A 45-year-old girl, Xue, is physically and mentally integrated.

At seven o'clock in the evening, I resolutely arrived at the coffee shop on time.

"About the question you said-what are you living for?" She took off her coat and said to me, "I never thought about it!" " "

I paused. When I was on the subway and waiting for a cup of coffee, I imagined the possibility of answering this question from nine directions and prepared three interview outlines, which seemed useless.

Seeing her bright eyes opposite, the short hair stretched naturally on the green sweater is like a small plant in winter. Instead, I feel a little guilty, as if I shouldn't ask this question. For a while, I just stood there, but I didn't know how to continue.

"I live to experience different feelings," resolutely explained naturally. "I live according to my own wishes, unlike some people who live like they are sealed. I don't feel this way. "

"What different feelings have you experienced?" I found a topic.

"You can't live in vain. Every day there are new experiences, new attempts, and a little progress every day. Something must be done. Otherwise, you won't live in vain? ! "This seems to be an axiom and irrefutable.

About 8 years ago, I resolutely started to be an independent consultant, providing consulting services for enterprises, and I also experienced various interesting things.

In 20 14, when the audio APP was just emerging, I resolutely made a special topic "Resolutely Knowing and Doing" on an APP "Blueberries" at that time. The content is related to the workplace, 5 minutes per issue, 100. After finishing this topic, I firmly say that I feel that my communication and expression skills have been greatly improved, and I usually talk little nonsense.

20 15, after the platform was launched, it resolutely began to become an expert in the industry. In the field of career planning, I have been interviewed by more than 500 visitors without a bad review. During my time as an expert, I guided them out of their confusion, as if I had experienced more than 500 different life stories.

On 20 16, we resolutely started to run our own community "Dandelion World" to help the small partners in the community link more resources. Nearly 500 partners explored more possibilities together, and everyone met many interesting people and things here.

20 17, resolutely began to study the theory of natural advantage and positive psychology; Cooperate with china national radio as a guest; I did "Resolute Workplace Theory" on Koala FM. ...

Listening to so many different experiences for the first time, recalling the amazing sharing mentioned in the previous chat is just the tip of the iceberg of many experiences.

"How can a person live so hard?" In the process of listening and resolutely sharing, this question has been lingering in my mind. "Isn't there a big turning point?" "

"No one can be smooth sailing, and there will definitely be ups and downs." Resolutely replied: "but I have never hit the south wall, because I have been going north."

There was a flash of light in my head, and I felt a little light skip, as if I couldn't catch it.

"The last sentence is a cold joke, haha ~" resolutely looked at me and laughed.

Firmly speaking, I have seen four words carved by someone in the desk of junior high school: joy begets sorrow. In the experience of middle school, I found that I have such a rule: I am prone to accidents when I am particularly high. Therefore, she learned to adjust herself from an early age, and when she was particularly high, she controlled it and didn't overdo it.

In everything, we are actually managing our own desires, and we can reach a settlement with ourselves and adjust to the achievable range. She will make a special effort to negotiate and not let herself suffer. For decades, this ability has become a subconscious reaction, which can adapt to all kinds of changeable and complicated situations.

The original is definitely not to set a goal, choose a good path, and then implement it as planned. There is no such rigid design in her life, because she can always know her direction, her heart is her compass, and every point can clearly point out the direction of "North". So, she can go straight north.

"I've never hit the south wall because I've been walking north." Remembering what I said resolutely just now, this is not a cold joke, this is her living answer.

Can others do this? What can I learn from it?

Hearing my question, I resolutely found a picture from my mobile phone and showed it to me. "Show your sincerity and it will save you; Otherwise, it will destroy you. "

I know that she writes her feelings on a piece of paper every morning and gets a lot of praise in her circle of friends. I am also familiar with what she showed me, which was taken from a philosophy book "Events in Your Life" that we were both reading.

Show your heart! This is the answer given to me resolutely.

He resolutely worked as a counselor in colleges and universities. After graduating from master's degree, I worked as the director of human resources in Jiaming Group, and worked as a management consultant in Zuoyou Consulting. Now I am an independent consultant. Every choice, she listens to her inner voice and takes the guidance from her heart as her actual choice.

Resolutely, it is the unity of body and mind, unlike many people who live so tangled; Resolute and simple, do it if you want, and withdraw if you don't want to do it; Resolutely be open-minded, solve problems when you encounter them, and recognize them if you can't solve them; Be determined to be free and never set a framework for yourself.

"The people I date, I can see that they are anxious and helpless, and they can't find a way out in trouble. I can help him see one side and help them create possibilities. " I firmly recall the more than 500 people I met when I went online. Many people regard her as a life mentor, a guide, or a noble person.

I think she can do this because of her inner existence, which makes her eyes clear and bright, and makes the confused people see the light.

There is no persistent goal, but I have resolutely accomplished what many people can't do; Without a clear plan, but resolutely out of a clear future; There was no rehearsal, but everything was well done.

She said that she had been on the road and enjoyed the feeling of being on the road. Where are you going? I don't know, since I'm on the road, I'll take every step. How to get there? Follow your inner voice, that's the best guide.

Resolutely give a few suggestions to everyone who is also on the road:

1. You don't know because you really don't know! Many people are limited by cognition;

2. Sitting here thinking that nothing will change;

3. Many things can basically be done as long as you work hard. Many people fail to do things, mostly because of fear.

Say this firmly, like a brave girl!

Resolutely have a 9-year-old child's curiosity about the world. It is this curiosity that makes her look forward to exploring the unknown world. Everything has more possibilities to live without restrictions. One of the words she mentioned most often is "no sense of age", which means no sense of age. 45-year-olds shouldn't be like this. Who says a 45-year-old woman must be a greasy "middle-aged woman"? You can still live a wonderful life at 45. ...

I think a vigorous and vigorous way of living is very similar to the view expressed by Zhuangzi in "Happy Travel": since you are alive, you should live well, live truly and freely!

Resolutely said: "Zhuangzi is right!"

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