How to treat old ladies in their fifties and sixties who are divorced and remarried?

I must correct you. Fifty-year-olds are not old ladies. They are still very young. To tell you the truth, there are too many divorced people in their fifties around them. It's nothing unusual or unexpected. It is basically impossible to live without them. Even if you are 60 years old and belong to a young old lady, it is normal to divorce and remarry. Many people will say, I have lived for most of my life, why should I leave when I am old? Who have you lived with? That makes sense, but everyone has their own way of living and can't be forced.

Why do so many people get divorced in their fifties and sixties? The reasons are not the following:

1, most divorced people in their fifties and sixties basically have no desire to go on. Married for a long time, two people know each other too well. You know shit when your ass is up. Life is really nothing new.

What's more, some couples, after most of their lives, don't even want to talk to each other, let alone share the same bed. This kind of marriage has no meaning. Divorce is a good thing

2. Many people put up with it for most of their lives, and the children are finally old enough to leave. Also, when children were young, they had no feelings and wanted to leave at that time. But in order to take care of their feelings, they have been afraid to leave, but their children are 18 years old. After they were admitted to the university, they were relieved and left decisively.

At this point, they are just fifty or sixty years old. The civil affairs department used to have public data. After the college entrance examination every year, many people go to the civil affairs department for divorce.

I emancipated my mind and pursued a new life. There are also some women who are about to retire. They are too busy at work and have too big children, and they are lonely and empty.

Besides, society is full of temptations. When I was young, I always wanted to try new love and expect it to reappear. Once the marriage between husband and wife has existed in name only, there will be a second spring trend of thought. Go to the square to dance, sing and eat if you have nothing to do. After a long time, I can dance, sing and eat.

Therefore, women are in their fifties, and getting married is a hurdle. It is easy to cheat or divorce at this stage.

4. Domestic violence leads to women's divorce. Many people have been living in domestic violence (physical and verbal violence, some even don't talk, cold violence) marriages, just to take care of their children's feelings, and children don't agree to their parents' separation.

In addition, due to the pressure of work and economy, as well as the pressure of public opinion, fearing divorce, they and their children are accused of being divorced women.

But then the children grew up and even got married, and they figured it out. After living for most of my life, I really should live for myself. So, at this time, they figured it out and left.

Besides, I'm going to retire soon at this time, and I don't have that much pressure. Several women in my hometown I know have a bad relationship with their husbands because of years of domestic violence. Now that the children are older, they no longer worry about the harm of divorce to their children. When their children go to college, graduate or get married, they will leave decisively.

And at this time, the child is older, I want to understand, support my mother's divorce, get the strong support of the child, and have the courage to give myself a life after divorce.

So it is normal for women in their fifties and sixties to divorce now. Many people really can't go on. They will live most of their lives and never want to get married again.

If my marriage in the second half of my life is a failure, I have been spending it like this for my children. Now that my children are older, I should live for myself in the second half of my life. So, so many women in their fifties and sixties are divorced.

What about women who remarry in their fifties and sixties? Happiness? In fact, a large number of women, especially rural women, have not found a job after divorce and live alone after divorce.

In the city, after divorce, many people are still looking for another job. In fact, only some people are happy after remarriage, and some people develop after remarriage. So much for marriage, worse than their ex-husbands. At this time, they regretted it, but it was too late to regret it, because there was no regret medicine in the world.

Think about it, women in their fifties and sixties have little advantage. Even a man in his fifties and sixties will find a woman in his thirties and forties, not a woman about his own age. If you are 50 or 60 years old, can you find another peer and live a beautiful marriage?

Therefore, it is very difficult for women in their fifties and sixties to divorce and remarry.

In particular, they will face interference from their children and property disputes. At this age, remarriage is definitely not a matter for two people, but for two families and even many families, which is very troublesome. Therefore, not many people are really happy.

Therefore, women in their fifties and sixties who divorce and remarry must think clearly and think clearly. You will face many problems. You and your wife have been here most of their lives. Sometimes you think, if you find another marriage and start over, can you still live like a flower? That's the way it is, so if it's not particularly hard, bear it, and enter the loess at the age of 70 or 80.

