I quarrel with my mother-in-law, and my husband often speaks for her. What should I do? My father just died, and they teamed up to bully me.

When your mother-in-law has an argument with you, your husband often speaks for his mother, just to tell you in this way that you should try your best to handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and not be too serious with this old man. So in this family, I think it's better for you to let your husband handle some problems, because only in this way can you prevent your mother-in-law and your husband from jointly dealing with you.

After my relative's daughter married to the north, she felt that life there was very uncomfortable, because the staple food of southerners was rice, while northerners liked pasta. Over time, he began to complain about this life, and then she had an argument with her mother-in-law. At this time, her husband began to deal with her with her mother-in-law, which made her feel a little uncomfortable and really wanted to leave, but think about it carefully. It is not worth giving up a marriage for this dispute. Therefore, when he encounters a problem, she tells her husband to help him solve it, which is simple and clear. Her husband will discuss with his mother the solution to this problem, so that there will be no such dispute.

So in your case, if, because your father just died, they complain about you and lead to joint bullying, you should keep silent, because one day you must have a boss at home, and you must tell your husband directly if you encounter problems and let him solve them, so that husband and wife will not jointly deal with you.