How to treat "if you are poor, you don't want children and you can't give them a good life." This is selfish "?

There are two kinds of people who think that you can't have children if you are poor.

One is the tragedy of seeing the poor give birth to many children, destroy them and lead a miserable life. One is that their current economic conditions are not good, making excuses for their unmarried infertility. In these two cases, a book gentleman talks about his own views.

First of all, I really think those parents are selfish when they see that there are many poor children whose children have not enough to eat and clothes.

There is a kind of children's life, which is purely to satisfy their own wishes. This is selfishness.

In the 1980s, the state called for "only one good child". However, there are still some people who insist on having more children, regardless of their financial conditions.

Public officials and people who listen to the government have only had one child. Therefore, living conditions are improving day by day, and the possibility of having more children is even worse.

There is a family in the mountainous area of southern Shaanxi, and the couple make a living by farming. The land in mountainous areas is particularly barren, and the income from relying on the weather is very poor. But the couple's preference for sons is particularly serious, and they must have sons.

Hiding in Tibet has given birth to seven children in a row, basically one every two years, and the youngest son was born at the age of Boss 15.

After the incident was exposed, I saw the horror of his family from the picture: three broken straw houses, a family surrounded by walls; Several children sat in front of the door like steps, dressed in rags. The report said that none of the children had attended school except the boss who had attended school for two years.

In society, such cases are occasionally heard. Every time I see this kind of news, I worry about others: in this era, it is conceivable what the psychology of children without food or clothing is;

People can imagine the future of people without culture; What will happen to the future marriage of a bunch of children? It would be sad if parents didn't take this into account.

Secondly, I feel ignorant when I see some people around me whose family conditions don't allow me to have more children, which leads to a mess of family life.

Neighbor Wang Xiaomei's husband is a worker in an enterprise, with average welfare and limited ability. He is not a person who is willing to make progress and has no skills.

Wang Xiaomei works in a supermarket and is a temporary worker like a tallyman. When the young couple got married, they lived with their parents-in-law, an old family building of more than 70 square meters, with two rooms and one living room, and barely lived.

When the boss was three years old, the second child was born, and Wang Xiaomei soon gave birth to the second child. With two young children to look after, Wang Xiaomei stopped working.

The problem came out at once. The house is not big, and a family of six people are crowded into a two-bedroom apartment, which is in a mess everywhere. After Wang Xiaomei didn't go to work, his salary plummeted. Raising a second child is very expensive, and half of my son's salary is spent on wetting and milk powder.

The mother-in-law has no pension, the father-in-law has a low pension, and the two old people don't have much savings. In order to help the poor son's family, they had to pay subsidies.

A large family lives together, and contradictions and disputes continue. The parents-in-law complained that the young couple quarreled every day. The big ones cry, the little ones bark, and chickens fly and dogs jump all day.

Seeing this situation, people think that it is ignorance for people with poor economic conditions to have a second child with the wind. After a few years, can't the young couple regenerate with a certain amount of savings? That way, I won't be nervous, I won't drag down the elderly, and I won't reduce the quality of life of my family.

Finally, today's young people pay more attention to the quality of personal life, and are unwilling to get married and have children at a young age and lock themselves in a cage at home.

The son of Shujun's colleague is 30 years old. He has a good job and a high salary. But I just don't want to find a girlfriend to marry. I travel around the world with my friends every Spring Festival.

Colleagues can't force marriage, and they often angrily scold their sons for being "unfilial and selfish?" . His son replied:? I don't have the conditions yet, and I haven't had enough fun without money. I can't let my children ruin my high-quality life now. ?

People in their thirties know that they are fooling around all day and spend all their money traveling around the world. How unworthy! ? I laughed at him: "Do you think your son didn't carry on the family line, or do you think he didn't contribute to human reproduction?" ?

Nowadays, unmarried and infertile young people abound. Young people nowadays are very thoughtful. They believe that in order to give children a good life, they must have strong economic strength, otherwise they will not be born.

This blatant excuse is considered selfish by the older generation, and it is an excuse for young people to enjoy themselves and not take responsibility.

Think about it, this generation of children in their twenties and thirties are basically only children. They have been well fed and clothed since childhood, and the whole family loves them.

Boys think of themselves as little emperors and girls as little princesses. At this age, they feel that it is their most carefree time and need the care of others. How could they suddenly switch to the role of being a cow and a horse for their children?

"If you can't give your child a good life, don't have children? It's good to have this idea. This requires young people to study hard in their prime, work hard for their happy future and live up to their youth.