We have a little old lady in her sixties who divorced her husband. The little old lady is a very strong person, and she is better at dressing up. She looks like she is forty or fifty years old! The little old lady has opened a small supermarket by herself, and she also has a facade for rent. It should not be bad money! Her old man's house is an honest man with no skills. He worked in the factory all his life and retired to a suite at home. Fortunately, their son is very disappointing. After graduating from college, he opened a kitchen and bathroom shop on our side and became his own boss!

The little old lady divorced the old man the year before last, which is 18. There are two reasons for divorce. One is an idle old man, honest and timid. The second is that she has a lover outside! When his wife died of illness, she felt that she had a chance to take the upper position.

After the divorce, the old man was so honest that he asked for a suite, a small supermarket and a facade for the little old lady. The little old lady hired someone to look after the store and went to love her own family! My lover has a son and a daughter at home, and she doesn't like it very much, especially his daughter-in-law. It's really unbearable to quarrel with her for almost three days! She discussed with her lover that they would move to a small supermarket. There is a small warehouse above the small supermarket, where people can live! Her lover agreed, but his children disagreed, because the old man's retirement salary was high. Their condition is that the elderly can go to the supermarket, but the salary card and the old man's money must be left. The old man is quite rich, with a deposit of more than 200 thousand!

Can the little old lady promise? Impossible, so we argue every day, but it's no use arguing, there are too many people! She came back to ask her son for help, but her son didn't care about her bullshit! As a result, she was kicked out again

But now the little old lady has a good life. She looks after the store in the small supermarket, quarrels with others, plays cards and drinks, and gets drunk and licks things after drinking, and gets happier every day!

First of all, people in their fifties and sixties should not be called old ladies. Now people's average life expectancy is getting higher and higher, living conditions are getting better and better, and special attention is paid to maintenance. People also look younger than their actual age. Sometimes people in their fifties think they are middle-aged.

Nowadays, the high divorce rate is a common problem. Why single out women in their fifties and sixties?

1. Age and gender

People born in the fifties and sixties usually get married around the age of 20. If they felt that two people couldn't get along, or for other reasons, they should have divorced long ago, not so late. So why did you choose to divorce after more than 30 years of marriage?

In fact, the concept of marriage in that era was still relatively conservative. Most people think that divorce is a disgraceful thing, and they will not take this step unless they have to, and divorced women will bear greater pressure from public opinion! Therefore, when they encounter problems in marriage, most of them tend to forbear, even if there are irreconcilable contradictions, they accumulate in their hearts. However, with the progress of the times, people have more thoughts on marriage, and they can also look at divorced and divorced men and women with a more fair and objective eye. Therefore, those who forbear in the past do not need to continue to forbear now. You can choose to pursue new happiness ~

2. The right to pursue happiness

In marriage, most people will face all kinds of problems, and many couples stumble all the way. Many people will think: I have been here for most of my life, so I can make do!

But is this concept really correct? We all have this expectation that every couple will grow old together, but we are not parties to the marriage, and we don't know the ups and downs. Then why should we ask others to do it?

Limited by age, I dare not make any changes, resulting in a muddle-along mentality and wronged myself, just to maintain the integrity of my family. Is this right?

Some children may not understand this practice and feel that their parents are selfish, which complicates family relations. However, I hope that children should also consider the problem from the perspective of their parents. When we choose a partner, don't we just pick and choose and refuse? Then why not give them the right to choose again!

We often advise young people to "grasp life" and "don't idle away their time". However, why do many people hold different views on the "50-60-year-old woman" who also wants to grasp life and does not want to waste time?

No matter how old you are, old people, like young people, have ambitions for their own lives. The difference is that after years of baptism, the elderly may be more aware of what they need.

Children should respect the emotional needs and choices of the elderly.

In the past, parents paid so much for their children that even if their children had grown up, they took it for granted that their parents served them. Children leave their parents and go far away to pursue their ideals and realize their ambitions.

People will think that such children have a future. Children should work hard and help bring their children into the obligations of the elderly. When the elderly finally make a choice for their own happiness, they are often treated with colored eyes.

Many people ignore the emotional needs of the elderly. In the life circle of the elderly, apart from descendants, relatives, neighbors and old friends, it is of great benefit to physical and mental health if there are husbands who love each other hand in hand, supporting and comforting each other.

Why did the divorced and remarried "old lady" become the hot topic?

