Why are funerals in rural areas more lively than weddings? What do they mean?

Many rural areas are like this. Funerals are more lively than weddings. A family in our village held a wake and asked people to sing folk songs for three days and nights. The main reasons for this phenomenon are the traditional ideas of the older generation and the pretentious display of their filial piety.

1. Traditional ideas of the older generation

There has always been a folk saying that "the dead are the biggest", which shows that we attach importance to the dead. In some places, the older generation thinks that the soul will come back in the first few days after death, so it is necessary to arrange delicious food for him when he comes back, and to let his soul go with peace of mind and never come back. Therefore, the more lively the funeral, it shows that the soul of the deceased will not feel lonely when it goes to the road of the dead.

2. In order to show your "filial piety" to others.

In layman's terms, it means "show it to others". Some people are not filial to the living, and even dislike them in every way. When the man died, they began to hold a big banquet, invite guests, play funeral music, cry in front of the mourning hall, show a state of sadness and reluctance to outsiders, and show their hypocritical filial piety. However, people's hearts are discerning, and everyone knows whether they were treated well by him during their lifetime, but they just don't say it. I once witnessed a funeral. A group of people "mourned" outside the door, saying it was mourning. In fact, they were playing mahjong together, and some people were drinking and guessing boxing. It was very lively, and people who didn't know thought something important had happened. This kind of behavior is really incredible, and I feel very uncomfortable when I see it. There is no point in making such a big ostentation and extravagance after death. He can't see or enjoy it. Therefore, when people are still alive, showing some forms to express their filial piety will only make people feel ironic, rather than waiting for others to be gone. For some rural areas, funerals are too noisy, which is a local custom, and we can't say anything. With the development of time, unreasonable things will always be eliminated.