The leader accused me of being introverted for two months and not knowing my colleagues. What should I do?

People hire you to work, and they give you a commission. They don't owe you a penny. I would like to say a few words to teach you how to be a man. This is really an experience of charging a mobile phone. Hmm (expressing hesitation, etc.) ... a little nice. It won't hurt if you don't speak halal, because you can't go wrong if you don't say it. However, in the workplace, I can't get on.

I am destined to bend my head all my life, my friend, you still have to express it. People who love to express themselves may not be perfect, but in the eyes of others, they are real enough. It's good. This is very important. Then I'll guess your temper at random, and then we'll discuss the reason why you don't like to talk, and the antidote will be available.

You see, your title says that the leader accuses you, accuses ... well, this is really not an accusation! This is teaching, teaching, guiding, suggesting ... this description is appropriate. Because you are introverted, it doesn't matter what the leader does. When we talk about cocoon peeling, you are the human body 3D modeling machine in people's eyes. There is a lot of work to do, and people don't care about you. Any more is a loss-making business. If you don't see through this interest, you think it is a kind of accusation. Explain what?

It shows that you are really afraid of criticism. I'm really not guessing. Too many friends who dare not express their opinions in public have told me similar things after getting familiar with them. In the oriental concept, saying the wrong thing does not mean not talking, and not talking does not mean talking.

But speaking is a craft. Don't talk if you can't learn. Otherwise, nonsense, wrong, what is the ending? Be accused. Look at this matter between you and the leader. Although you didn't say anything wrong, you think you did something wrong, and the leader put forward opinions that are contrary to your style. You see, Emma is finished. She did something wrong. She was scolded. She was scolded. ...

No, Brother Duck, society is not so black and white! When others disagree with your point of view, it doesn't mean accusing or mocking and alienating these negative points of view! Listen, you make 3d models, right? Let's put ourselves in others' shoes.

For example, an original painting with a work says, Brother, please give me a 3dmax of this model. Look at the picture. You said, girl, there is something wrong with your proportion of characters, and the perspective is not done well. This model looks like Joe, and she is not beautiful! Come back somewhere else. When you say this, do you have the slightest taste of accusing the other party? No. About this matter, this matter is the matter itself. It has nothing to do with your doubts about each other's personality, morality and upbringing. Right? If the original painting girl goes back and tells others that you accuse her, I am so angry!

You must be at a loss when you know this. What do you think of this girl? Her face is so clean and her heart is so dirty that a basin of dirty water is splashed everywhere. In fact, your leader now knows that your "accusation theory" is also cold. And you, who don't talk much every day, are afraid of saying the wrong thing. Others contradict you. In your heart, mother duck accuses me again and is angry. Will they ignore me, love me and spoil me because I said something wrong? Yes, you have a megaphone in your heart, which will amplify the opposition many times and haunt you for three days.

So you don't dare to speak most of the time, so it's easy to ask Fish Leong for some courage to say something, but you are nervous, and your eyes are unnatural when you speak, and the listener will feel uncomfortable, so you don't come near you.

This is not a problem for you alone, it is a problem for a group of people.

Very easy to change. You just remember my words:

People, remember their mistakes for a lifetime; Similar situations of others are forgotten most of the time. How big a coffee do you think you are? Let outsiders remember forever? If you don't believe me, you can think about it. You peed your pants when you were a kid. I promise you'll remember now. Do you remember that your little friend peed his pants and mud? It slipped my mind.

So don't worry about making mistakes. Be bold. It's a big deal for the masses. Hahahaha, this shark arm colleague was ... and then he forgot all about it. When chatting with others, your sincere attitude is more important than the correctness of the words themselves. The big leader won't say anything wrong. You and I are all right. From this perspective, God's fault tolerance rate for us in this respect is very high. Heaven's mercy and Gan Kun's mercy prove this, brother! Then you said you just couldn't keep up with the rhythm and entered the conversation. What should I do?

Nothing, I can't talk, I can laugh, I can laugh! If you don't go back to Tiger Brother, you won't be able to help, so you have to let the facial nerve doctor carry one up ... I used to have a big boss, a penguin, which was invincible for a while. He once chatted with me and said that he spent a minute in front of the mirror every morning, practicing laughing when telling jokes, and I really listened. A sincere smiling face can't show your ability in front of everyone, but it can definitely eliminate the distrust caused by most unfamiliarity.

There are many articles and books in this field, which are much more professional than me. If you study, you will gain something. If interpersonal relationship is a transaction, you can understand that a smile is the most valuable currency. Then when will you join this group? You should observe the time of group activities. Lunch? Afternoon tea? Or play games together during lunch break or something.

Take the initiative to enter the market, from the role of onlookers to the role of participants, a little bit of running-in. Smile and emphasize repeatedly. Well, if there is no group activity, or they still don't take you seriously. What should I do?

Observe who is the core of the group, or who is the active group, and take a step back, who is the mainstream group close to your work.

That's right. From a single point of view, take the trust between you two as a pawn and join the group. What if this doesn't work? I'm sorry, you must have touched their interests or dignity in some way. Introspection, and then correct. You didn't write it clearly, and I didn't know what it was, so I stopped doing it. In short, interpersonal relationship is not a black-and-white dichotomy. Interpersonal relationship is jelly, which is extremely elastic. You have many ways to melt ice.

Learn more from the boss when you have time. It's good that this man is willing to tell you the truth. You worked for him for a while, but what you learned is useful for life.

Besides, this is your ultimate move. Remember, when you and the leader humbly ask for advice a few times, other colleagues often see you coming out of his office ambitiously, so it's half difficult for you to integrate into the circle of colleagues, and even it's hard to say whether they approach you actively ... I don't need to tell you why? This is human nature, seeking advantages and avoiding disadvantages, and one relationship attracts other relationships to establish naturally. If this is the end, then your leader not only takes the initiative to be the one who unties the bell, but also passively acts as the one who unties your interpersonal dilemma. This is all karma! He must owe you a lot of money in his last life.