How to treat blind date introduced by elders?

Blind date is an important way to know the opposite sex. Why are most blind dates introduced by elders difficult to succeed?

1 First of all, the introduction of parents and elders. They are really stressed when they stare. Mainly because the acquaintances introduced by the elders are also acquaintances, and the objects introduced by themselves have at least a basic understanding, and then you and the blind date are still in a blind date state, and parents hope that you two will come naturally. This kind of pressure is unbearable for most people, so it often leads to the opposite effect.

Secondly, parents and elders have completely different views on young people. What parents see is that it is best to have a stable job, a car and a house, and even different aesthetic standards. Young people hope to get to know each other gradually in the process of getting along, and it is very important to live together in the future, but this is exactly what parents can't participate in, so the success rate of blind date is lower.

Third, stage fright may also be embarrassing. Everyone's personality is different. Not everyone can talk about Kan Kan in front of strangers. He is as calm as an innocent man, like an old friend for many years. Just like some people, they are introverted, withdrawn, unsociable and don't like strangers since childhood, so contact with strangers is a real resistance.

Just like a person who is afraid of heights, it is the same to look at heights; Just like people with dense phobia, it is the same to hide dense things.

That fear comes from the deepest part of my heart, uncontrolled and changed. However, many parents don't quite understand. They think blind date is just a trivial matter. Is it necessary to be so exclusive?

And some people who are not good at words. Although I am usually careless, when I see a stranger, I immediately fear my hands and feet and feel unnatural all over. They don't know what to say or talk about. So the atmosphere is very embarrassing, and I always want to find an excuse to escape. I have experienced it once, and I don't want to experience it again.

Just because people are different, what you can accept does not mean that others can accept it.

Fourth, the most important reason is that you will feel ashamed. Many people think that only people who can't find a date will go on blind dates. Why can't I find the object? Explain that you are not good enough, so people will think that going on a blind date proves that you are not good enough. Then I am worried that my relatives and friends around me will know and I will laugh at myself. After being spread out, I feel very embarrassed. Even if blind date is common, even if many people can accept it, there will still be such scruples and worries in the deepest part of their hearts.