When divorced, the ex-husband said, "I can find someone better than you." How should the wife deal with it?

In fact, the most precious thing in marriage is the word ordinary.

Because ordinary means the harmony between two people in marriage, although it is not vigorous, it is the embodiment of a long stream of water. Such a marriage, if each other can keep their initial intentions, will certainly last for a long time.

I'm afraid that some people, in the process of walking, gradually forget their original promises, get used to seeing the sunny weather on the flat road, and also want to see the cliff side, even the storm at sea.

If you want to leave, you can't pull back ten cows.

When she just got divorced, she really realized the feeling of being alone in marriage. Her husband is leaving, but she has no backbone and forgets to be angry.

She didn't have time to get angry because her husband didn't give her this buffer time at all, just told her that he wanted a divorce and didn't want to live with her.

At that moment, the sky would fall, because her husband has always been her day.

She is a good-natured woman. She met her husband at 20 and got married at 22. From the moment we were together, everything was in her husband's charge.

Because she trusts her husband very much, she said that it is better to listen to him if she is so tired in marriage.

Her husband didn't let her down, whether at first or after marriage. In her opinion, her husband is a hard-working person. Although he doesn't talk much, everything he says is very convincing.

So after marriage, she even left the money she earned to her husband, who would give her a fixed pocket money every month, which was also her own request, because she was worried that she would spend too much money.

After all, in the second year of marriage, they had children. Both of them work outside the home, with limited income, and send money home every month. The parents-in-law at home help with the children and always send money home every month.

They even seldom quarrel, she won't quarrel, and her husband dotes on her, so everything is still beautiful.

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Her husband never spends money indiscriminately, and every once in a while he will show her the savings at home. By the way, what's the big expense recently?

Every time she listens, she actually doesn't care at all. Because she believes him, she won't suspect him of cheating. Moreover, her husband is a person who values money, and has saved a little for himself, but what she said is ok.

However, her relationship with her mother-in-law is average. Because of her son's position in the family, her mother-in-law will more or less ignore her daughter-in-law and think that she is superior.

However, the mother-in-law also listens to her son, so the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can maintain basic peace.

Including her second child, who was born when her eldest daughter was 5 years old. My parents-in-law prefer boys to girls, and after giving birth to three daughters, they gave birth to a husband, so they have been urging them to have another one.

Originally, she didn't want to have children because the family economy didn't allow it. It is perfect for them to raise a child. If they have another child, it will be a little difficult to worry.

But then her husband also said that it was more lively to have two children. After her husband said this, she agreed to have a second child.

The second child turned out to be a daughter.

But strangely, her parents-in-law didn't embarrass her. Later, she learned that it was her husband who repeatedly told her parents: "Both boys and girls should like it. If you are a girl, don't embarrass her. "

After knowing this, her peace of mind increased a little, but this peace of mind did not last long. A bad news came: her husband betrayed her.

At that time, she separated from her husband, and she and her mother-in-law took care of the children at home. Because the child is still young, she is not at ease to leave, ready to wait until the child is eight months old before going out to work.

It was during this period that her husband fell in love with a woman who worked together. The other party is divorced. When she knew everything, what she received directly was his intention to divorce.

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At that time, they got married at the age of 22. At the age of 29, she gave birth to two children for him, but he suddenly desperately wanted to be with others. The stability and maturity in the previous marriage turned into a joke.

She believes that her mother-in-law also contributed to the divorce.

Mother-in-law is too confident, thinking that her son is capable, has a car and a house, and can find a good person even after divorce. Mother-in-law is dissatisfied with her.

Therefore, when her husband told her mother-in-law that she wanted a divorce, her mother-in-law turned out to be supportive. At the same time, her husband's attitude towards her began to deteriorate. He even said, "I can find someone better than you."

She is too gentle and submissive in marriage, so her goodness is always easily overlooked. In fact, it is very rare to have such a wife.

Because when her mother-in-law supported the divorce, many enthusiastic neighbors around her came to persuade her that she was sensible and kind, filial to the elderly, took care of her family, and didn't spend money indiscriminately, so that her mother-in-law wouldn't do stupid things.

At that time, she was still living in her mother-in-law's house until her family came to take her back. But her family was ambiguous and didn't give her a good look.

Therefore, when she really divorced, she dared not take any children. The eldest daughter has to go to school at home, and the youngest daughter is too young. She has a younger brother, so her mother can't help her with the children, but she can't help herself because she has to work to earn money.

Her husband gave her the money she had saved during her divorce, which made her mother-in-law have a lot of complaints.

After the divorce, she still works outside, but it is far from his home. It's okay for her to earn living expenses alone, but she still can't figure out what's wrong with herself.

The family said she didn't bring the children. If she wants to find another one, she should do it earlier. This age is not old. After all, she is not yet 30 years old.

But she dare not. She once loved someone wholeheartedly, but in the end she was so disappointed. Less than a year after their separation, he fell in love with another person and wanted to divorce her.

She doesn't understand, is she too naive and thinks too much about love? Or is he too naive, carried away by love, and thinks everything is too simple?

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After the divorce, she never remarried or went on a blind date. She earns money outside and seldom goes back.

My mother-in-law will use WeChat, so she will occasionally send videos or photos of her children in her circle of friends, which is why she did not delete her former mother-in-law.

She also went to see the children once. Her former mother-in-law treated her like an enemy and never gave her a good face. Her face is as gloomy as a cloudy sky in summer.

The person who once said "I wish I could find someone better than you" punched himself in the face two years later. I don't know if he regretted it or just found out that someone like her is the most suitable wife. Suddenly he began to be attentive and contacted her frequently, saying that he would come to see her.

Because it is each other's first love, I am used to her gentleness and composure. When he meets him with enthusiasm one day, he will naturally feel different and mistakenly think that this is true love.

All she knows is that the woman didn't marry him in the end. She shouldn't want to marry him, it's just a game. That woman is such a person. Comments can tell stories, but he takes them seriously.

There are always many people who don't know the value of having it until they lose it once, but how can there be so many opportunities to go back and try and make mistakes in life? Some mistakes can't be made, and some roads can't be taken, because it's easy to make one mistake and regret it all your life.

The scenery on the edge of the cliff is dangerous after all.

Cherish words like gold, a few strokes, but the meaning is profound and extensive. Only those who truly understand these two words can have the beauty from beginning to end.