Because of envy or jealousy? Most of the square dancers are middle-aged and elderly women. "Old ladies in their fifties and sixties" attend baking classes, yoga classes and painting classes, have afternoon tea in western-style restaurants and cafes, and make friends by taking selfies with their mobile phones. They love beauty, life, their bodies and a little fun in life.

Some people say that it is never too late to pursue the life you want; Some people say that it may be too late to pursue it. Who knows when life will come to an abrupt end? Anyway, go after it if you want!

Answer: What do you think of the divorce and remarriage of old ladies in their fifties and sixties, the changes in the new era and the progress of mankind? This is because people demand that the quality of life needs to be improved. Is it difficult for people to pursue a better life ideologically? Free choice of marriage is protected by law in today's era.

It is not too late to be 50 or 60 years old, and the responsibility for children can be gradually reduced. Be kind to yourself. When there is no sense of pressure, take care of yourself, learn the romance of combining Chinese and western, and live a wonderful life without violating the bottom line of marriage morality.

Divorce and remarriage is a process from a failed marriage to a happier life. With divorce, there will be remarriage, which belongs to the most normal range of human thought. Don't influence your life with outdated ideas, but face the reality and turn to a happy life that belongs to people.

I'm Wen Jun. I can't preach, but I can tell examples and stories. I write, you read as a story, but you are sitting in the wrong position. Some people are indifferent all their lives and want to pursue themselves when they are old, but they don't know the changes of human nature and environment. They think this is love, and the result is the grave. The whole family is separated from their children, and their relatives and friends look down upon them, leaving them alone.

There is a saying: the old house is on fire and no one can stop it.

I remember reading a joke: an 80-year-old man was dying, and his wife could not bear to part with him, and his children were surrounded by sadness and tragedy. In order to leave no regrets, the old lady asked, "Wife, tell me what regrets you have in your heart, and we will try our best to make your wish come true." The old man said, "I'm embarrassed to say it." Regret not finding a lover and tasting love all my life. "

Hearing this, the old lady left angrily, and the children also accused dad that the dying man was shameless. The old man sighed: alas.

The funeral was neither salty nor light, and relatives did not feel sad. Relatives and friends are puzzled, but it is also difficult to explain.

My cousin, born in 1949, came to work in Lanzhou after finishing high school and married her cousin. My cousin worked as a teacher in the college, gave birth to two daughters and had a big house. Every time my cousin goes back to her hometown, she is pays photogenic attention. No matter distant relatives or close neighbors, she stood in her pocket and said, "Third Aunt, I'm coming to see you. Much better now. I have enough food. "

See the younger generation: "two eggs, here is sugar, take it and see how you look like a loser." Men are timid and promising if they want to eat. He will win some petrol for your father. After the exam, he can get dressed and eat well like his aunt. "

Cousins usually don't come back with her. Her relatives and nieces revealed: "My aunt is very embarrassed, afraid that my uncle will change relatives to buy tickets and snacks."

My cousin's relationship with my aunt is neither bad nor bad. In 20 18, my 70-year-old cousin often stayed out at night. At first, I thought that such an old man couldn't do anything until he came back. My cousin still keeps Tai Chi sword in the morning, plays mahjong in the afternoon, dances square dance in the evening, and calls several old sisters to eat hot pot in rainy days, but he doesn't care that my cousin stays outside at night.

On the contrary, her daughter reminded her: "Mom, don't just care about your own happiness, regardless of my dad. My father has spent a lot of money recently and dressed very fancy. Isn't it something? "

My aunt left an eye in the table below. She went out first with a sword in her hand, but she stood behind a tree at the intersection of the community and saw her cousin get into a taxi. She also got on the bus with sunglasses and a big silk scarf, just like the spy who followed the underground party in the spy film.

My cousin's taxi stopped after turning a corner, and my aunt secretly followed, for fear of being discovered by my cousin. Far away, I saw that my cousin had walked to the door of Zhangye Road vegetable market and took a woman's handbag. Two people walked into the market side by side.

