After bad luck, you can see people best.

Nine times out of ten, life is not satisfactory, always think about it, face it bravely and smile bravely.

My good friend Kang called me: "These days, bad things keep happening. My mother is seriously ill in hospital. I rode my bike to the hospital, accidentally turned my leg and broke my mobile phone. When I came back, I found that 1000 yuan in my pocket was missing. I am really angry to death. Why am I so unlucky? The house leaks every night. " On the weekend, I was idle at home and said, "Come and have a good talk."

After a humble room, a plate of fried peanuts, a plate of cold cucumber and several glasses of white wine, we talked more and more, and I began to help Kang analyze the causes and countermeasures of his recent misfortune. I summarized the following points:

1. Bad days can only be summed up as a disaster. Unfortunately, people will describe it this way: I hit a telephone pole in broad daylight and was bruised all over; Drink some cold water and plug your teeth; Happiness never comes in pairs, but it never rains alone; The house will leak water on rainy days ... If you are unlucky, you will often face one disaster after another. Why? Think about it, in the final analysis, there is only one disaster. If you can't solve this problem, you will feel that everything else is not going well. It's psychological, but it's not that bad. Or because of this disaster, your brain operation system collapsed, and other things came and were handled in a mess. It never rains but it pours. I told Kang that the root of the misfortune you are experiencing now is that your mother is ill, which distracts you, and as a result, you can't handle other things well. When this matter is dealt with, other things will be solved naturally.

Second, what happened on a bad day, we must calm down first. If you are unlucky, you should calm down first, let yourself calm down and think of some remedies. If I become calm and deal with the disaster, I believe I can come up with a good solution. I told Kang that the old man was ill, as all our children would be. We will also lie in the hospital bed when we are old. This is a natural law, not a bad thing. Calm down first, and discuss with your wife, brothers and sisters about the hospitalization of the elderly, how to pay for it and how to care for it. After these things are discussed, you will settle down and deal with other things you encounter.

Third, bad days should analyze the causes of disasters. Some disasters happen by accident and some are inevitable. Anyway, we must accept what has happened. Only when you accept it will you feel less sad and face everything calmly. There will always be many disappointments in life, because this society itself is a harsh society, following the jungle law of the jungle. The cold-blooded society has reached the natural stage, and all complaints are in vain. Only by trying to change your destiny is the right way: there has never been a savior in the world, and everything can only be done by yourself. I told Kang that no matter what happens, don't complain, find out the crux of the problem, and then resolve it step by step.

Fourth, don't envy others on bad days. We are all ordinary people, living an ordinary life, busy eating, drinking and sleeping every day; Rice, oil, salt, sauce and vinegar tea. Sometimes it's a little musty. "Building a car behind closed doors is a disaster." After bad luck, it is just a few days of depression in my heart. Losing your temper with your wife and children will pass in a blink of an eye. All the bad things I encounter can be solved through hard work. But those big shots, they are concerned about the security of the world, or the security of a region or an industry. When they are proud, they are high-spirited and full of ambition, thinking that they are the only ones in the world. However, once you fail, something bad will happen, either going to jail or jumping off a skyscraper. I told Kang that what you are experiencing at present is actually a trivial matter, which can be solved through hard work. According to what you said, my aunt's illness is not so serious. She will be discharged after a while, but you have to spend some money. As for your mobile phone is broken and your money is lost, consider it as spending money to eliminate disasters. Compared with the misfortunes of those great people, what is ours?

You don't know you are worthy of love until a bad day. Usually it's hello, I'm good, everyone is good, eating meat in large pieces and drinking in large bowls, regardless of each other, as close as brothers. And once you go to Qin Qiong to sell horses and Guan Yu to Maicheng, someone will sit back and watch your jokes, and someone will take advantage of the fish when it hurts. In this way, we will understand who is a friend in need, who is a shameless villain, who is the most unpleasant advice for most people, and who is sweet talk. I will know how to make friends, how to walk well, how to spend money, and who is worthy of your love. The people who help you in your most difficult time are the people you cherish forever.

Sixth, the unlucky days understand the truth that fortunes depend on each other. Laozi's Tao Te Ching, Chapter 58: "Misfortune is a place to lean on, and happiness is where the misfortune lies." It means that misfortune and happiness are interdependent and can be transformed into each other. Metaphor means that bad things can have good results, and good things can also have bad results. The most famous example is the story of a blessing in disguise. Recently, I read a story about three people going on a trip. In the face of bad land and bad weather, they only had an umbrella and a crutch. But when I finally came back, it was the man with an umbrella who was soaked to the skin, the man with a cane covered in mud, and the man who didn't take anything came back refreshed. It turns out that when it rains heavily, people with umbrellas don't want to hide, people with crutches dare to go anywhere, and people with nothing desperately run to find a place to live. Many times, people are like this, just tired of things.

Seven, hit yourself on a bad day. It seems easy to beat yourself, but how many people know the difficulties behind it? Overcoming yourself is not as simple as it seems. It is not just a simple word. It also symbolizes that you have overcome your inner timidity, your inner fear, your inner cowardice and your former self. In order to gain greater courage. Overcome yourself and gain the courage to exist; Overcome yourself and reflect on the meaning of your existence; Overcome yourself and surpass that cowardly self. Don't people exist to defeat themselves? We can be knocked down at any time, only ourselves. If you break down, no one can save you.

We're strong. We have super powers. When something bad comes, we will adapt and solve it quickly. We don't think so. We are frank and open, and we have great wisdom. We always believe that everything will disappear and the sun will shine on us forever without obstacles.