Do you know the harm of parents' cynicism to their children?

How harmful is it for parents to be cynical about their children? In Chinese learning, we often hear such a sentence, which is called restraining first and then promoting. Many parents also like to praise others first, always like to use irony, which seems like a joke, but do you know what negative impact your irony will bring to your children?

0 1. What sarcastic remarks do parents often like to say?

You are really stupid. Many parents have said this to their children in their lives. Are children really stupid? Is IQ really low? Of course not! There are many reasons for parents to say this. The most important thing is that they hope to make their children remember for a long time through teasing, and also let their children constantly enhance their self-ability. But in fact, for some psychologically sensitive children, this sentence is like a time bomb, which will always haunt him. He will also have self-doubt, self-denial and even self-contradiction.

02. Why do parents love sarcasm? What are their psychological manifestations?

For some parents, the reason why they like to say irony is because they like to joke. Playing jokes on friends and children. Over time, they can't stop. Sometimes the joke is too big, without proper limit, it will also cause some uncontrollable situations. In fact, for parents, there is nothing wrong, but we should properly restrain ourselves and restrain ourselves. Of course, in addition to joking, some parents like to be sarcastic with their children, hoping to make them remember through cynicism. For example, when the child's grades are not good, I hope that by saying irony, the child can make progress and improve his academic performance. Although this idea is correct and we should encourage it, there should be different educational strategies for different children. Parents blindly say irony, which often makes children fall into a strange circle of self-doubt.

03. Parents are always cynical, what negative effects will they have on their children?

Laroche Foucault once said, "Our confidence in ourselves will make others have confidence in us." Admittedly, self-confidence is very important, but many parents always like to play jokes on their children, and even take their children's personality as the basis of irony. This often makes children lose self-confidence, so that they can never hold their heads in the crowd. I do not love you anymore. I don't like you at all. Many parents often like to say such irony, thinking that they can close the distance with their children through jokes. But as everyone knows, children's hearts are sensitive. Parents often say such things, which often makes children doubt their relationship with their parents. Over time, there will be contradictions and bad feelings between children and parents. When children grow up, how should they face up to the relationship with their parents? The result is self-evident.

Parents are children's guides. Sometimes, children will learn to do what their parents like. This is just following the trend. When parents always rely on irony to achieve their goals, over time, children will also like irony in their lives, and even say ironic words regardless of occasions and opportunities. By that time, this will often affect his interpersonal relationship, and even let him fall into the whirlpool of public opinion and cannot extricate himself. At this time, who should he turn to for help? How should we disguise ourselves?