What should I do if I am worried about being too tolerant of each other and getting lost in love?

In fact, men and women in love are often not dissatisfied with others, but angry at their incompetence and weakness. Love is often the first time we have experienced an invincible interpersonal conflict, or it may be the first person who has nothing to do with blood or authority to come into your life. Without blood relationship, legal relationship and financial assistance, it is easy to lose confidence and know that you are really useless to attract someone by your own charm. Because they are not confident in their own charm, they will seek the highest moral point, the sense of identity of others, the reciprocal exchange of interests, and the control of others to restrain each other's behavior. Sometimes, in order to consolidate love, we will look forward to blood relationship, legal relationship and economic mutual assistance-but sometimes these expectations make us more lonely and stubborn about love, and also make love a wrestling field of morality and interests more simply and rudely. Of course, love can be regarded as a short-term incentive. It is difficult for us to really fight for the cause of * * * and devote our limited life to serving the people indefinitely. However, if a beloved person smiles at us now, let us do something that we can, and will sweet talk to us after speaking, it is easy for us to have a kind of lofty sentiments of going through fire and water. But love is not a complete exchange. There is no hard currency in giving and receiving. Many times the motivation is not how good he is to you, but how many self-personalities we have perfected through love. People who blindly expect others to appreciate themselves and cannot live without themselves are often people who are unwilling to improve their self-esteem and have a low sense of self-worth, while people with a low sense of self-worth can hardly get the real dependence of others-just as the pain of the poor is not necessarily that they are poor, but that they are deprived of an opportunity to help others and be generally dependent. Therefore, in the relationship between men and women, when considering whether to tolerate each other, or feel that their tolerance is a bit "uneconomical", causing some kind of pain similar to the imbalance of interests. First of all, it is clear whether this tolerance is just a connivance of weakness and boredom. If so, then from a moral point of view, first try to find out your own advantages: economic ability, problem-solving ability, self-emotional control ability, expression ability, kindness to others, self-enjoyment, exploration of the world, discussion and communication ability ... how much, how much to find. Many problems seem to be problems of love, but in fact they are more similar to problems of attitude towards life. The overall happy attitude in life should include learning to discover some good things, learn to appreciate some good things, learn to share some good things, and learn to create some good things together. When you gradually have this attitude, you feel as if you are not bad. At this time, you may find that there are really not many things that can be tolerated. Many quarrels and differences are just small things that can be told as jokes in retrospect.