How to laugh at yourself without belittling yourself?

A rational person will never insult the audience at the beginning of a speech, or say something disgusting to make the audience rally against him and his remarks.

Madeline

The Berlin Air Force Officers Club is holding a reception, and the guest of honor is the famous General Udait. During the toast, a young soldier accidentally spilled beer on the general's bald head. The soldiers were terrified out of their wits and at a loss, and the audience was dumbfounded.

Facing the shivering soldiers, Udaite smiled and said, "Brother, do you think this treatment will be effective?" Everyone present laughed, and the embarrassing situation was immediately broken.

Self-mockery is self-mockery. But the original intention of drunkards is not to drink, but to laugh at themselves on the surface, but the subtext has another charm. Therefore, self-mockery has special expressive function and use value in conversation.

If someone asks you something, you want to refuse, saying it won't be embarrassing, but refusing in a self-deprecating and euphemistic way not only expresses your refusal intention, but also makes the other person willing to accept it.

Once, someone wanted to invite Lincoln to speak at a newspaper editor's meeting. Lincoln thought that he was not an editor and it was inappropriate to attend the meeting. In order to explain why he didn't attend the meeting, he told you a short story:

"On one occasion, I met a woman riding a horse in the forest. I stopped to make way, but she also stopped to stare at my face. She said,' Now I believe that you are the ugliest person I have ever seen.' I said,' You may be right, but what can I do?' ? She said,' Of course, you can't change this ugly face, but you may still stay at home! "

Everyone laughed at Lincoln's humorous self-mockery.

In conversation, when the other party intentionally or unintentionally offends you and puts you in an awkward position, it is an appropriate choice to get rid of the predicament by laughing at yourself.

In the early 1950s, American President Truman met with the arrogant General MacArthur. During the meeting, MacArthur took out his pipe, loaded it with tobacco, put it in his mouth and took off the match. When he was about to strike a match, he stopped and said to Truman, "Do you mind smoking?"

Obviously, this is not a sincere request for advice. When he is ready to smoke, it will be rude and overbearing if the other person says he cares.

This rude arrogance embarrassed Truman. However, he glanced at MacArthur and laughed at himself: "Go ahead. General, people spray more smoke on my face than any American. "

When the embarrassing facts have happened, we can protect our self-esteem by comforting ourselves and show the generosity of the self-mocker in a self-deprecating way.

People sometimes feel annoyed and depressed because some things are not satisfactory. If they say it, it will make people laugh. Using self-mockery can not only comfort yourself, but also avoid jokes from others, killing two birds with one stone.

When you are in an embarrassing situation, if you cover up your gaffes too much, you will be self-defeating and make yourself more embarrassed; A few flattering words in a casual self-deprecating tone can enliven the atmosphere and eliminate embarrassment.

There is a writer in America who is a big fat man. Like romulo, he is not ashamed of being short. He is "willing to be a dwarf all his life" and is not ashamed of being fat.

Once he said to his friend, "I am a person who is three times kinder than others." Whenever I give up my seat to a lady in the car, three ladies can sit in one of my seats. "

Easy self-mockery is a powerful expression of his confidence.

Making good use of self-mockery can add elegance to conversation. If you don't use it well, it will disgust the other party and cause obstacles to conversation.

Self-mockery should judge the situation, use it at the right time, and not use it indiscriminately. For example, in the case of intercession, discussion, investigation, visit, etc., it is not appropriate to use self-deprecation.

In addition, self-mockery should avoid taking a cynical attitude, and positive self-mockery contains the strong self-esteem and self-love of the self-mocker. Self-mockery is just a seemingly negative, but actually positive means to promote the conversation to change in a good direction.