I can’t tell whether it’s a joke or something I mean, what should I do?

Take everything he says as the truth, and you don’t need to distinguish between truth and falsehood.

In the process of getting along with others, many people like to say the truth as a joke, but this will be very confusing to the people listening. Because jokes and truth are mixed together, it always makes people feel a little silly and unclear. Telling the truth in a joking tone may be a way for many people to express their true emotions in life.

I liked a girl when I was in college, but I never had the courage to confess her love. The relationship between us is pretty good. One time when we met by chance while shopping, I said jokingly that I liked her. She also took it as a joke and passed away laughing.

I said this on impulse, and then I said it was a joke. But this is the true thought in my heart, I just don't dare to face it yet. After the passage of time, I have always regretted that I did not have the courage to admit that if I said what I said was true, I don't know whether it is possible for two people to be together.

Actually, many people do this in life and don’t dare to face it, but they are unwilling to just say nothing. So it was really ironic to say the truth in a joking tone. There is no need to distinguish whether it is a joke or what is true, just take what others say as true.

In fact, in the process of getting along with men and women, it is really difficult to distinguish between jokes and inner thoughts. This may require that the two people are familiar enough, and you need to know enough about the other person's life to be able to truly distinguish them.

But in real life, we have no need to distinguish, nor do we want to distinguish. You only need to treat what you want to hear as the truth, and what you don't want to hear as a joke, respond to the truth you want to hear with a peaceful attitude, and then answer the joke with a joke.

Although it seems complicated, it is actually very simple. Whether it is true or a joke, it just depends on whether you are willing to listen. To give the simplest example, when a boy or girl gets along, when he says he likes you, if you have a crush on him, no matter if he is telling the truth or joking, you should listen to the truth and give positive feedback to the other person. Just give back.

In fact, in real life, many people take jokes seriously, and in this life, we may be living in one joke after another.

If you can’t tell the truth or a joke, there is really no need to be anxious. What you like to hear must be the truth.