How many marriages are just because the timing is just right?

This weekend, America's small partners returned to China, and the investment project was to be roadshowed in China, so they organized a few close friends to have dinner together.

The people present at the dinner included two married couples, a couple about to get married, and a single dog. And this self-deprecating single dog is a very good classmate who got along well in the Great American Empire. During the dinner, he kept clamoring to introduce his girlfriend, but to his surprise, perhaps in the blink of an eye, all his friends who had gone to college found their own place, even Tagg, who had never expected to get married in his life.

But no one expected that Taco was the first father in our group.

When Taco embarrassedly announced that he was going to be a father, I could still hear his fear and confusion about his future marriage, as if everything would be dragged to the battlefield before he was ready.

But in fact, no one's life is like this.

At the right age, we should adapt to the fate that should exist at that age. Since we were born, no one can escape the established trajectory.

For example, senior high school entrance examination, college entrance examination, getting married, working, having children and retiring. In a sense, these links are just like those in life, stuck in your growth path, and no matter which link goes wrong, it will affect your life.

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Xiao Kou is a single woman who is about to turn 30. Since college, she left her hometown with her bags on her back and embarked on the road of studying in the south. After graduation, she drifted north alone and went to another strange city. In my impression, independence, independence, fortitude and optimism are all her labels. She used to be the best debater in the debate team, a master in computer science and a professional female player in the badminton team.

She leads a colorful life in her own world.

She said that a person's life is very free, although he sometimes feels lonely.

Maybe the last relationship caused her too much harm. She can't seem to handle the relationship between two people. She is used to the cold war when quarreling, and tends to be alone more often than to talk about her inner feelings. She is afraid that her vulnerability will bring trouble to the other party, and she is also afraid that once she becomes dependent, she will bring harm to herself.

Even as she grew older, when she found that she could live well alone, finding a partner became less and less important. Facing the pressure of urging marriage at home, she also became numb from initial anxiety, and even found a good excuse, "I'm sorry, I seem to be a girl who likes girls."

Xiao Kou is really a very maverick and brave girl.

In the face of the pressure from friends around her to step into the grave of marriage and introduce various blind date objects at home, she can still hold her own line of defense.

She said, I won't start a relationship easily, unless I have confidence in myself, I will invest enough time and energy in this relationship. I have enough love and dedication to this boy, and I will definitely ask the other party for complete and corresponding feedback.

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But how many people around us can withstand the urgency of time and make do with the feeling that the conditions are ok?

And how many marriages are just because of the right time and the right place?

Come to think of it carefully, now, after 90, I am old enough to be a parent.

Single little R, born in the early 1990s, also faces the same dilemma. I still vaguely remember that last year, her request for the other half was 180, clean, gentle in speech, with connotation and responsibility, knowing jokes and interest, and of course loving her; This year has just passed, and when we talk about it again, it becomes as long as it is a man, taller than her and older than her.

It seems that just one week after the Chinese New Year, she has changed from a girl full of infinite reverie about love to an old girl eager to get married.

Moreover, I believe that if there is such a boy who is not much different from her expectations, she will definitely lead the boy to meet his parents and enter the rhythm of talking about marriage during the Spring Festival next year.

Because she can't afford to wait.

Isn't there a saying that feelings can be cultivated slowly?

But if a marriage is at the beginning, it is doomed not to experience vigorous, ups and downs, ambiguous love, and directly enter the indifferent family. If you really think about it, people will feel infinite fear.

Just like a tall building without foundation, in the fast-paced life of materialistic cross-flow, such feelings can really be said to have fallen.

Therefore, in your youth, if you encounter uncontrolled love that makes your heart beat faster, please pursue it bravely.

Because, perhaps in the blink of an eye, you have reached the marriageable age.