It is also a blind date. Why do women always ask for it?

Blind date was originally a mutual choice for two strange men and women to get married, but in the eyes of some women, blind date has become a "meeting" for them to choose men unilaterally, without looking at their actual situation, only looking for shortcomings from men.

Xiao Zhang met such a woman in a previous blind date. As soon as they met, the woman kept asking him all kinds of questions.

After Xiao Zhang answered truthfully, the woman pouted and said, "Your actual situation is average. Not as good as the introducer said. I don't think we can be together. "

This woman has said everything to this point. Xiao Zhang naturally understands that he has been rejected, but it is inevitable that someone will be a little unhappy when he says so in person. So Xiao Zhang asked the woman, "What do you think of my situation? What about your income?" Or how is life now? "

The woman didn't answer Xiao Zhang, but took something and left by herself. When she left, she added: "There are too few excellent men now, and it is really difficult to meet a good man."

Are there fewer excellent men now?

In fact, Xiao Zhang's conditions are still good among his peers.

Xiao Zhang is 26 years old and earns 8000 yuan a month. Although his income can't meet the requirement that most women earn more than 10,000 yuan a month, he has a house and a car, and all of them are bought in full, so the pressure after marriage will be much less.

On the other hand, Xiao Zhang learned about the woman from the introducer. 26 years old, her family usually earns 4000 a month. Comparatively speaking, Xiao Zhang's condition is much better than that of the woman.

Why is Xiao Zhang, who has better conditions in a blind date, rejected by a woman with less conditions? And after the blind date, the woman also said that there are few excellent men and no good men? There are three main reasons.

The first point: those particularly outstanding men generally don't appear in blind dates.

Xiaoqing is 28 years old. She has participated in several blind dates, and none of the men meet her requirements for marriage, so she asked the introducer if she could choose those particularly outstanding men for her.

The introducer told her: "There are many excellent men in the blind date, but it is estimated that you can't wait a year for a particularly excellent man. I have introduced blind dates for so many years, and I really haven't met a few outstanding men. "

Many women's attitude towards feelings is "waiting", waiting for Prince Charming to catch up with him with flowers.

But in fact, just as excellent girls have many suitors, especially excellent men also have many pursuits. Most people can find the right person without blind date.

Even if there are one or two "fish that slip through the net", they will soon be discovered by aunts and introduced to their daughters or relatives.

The second point: the requirements for men are divorced from reality, and the monthly salary is not a high-quality man.

In the eyes of many women, a monthly salary of over 10,000 yuan is the basic condition for men to participate in blind date, and a house is the basic condition for marriage, but in fact, such men are really rare.

In first-tier cities, men who are marriageable and have a monthly salary of over 10,000 yuan are almost rare. Even if you don't ask for a house, you only ask for a monthly salary of more than 10 thousand, which is also the top few percent.

In the blind date market in second-tier cities, men with a monthly salary of more than 5,000 can afford to buy a house, even high-end people.

In the county, if a man has a house, a car and an income, then he must not worry about marrying.

Many times, it is not that there are too few excellent men, but that women's requirements for men are divorced from reality. Young and rich men abound in TV dramas, but most of them are ordinary people in life.

Take second-tier cities as an example. When men first join the work, their salary is generally around 3000-4000. At this time, he was about 23 years old. How much can he improve after three years of struggle until he is 26?

There are indeed many people who earn more than 10 thousand yuan a month, but if you add marriageable men, there are very few.

The third point: the misunderstanding of marriage, marriage can not be reconciled.

Over the years, I have come into contact with many women who are very picky when dating. Most of them have the same characteristics and think that marriage can't be settled. Marriage is to improve their quality of life, not to reduce it.

This perception of marriage is wrong. Marriage is the same choice for two people. If women choose men with better conditions just for a better quality of life after marriage, will these men reject such women because of the quality of life after marriage?

Whether married life and marriage can be happy cannot be achieved overnight. Marriage requires both husband and wife to jointly manage and pay.

With the idea of "enjoying marriage", it is generally difficult to find the right person. On the one hand, the basis for the introducer to introduce the blind date is that the conditions of both parties are similar, on the other hand, the woman wants to marry well, and the man wants to marry well. If the gap is too big, the man will refuse.

Those women who complain that men are not good enough in blind date must understand that judging a man is not good enough, not based on your requirements, but on whether he is better than men of the same age in reality.

At the same time, we should also find the reasons from ourselves. Apart from demanding too much, are we emotionally inactive and meet excellent men, or are our own conditions not up to the requirements of those excellent men?

In fact, for women, it is better to find a suitable man than to pursue the best man in blind date, because whether they can be happy after marriage is not determined by how much wealth they have.

The two are suitable and willing to work together for the family after marriage, so that marriage can be happy.