Menstruation's heart was pounding and his hair was dizzy. She stood firm on the railing and called to her two daughters, "Big sister, come here quickly. Your father found an old demon, which is in Zhangye Road vegetable market. " Then he called Mel: "Mel, come here quickly. Your father found an old demon, and they went hand in hand into the Zhangye Road vegetable market. " Mel first complained, "You either ignore my dad at ordinary times or nag all day. Can he leave you alone? I didn't remind you, but you still don't know. I know it was his high school classmates who hooked up with him after my dad died. I have looked for Mel with Wen Ya (Mel's husband). Forget it. I can't make it clear on the phone. I'll talk about it when you come back. "

Big sister rushed over and stared at the vegetable market at the door with her aunt's watch. I waited for a long time, but no one was there. Suddenly, an alley appeared behind the vegetable market. It is estimated that she has gone back to Gentle Township to cook the couple's dishes.

When my aunt came home, she began to get hysterical. Big sister called her cousin: "Dad, hurry home, or you will die." Over there, I heard my cousin say, "You will die if you come back. If you don't come back, you will die. Who cares? " I hung up and couldn't get in.

Cousin hasn't seen anyone for half a month in a row, and the phone can't get through. During this period, menstruation gradually calmed down from hysteria, and suddenly remembered that my cousin was the head of the family, and his heart began to get nervous again.

More than 20 days later, my cousin tore off her skin, went into the house to get clothes, and then asked her aunt, "I have endured divorce all my life, and we have our own good days in the remaining years."

Cousin can't agree to divorce. Her retirement fee is a little more than 3,000 yuan, and her cousin's retirement fee is more than 8,000 yuan, especially if the house is the welfare room of her cousin's unit. My aunt said calmly, "Divorce is impossible. If you get married, I will sue you for bigamy. " Cousin said, "You have been vain and unreasonable all your life. You can never leave me to sue for divorce! " "

My cousin slammed the door and left. My aunt's heart began to beat faster and her blood pressure rose. My older sister Mel is around my aunt every day, but she has no chance to talk to her.

Cousin took her female classmates to Xi 'an to enjoy the romance between lovers in the south of the Yangtze River. At home, my aunt can only be anxious. In addition to being angry, she cried to her two daughters and pretended that nothing had happened outside. It was really bitter.

After a month, my cousin came back with a happy face, made tea, turned on the TV and looked calm. After dinner, she opened the refrigerator and cooked for herself leisurely. My aunt quarreled with others and called her two daughters home.

When the two daughters came in, the cousin spoke first: "It's good to have you back. Let's get this straight. this house is mine. Your mother has lived in vain for so many years, and you have seen my anger. Now I won't lie to you. I am with your aunt Zhang. She is the forest in my heart, and your mother is the arrogant one. I want to pursue my life now. I can't live under the same roof with a bitch all day. Please take your mother away and live in my own house. "

Damei Mayer was dumbfounded. This is the trumpet that Aunt Zhang attacked. It can also be thought that if her father's salary was not high, Aunt Zhang would not have a love story with her father. She is not afraid to humiliate her two sons.

When the three mothers saw their cousins tearing their faces hard, they began to attack softly.

The elder sister said first, "Dad, you are over 70 years old. If you do this, you will be in danger. What do relatives and friends at home think of you? Old colleagues at work will talk about you. It's not convenient for us to see you. My mother has a bad temper. We suggest that you. My mother is a knife in her mouth and a bean in her heart. Look, you haven't been home recently. My mother can't eat or sleep. She's worried about you suffering outside. She lost more than ten kilograms. "

My cousin said, "Yes, I am 70 years old, not over 70 years old. Correct again, we have no love. As for my relatives and friends, I'm not afraid. I'm afraid I won't take this step. Now I understand the greatness of Xu Zhimo's pursuit of love. "

Cousin has made up her mind, and the rest is Niang's three things to protect her family. Mel sent her little daughter and nanny, and my aunt won't go out unless there is an emergency. If she goes out, leave the child and nanny at home, for she is afraid that she will not be at home. Cousin Lin took her in. This forest is not an old demon who wants to build a white horse and an apartment in his later years.

After all, my cousin can't compete with three mothers. Finally, Damei moved, and her house was vacated for my cousin and Aunt Zhang, who also signed it helplessly and fortunately.

Helpless is a thousand unwilling, but fortunately, the house has been saved, and the two shameless old people only have the right to live and have no right to sell.

