Having two sons in the countryside is often said to be tired. Why?

I was born in the countryside, where I have two sons. That really makes you tired, and the reality is there. When we in China raise our son, we should not only raise him from an early age, but also help him build a good house and marry a good wife. Otherwise, we are not qualified parents. In this society, it is really not easy to do this, let alone two sons. It's hard enough to have two houses.

In the past, rural people thought it was good to have a son, because the son is a strong worker and belongs to his own family. There is no need to be busy when the daughter wants to get married and help others have children. Now, the younger generation will not go to work in the countryside because of school or part-time job, but all go to work and settle in the city. So life pressure and economic pressure are self-evident.

So, why is it so tiring to have two sons? In fact, the same is true of cities.

1, raising children is expensive.

From birth to adulthood, a child has hundreds of thousands of living expenses and education expenses. The economic cost of living for two children is higher. For parents with limited economic income, they can only raise their children through hard work such as working. Now the cost of raising children is really too high, and the burden of two children is even greater.

2. The cost of marriage is high.

At present, China's population structure is unbalanced, the marriageable age is more men than women, and the bride price is rising. And now many married people ask for a house. The house is not built in the countryside, but in the city. A small apartment is always millions. For rural parents with limited economic conditions, it is simply more difficult than going to heaven. Not to mention two children. At present, how many older single men in rural areas are rejected because of poor family conditions? There are several near my home, and girls have brought them back to meet their parents. In the end, they all chose to leave because of poor family conditions. That is the reality.

I have a distant relative who has two sons. He is a single biography of three generations. When it was his turn, he gave birth to two sons in succession. He was very happy. But now the eldest son is 35 years old and the youngest son is 32 years old. He hasn't found a wife yet. In order to marry a daughter-in-law, he has been heartbroken and bought a house in the county, but the daughter-in-law still has no landing. When he was drinking, he told us these things almost half crying and half laughing.

If there are two sons at home, the bride price may make parents overwhelmed and the bride price requirements cannot be realized. Sorry, this marriage can't be concluded. It is conceivable that the parents of these two boys will be under great pressure. In addition, rural income sources are generally unstable and income is low. Hundreds of thousands of savings, most of which are hard-earned money. In this era of extreme shortage of daughter-in-law, if children fail to live up to expectations, they are ordinary farmers, two sons, and their parents are really tired.

Most sons are not as filial as their daughters.

Nowadays, many societies that raise children for the elderly may become the point where many children are unwilling to raise them. It's hard to get a son to get married, but it depends on the face of the daughter-in-law, and even the couple have to help look after the children separately. ...

Many adopted sons end up unfilial, especially in rural areas. They are poor, and their two sons often quarrel about their property. The two brothers hate each other and don't adopt their parents. I have seen many such examples around me.