In the eyes of children, the mother became a "slave owner". The more you care about this sword, the more mistakes you make.

Test scores have always been a sword hanging over children and parents. Many children think that the score directly affects whether they can have fun in winter and summer vacation.

Xiaoyi was the most efficient student I took last semester, none of them. I always remember that he has a very vivid metaphor.

In that mid-term exam, he only got the second place in his grade and lost to his classmate XX by 2 points.

"Others XX and got 100 points. Why can't you beat others? Always 2 points or 3 points! " No one heard his voice first, but Xiaoyi's mother criticized her son again.

When the mother and son approached, Xiaoyi's mother smiled and said to me, "He was careless. He didn't get full marks in math, and he got 2 points less than others!"

I just laughed and paid special attention to the micro-expression on Xiaoyi's face, but Xiaoyi let me down. The shy little boy didn't lose his temper or even give an explanation. He looked at his mother like a bystander and glanced at me quietly. Seeing that I didn't take her mother's words seriously, he continued to criticize him. Instead, let him relax and go straight to his seat to open his schoolbag.

I reminded Xiaoyi's mother: "Don't ask too much of him, there will be a rebound when the pressure is great!" " "

"I'm just a little angry. He is really a cold little guy! " After that, he shouted at Xiaoyi: "Mom is gone, you should be serious!" "

Xiaoyi didn't even look back, just nodded gently to show that he heard it. As for whether to put it in his ear and take it to heart, it is conceivable.

I sat down beside Xiaoyi and asked me if I had any papers. He said the teacher took it away.

"What's the matter? Have you found the reason yourself? " I asked him lightly, but he looked surprised, as if a little surprised.

"Teacher, why don't you blame me for not getting 100? Let me get the first place!" I was also surprised by his irrelevant answer.

I smiled and replied, "You got 100 and won the first place. How can we make progress next time? " ? Who should be the benchmark to move forward? "

Only then did he relax his tight shoulders and sighed, "Why doesn't my mother think so?" Every time I care about the gap of two or three points, I never care about my feelings! Like a slave in the eyes of' score'! "

I gave Xiao Yi a thumbs-up and praised his good metaphor.

Sometimes I feel sorry for those children whose grades are always among the best. Their inner pressure is unimaginable for adults.

Xiaoyi is in grade four now. I sincerely hope that he will not be brainwashed by his mother, fall into the black hole of scores together, haggle over the scores of each exam, and blindly compare scores with other children.

Xiao Jian's mother is a parent who values scores more than Xiaoyi's mother, and is a typical mother who falls into the eyes of scores. Xiao Jian is an excellent student in all subjects. The teachers who have taught him all say that the child has a good foundation, but he is too sensitive to his grades and even has several conflicts with other students.

All the reasons are because of the exam results, even a gap of one or two points can drive him crazy. When he got the highest score, he tried to show off, but he didn't care about his knowledge loopholes. On the contrary, it found fault with students with high scores everywhere, and once falsely accused them of plagiarism!

As for those students whose grades are not as good as his own, it is his specialty and routine to laugh at, belittle and even humiliate those who failed the exam. He often disdains calling others "academic scum" and "mental retardation".

The most important thing is that Xiao Jian's concentration in learning has not improved with his age, but has become worse than before. He is so impetuous that he can't even finish his homework quietly. When he writes, he will unscrupulously read his answers.

Sometimes I will take the initiative to find those students with poor grades during recess, "generous commitment"-I can lend my homework to my classmates to copy.

Every time I communicate with Xiao Jian's mother, I always worry about myself. I have to admit, I'm really a little afraid of such parents, because she doesn't seem to see the performance of other children in her eyes. Maybe she thinks everything is irrelevant, only the score is the most important thing. She can even memorize her children's previous exam results, which is heartbreaking.

Talking to her about the performance of the child outside the score, I tried to express it euphemistically for fear of hurting the child, but she didn't agree. "My Xiao Jian won't be like this!" This sentence alone can keep me away.

For parents who can't communicate, I have to choose silence. After all, children's growth environment does not change, how difficult it is for outsiders to change!

The scores that parents and even children haggle over, the scores that parents keep comparing, are like a needle inserted in the child's heart, and they will feel pain at will, but many parents don't know it.

Regarding the exam results, I once heard my daughter say such a joke: if you get one more point in the senior high school entrance examination, you can kill a playground!

The results of my daughter's first exam came out two days ago, which was not very satisfactory. There are less than two months before the senior high school entrance examination. It is hypocritical to say that I am not anxious, but I really don't seem to show that much anxiety. The child also said to himself: Don't panic! So that he came back to me at the weekend and said, Mom, I'll try my best to give you a top 20 next time.

I immediately retorted: not suitable for me! "Well, I took the exam myself!" She changed her mind immediately.

As for children's academic performance, I chose the method that Teacher Yin Jianli said: We should really put it down, don't ask about exam results and rankings, and accept it no matter how good the results are.

The sword of scores, the more you care about it, the more it hurts. Because of the score, you may ignore the child's feelings and growth opportunities, hurting the child's self-confidence and parent-child relationship.