Parent-child joke father and daughter

Parents and children are the closest relationship in the world. But with the growth of children, the form of this intimate relationship should be changed, otherwise it will lead to many unexpected problems.

Recently, a netizen publicly posted an interaction between a father and a daughter on the Internet, saying that he couldn't understand why people are doing this now, whether the concept is backward or the father is too outrageous. The video content attracted many people to watch. As a result, many people said that the interaction between father and daughter was really embarrassing, and some even began to worry about the little girl.

It is said that this scene happened on the train carriage. The little girl looks about 8 years old. She used to watch cartoons on her mobile phone. The man next to me should be the girl's father. Maybe he is tired, so he will lie down and rest. Things here are normal, but the next scene makes people feel uncomfortable. The child's father was lying on his daughter's lap, and the girl held her father's head and bowed her head to her dear father's mouth ... The father didn't stop him and let the girl continue to kiss.

If the girl is under 3 or 4 years old, people may not react, and they may think it is cute, but because the girl is older, this scene is a bit subtle and easy to make people feel uncomfortable. Father and daughter "show their love" in public on the train, and their manners are too close, causing controversy among netizens.

Some people think that this reflects the close relationship between father and daughter: "Isn't my daughter my father's little lover?" This shows that the relationship between father and daughter is very close and enviable. "

However, some people think that fatherly love cannot be without boundaries. Girls have grown up, and the mode of getting along with their fathers should also be changed, otherwise it may lead to some problems.

I don't know when it started, and a new concept became popular on the Internet, that is, "Daughter is dad's little lover". In fact, the idea that the daughter is the father's little lover is not conducive to the growth of children.

1, gender confusion

Although there are still many people who think that children have no gender difference in front of their parents, the fact is that gender exists objectively. It is one thing for parents to love and be close to their children, but they should also establish a correct and clear gender awareness for their children. If the child has grown to a certain stage, the relationship between father and daughter, mother and child is still the same as that in infancy, which is easy to cause confusion in the child's gender consciousness.

I don't know the normal distance of heterosexual intercourse.

Children grow by learning and imitating their surroundings. Parents' behavior and behavior patterns are the first things that children come into contact with in this world, and children understand the world through their parents. If parents have no sense of boundaries in front of their children, it will be difficult for children to grasp the normal distance of the opposite sex when they grow up, and it will be easy for others to feel uncomfortable because of improper behavior, and eventually there will be difficulties in interpersonal communication.

3. Children can't be independent

Parents' love for their children should change according to their different growth stages. When children are in infancy, of course, they need all-round care from their parents. Eating and drinking Lazar depends on their parents. However, as children grow up, it is necessary to cultivate their independence, from going to the toilet by themselves, taking a bath by themselves, sleeping in separate rooms ... Children are getting older and older, having a life independent of their parents, and finally living alone without their parents. This is the normal road. If parents do everything for their children, no matter how old they are, it is not love, but harm to make them inseparable from themselves.

4. Affect family relations

A normal family, the relationship between husband and wife and the relationship between parents and children are relatively independent. Every family member has his own position in the family. Parents are too close to their children, often because of problems in family relations. For example, the relationship between husband and wife is not harmonious, or in some single-parent families, the child will be regarded as a partner by his parents, and his body will be doubled, which will become the spiritual sustenance of his parents. This is definitely not a good thing for the parents themselves or the children. It will also affect children's views on marriage and love, making it impossible for children to establish their own families normally.

In fact, maintaining a reasonable boundary between father and daughter can help children build up their awareness of self-protection and let them know how to keep a reasonable distance from outsiders.