When you grow up, what kind of people can't make friends?

First, people who keep saying "truth". Constantly reasoning is essentially an act of sacrificing others' feelings to satisfy oneself. The terrible thing is that the other party's "for your own good" has pushed us into the icehouse of truth. I remember one time, I went to the menstrual home for dinner. My cousin's math paper was handed out that day, which was very good. Over 95 points for the first time. But menstruation said, "I did very well this time." But you must stick to it. Doing well in the exam once doesn't mean later. Look at Tucki next door. He gets more than 90 points every time. You should continue to work hard ... My cousin just wants to be praised. I just looked at the light in his eyes, faded bit by bit, and then lowered my head and stopped talking. What you think is just right is just blocking the other party's channels to express their current emotions and feelings. Because the need to talk is not met, this unreasonable behavior will only suffocate a relationship.

The second kind is people who say hurtful things. Such people often take "this is my character" and "my temper is straightforward" as a shield. This kind of person, seemingly "true temperament", is actually extremely selfish and doesn't care about other people's feelings. Obviously, there can be more acceptable rhetoric, but they insist on being sarcastic. For example: I'm sorry, don't mind if I speak straight. Your makeup is so thick today, and your face is as white as a wall. Hahahaha ... The subtext of their words is: I can scold you, but don't take it personally. It is wrong to scold me. Sorry, I mind. What they think of as honesty is actually self-righteous; I never spent a second thinking about whether the people who heard these words could accept it. This kind of people generally lack proper boundaries between people. They cross the border without permission and invade your private domain and sensitive restricted area. Because learning can't be respected, today I will tell you what to do, and tomorrow I will even intensify my efforts to interfere with your other decisions. In interpersonal relationships, we don't have to be a person that everyone likes, but the bottom line is to be a person who is not hated. Learning to restrain ourselves and take others to heart is the basis for us to establish good interpersonal relationships.