Who likes you or who you like, choose one, what would you choose?

Imagine that if you love someone very much, you feel beautiful and satisfied with him, so you stay with him without hesitation, waiting to infect him; But after you have done a lot of work for him, he still can't make him love you, and he is still lukewarm to you, which makes you very tired. Can you continue to show your enthusiasm and courage to love him at this time?

Imagine again that if you are with someone who loves you very much, he cares about you, is considerate and responsive, and you gradually get used to his kindness to you, feeling that being with your current partner is better than being with the person you love; But if he always pays you unilaterally, gives you love and understanding, but never gets your feedback and understanding, and is always ignored by you, will he still have the energy to continue to love you? Maybe he is too tired to love.

So, whether you love someone or not, someone still loves you. This kind of love between men and women is not static, nor is it completely spontaneous and unconditional; Love is a temporary situation, not the norm. Will change with everyone's love experience and mentality, may be deeper, may also disappear. Love is a state. How can we keep this state and harvest beautiful love? Lemon has the following suggestions for your reference:

1. Don't lick the dog.

There is a joke called "lick the dog until there is nothing." Although it is a trick to pay the dog blindly, it makes sense. A person who doesn't like you, no matter how much you love each other and how much you pay for each other, will not like you. The work of love is far-fetched, and you can't really catch up with each other. Maybe he still doesn't like you after dating for a while. You might as well stop loss in time to avoid further damage to yourself.

2. Pick a person you like and love yourself.

In love, although there are people who secretly love an arrow, most people will not choose such a goal. What we can meet is often a love goal that can develop into mutual admiration. Maybe we love each other more, or maybe they love us more. Love is not an equivalent exchange. No matter who stands at the top of the scale, as long as you choose someone who loves yourself and loves yourself, you may reap a beautiful love.

3. Learn to manage love and master the skills of managing love.

In counseling cases, many couples are very loving at first, but because they don't know how to operate love, they can't coordinate their relationship, leading to mutual consumption, and finally break up or divorce. In view of their situation, Lemon provides some skills to manipulate love, which has helped many couples and couples to repair their love. It can be seen how important it is to cultivate the awareness of operational love and master the skills of operation. In fact, any relationship needs to be managed, especially a love relationship. People who don't know how to manage love, no matter how much they love each other, the road to love will generally not be too smooth. In love, the other half may love himself more than pester himself. It is better to cultivate your awareness of managing love, improve your management ability, treat yourself and love correctly, and understand that love is a temporary situation, not a normal state, and needs to be maintained with your heart.