Later, my cousin's life was also difficult. After all, the salary didn't satisfy Aunt Zhang's appetite, and the house didn't come back. Aunt Zhang treats him coldly every day, and the conversation is full of sarcasm: "A man is a gentleman and lost to a few bitches." Cousin said with a wry smile: "Good men don't fight with women, and it's not bad now. They have enough money and a house to live in. " Aunt Zhang snorted coldly: "The frog at the bottom of the well looked up at the sky tube and peeped at the leopard, and saw a spot of hidden head and tail. I have to say that you are superficial. "

Cousin turned around and sighed, thinking: Women in the world are the hardest to guess.

It's been three years since this happened. It is said that my cousin accompanied Zhang Ayi with 280,000 compensation for mental damage, and the two parted ways. Living alone in Damei's house, my aunt is very lonely. She gives healthy chicken soup to people she knows every day. When she replied to her, she caught him complaining: "He was shameless at first, and now he can come back with his head down to apologize, but he would rather die alone than bow his head." Am I so defeated in his heart? "

People say that they don't fall in love after 50, and they don't stay after 70. This is true. Fifty-year-old men and women have been wallowing in the secular world for a long time, thinking that their children and families are also pretending to be selfish. It is only a matter of time before two people come together with selfishness. How can it last forever? Especially the elderly, where did you get 100% sincerity and love? The old couple are noisy, but their hearts are at home and they love their children. My mother divorced four years ago and divorced at the age of 65, that is, 6 1 year! The reason is that my father has been having an affair for many years until he was discovered four years ago!

What I want to say is that I will respect my mother's opinion, and I will support it no matter whether I want to be single or remarry in the future!

If she wants to remarry, it is mostly because she is lonely and unaccompanied. She doesn't even have a speaker at home every day. I am far away. She doesn't want to come and live with me yet. I don't trust her. She can look for it if she wants. My mother and I don't have to register to get married, but we can have a companion together. If the other person doesn't have a house, he can live in my house, but it must be clear that if the old man is in poor health and sick.

If mom just wants to be single, I support it! Nowadays, most women find a wife to be a free nanny. Why bother? If mom wants to be single, fine. She has nothing to do to travel. When she is older, she wants to live with me and move in with me. I take care of her and my husband agrees!

So in general, look at yourself and don't care what others think!

This question implies that age discriminates against older women. When a woman divorces, there must be a man divorcing. Why only talk about elderly women? Nowadays, social media tend to marginalize, stereotype, subjectively assume and belittle the elderly women, artificially widening the social gap.

In fact, divorce is not necessarily a bad thing, but it is indeed a bad thing, and it still stays in the values of the 1980 s and 1990 s. Divorce may be a node to rethink the past and start a new stage of life.

Unlike young people, divorce at this age is usually deliberate. On the one hand, they have rich life experience, on the other hand, they have a deeper understanding of themselves. It is understandable that they want a better quality of life.

Old age is the last stage of life. At this stage, you will have more time to reflect on life and sublimate your meaning in life. It is a perfect age. Some of them insist on exercising, pay attention to health, some write books, some learn piano, chess, calligraphy and painting to cultivate sentiment, and so on.

Young people should grow up, learn to respect and understand the elderly more, and let go of discrimination, because that is the stage of life you will face in decades.

Most of them have been abandoned, and it is not good to leave. The older generation of men were tired of playing with teenage girls and abandoned their wives and children. The old woman worked hard all her life and was finally abandoned. Leave a good man and don't marry until you meet him. Have a good life, old woman. You are a great woman. No one can live, and you don't have to wait on anyone when you are old.

It's normal to divorce and remarry in your fifties and sixties. This is the progress of today's society and everyone's freedom to pursue happiness.

Because the relationship is broken, it is difficult to get back together. Divorce should be a wise choice. If you remarry, be careful. Don't repeat the same mistake and make it a secondary injury, which will make family and friends feel annoyed.

Personal suggestion: Before divorce, the two should communicate as much as possible, understand each other, recall the good times, be considerate and tolerant of each other, look at each other's strengths, find out their own shortcomings, try not to take this step until divorce, and have a happy life together. If you remarry, you should think carefully, spend some time to know more about the place, and take another step, so you must grasp it well and make preparations in all aspects. I wish you success in remarriage and happiness for the rest of your life.