My daughter is in the fourth grade and says that a naughty boy in the class likes her. How to guide her?

My daughter is in the fourth grade. Before that, she told me that a naughty boy in the class liked her. All the classmates joked about it and laughed that she was in love. She felt annoyed. What should I do?

at that time, I didn't care too much. I just said lightly that I shouldn't care too much about other people's opinions. I also said half jokingly that it's good to have someone like it! Prove that you are excellent!

On my daughter's birthday last week, my classmate Chenchen came home to celebrate her birthday and joked with her, why didn't you invite HZY? HZY is the boy who likes her.

after hearing this, my daughter squeezed Chenchen's arm hard, and her eyes turned white and she said angrily, why don't you open the pot and mention it?

I interjected: Yes, you can invite him. Let mom torture him why he likes my baby daughter.

Chenchen nudged her daughter with her elbow and whispered with a smile: So your mother knows about this, too! My daughter gave me a white look and looked disgusted.

on my way to school several times later, she told me about her troubles. Although I didn't give specific suggestions on the surface, I was actually worried. I am afraid that children will be disturbed, which will affect their study.

Before, I always insisted that mutual love between children is a very simple friendship, and same-sex people become good friends because of mutual love. In fact, younger children don't have much concept of gender, and they simply admire you and think you are very good.

If adults intervene too much to define it, it will make things complicated and self-defeating.

But nowadays, children are becoming more and more precocious under the influence of all kinds of information on the Internet, so parents and teachers should pay attention to it.

On our way to walking to school in the morning, she complained to me again. Today, her class went for an autumn outing, which was originally a happy thing, but she said that HZY said that she would sit with her when she threatened to take the bus for an autumn outing in class yesterday, and then some students booed her to send candy.

She feels annoyed and wants to talk to the head teacher, Miss Zhou, but she is afraid that Miss Zhou will ignore her.

My daughter is introverted and afraid of things. As a mother, I think I should do something for her and help her.

The friendship between a little boy named Sang Sang and a female classmate named Paper Moon was laughed at by his classmates, and Zhu Xiaogu in the class deliberately hid his composition book in Paper Moon's schoolbag, which triggered a mud pond battle between Sang Sang and Zhu Xiaogu.

I asked my daughter, if you were Sang Sang, would you do this?

she disdains, definitely not! Why should you be influenced by others? Just ignore them! The beholder sees clearly, although it is ok to know how to be yourself, it is actually very difficult. People will inevitably be affected.

I believe that children can handle this matter by themselves, and I have been thinking about what role I should play, the listener or the coach.

I inquired about HZY's family background from the side. There are four brothers and sisters in his family, including two older brothers and one younger sister who is over five years old. He is the third. Nowadays, there are so many brothers and sisters in the family, and we usually have two children who can't take care of them. We are so busy every day.

I really can't imagine the family of these four babies. I think HZY must be a neglected and unloving child at home. Psychologists analyze that students who lack family warmth and care are prone to puppy love, and such children are eager to get the attention and warmth of others. I analyzed the reasons behind HZY's annoying behavior to her.

Finally, I came to a conclusion that he must have taken you as his mother! Longing for a mother's love ...

My daughter was amused by me and relaxed a lot.

I'm still worried. As parents, we still have a long way to go on how to make our children spend their restless adolescence smoothly and safely.