship is good, it is a topic of adding luster, and when it is contradictory, it becomes a matter of mutual accusation. If you want a good life, don't tell outsiders everything at home.

Besides adding gossip, we also let everyone see jokes.

2. Cherish accompanying marriage. It is fate that we can come together. Both sides should support each other, manage together and live a good old age. Don't just try your best to get the maximum benefit from each other. The human heart is a steelyard, and sincere treatment can change it.

It is human nature that the old people want to find a wife in their old age. After all, children have their own lives. But what kind of wife to find, we must discuss with the children, we must be emotional and rational, and then handle the property ownership in advance. I believe that children can understand the pains of the elderly.

4. If there is any dispute, it cannot be settled through negotiation. It is best to turn to the law. After all, law is the final bottom line, and no one can ignore it.

It's not that remarried couples can't have a happy old age, but the premise is to deal with family conflicts, care for each other, don't just take it, think more about each other, so that they can stay together for a long time, win the understanding of their children, and avoid the bleak evening scene in which one party leaves first and then leaves.