Regret of older women: I was addicted to living with blacks when I was young, and now no one wants me in the wedding room. Why?

I'm sure everyone will hear about the mention of older women. In China, the group of older leftover women is getting bigger and bigger. According to a set of data, the number of older leftover women in China has exceeded 800,000, ranking first in China and first in the world. This has also caused extensive discussion.

Nowadays, older women are becoming a social phenomenon. In the eyes of most people, older women are not worthy of pity, and people have a bad impression on them. Because the reports about older women in these years are all negative. This makes the social group think that the older women are left behind because of their high vision.

In fact, the reasons why older women stay behind are very complicated, not just the above reasons. The idea of killing a group of people with a stick is not worth promoting. We still have to treat older women dialectically.

We don't deny that some older women stay behind because of negative reasons such as money worship, but there are still many older women who have other reasons.

In big cities, many older women have good conditions, such as high education, high income and good family. But incredibly, older women with better conditions are more likely to be left behind.

In fact, these older women have good conditions. First, many men will be discouraged and feel that they are not worthy of her. But their own requirements will be very high, and few men in the city can deserve it. So it is easy to be left behind.

Of course, this is only part of the reason for the leftover women, and there are other reasons that we don't understand. If they don't make it clear, we'll never know the real reason.

Qingyu is 32 years old and works in a securities company with a considerable income. Moreover, she is also excellent, with a master's degree and studied abroad. My family is ok, and my parents are middle-class. Plus, as a local, it should be easy to find a boyfriend.

But Qingyu is still single, and the reason why she was left behind has always been difficult for her to talk about.

In fact, the reasons why sapphire was left behind are very complicated, including her own reasons and family reasons. Because she is an only child, her parents love her very much, but at the same time they have high expectations for her. So she was strictly disciplined from an early age. Under the strict state of family education, sapphire has been listening to her parents since she was a student.

After she was admitted to the university and entered the university of her choice, her parents never stopped asking her to study abroad. Therefore, during college, Qingyu never talked about love. Because my parents don't allow me, I think falling in love will delay her future.

After graduating from college, Qingyu went to study in a school in England. Alone on the other side of the ocean, living in a strange environment, without parental constraints, Qingyu finally ushered in the first real freedom in life.

And the first thing she did was fall in love.

To tell the truth, when I was in high school and college, when I was in Seeds of Love, Qingyu also fantasized about falling in love with a boy she liked. But because the family education is too strict, there is no chance at all. Now a person is in a foreign country, without parental discipline, and she really wants to talk about a love.

Foreigners are very open-minded, and Qingyu soon found a boyfriend. This also satisfied her dream of falling in love. Qingyu talked about four boyfriends during her study abroad, all of whom were foreigners. Among them, there is a black American. Qingyu likes him very much and once lived with him.

Because sapphire is going back to China, this relationship is gone. But these feelings have made sapphire taste the ups and downs of love.

After returning home, Qingyu went to work in a securities company. Because of high academic qualifications and strong ability, I was promoted and raised soon.

Qing Yu was 25 when she returned to China. In the following years, she concentrated on her work and had no time to fall in love. So sapphire has always been single.

By the time the career stabilized, Qingyu was 29 years old. At this time, her parents have urged her to find a boyfriend every day. But Qingyu felt that she was too good and needed to find a man worthy of her.

So sapphire contacted many successful men, and several of them were very interested in sapphire. However, after in-depth understanding, especially the emotional experience of Qingyu when he was studying abroad, these men all stayed away from Qingyu without exception.

At first, she didn't care. This experience of going abroad has always been something she is proud of. And she said it when she lived with her black boyfriend. Many people in the company also know about it.

But because of this, many men are far away from sapphire. This made her feel very puzzled. In the following years, she tried to find a suitable man in various ways, but she never got it.

At first, sapphire thought her requirements were too high, so she lowered the standards again and again. But it's still the same as before

Jade once met a man she liked, and the man was interested in her at first. After a period of contact, the man learned about what happened during Qingyu's study abroad. Not surprisingly, I alienated sapphire.

Qingyu asked him why. The man told her frankly: I mind if you live with a black man. I'm sure every man will mind this.

Qingyu realized why he was so excellent and still left behind. She felt a little uncomfortable, and her proud experience was so heinous in the eyes of men.

And cohabitation often happens in China. Is it because the object is a foreigner?

Qingyu thinks it may be that domestic men are too inferior and feel inferior to foreigners, so they will mind this kind of thing.

However, with the growth of age, her marriage problem has never been solved. Qingyu is now hiding her study abroad experience, hoping to find a suitable man to marry.

Older leftover women have become a social phenomenon, which is widespread in China's first tier cities. However, for this group of older women, most people have a bad impression of them. But I think it should be treated equally.