What should you do if you are unhappy in life and cannot tell others?

Coax yourself, lie to yourself, pretend to be yourself, and pretend that your life is not bad.

This is not self-deception, but a kind of wisdom in life.

Nowadays, people are living under heavy pressure. More and more people have become isolated islands, with superficial social interactions and crumbling love. Many times, they are too overwhelmed to take care of themselves and have no energy to take care of you. So don't place your hopes on others, and don't imagine that others can have feelings for your experience.

They are all too busy, and only you can pull yourself out of the trough.

For example, if you suddenly quit your job and suddenly become unemployed, even though you have your own reasons, such as feeling that the salary is very low, that there is no future, or that the job is worthless, you don’t need to. Talk to others about these reasons, because there is a high probability that no one will understand you.

They may politely comfort you, or criticize your former company in conjunction with your performance, but in their hearts, they still cannot understand your impulse and pain.

Instead of this, it is better to regard this resignation as a hard-earned vacation, relax and have fun, go to places you usually want to go but don’t have time to do, and do some things you like to do. In this way, you fall into the relaxed and comfortable atmosphere you pretend to be, and feel that this unemployment is no big deal. We don't know which choices are correct, at least we have crossed out the wrong choices first.

Besides, we are still young and have plenty of opportunities to make new choices, so there is no need to panic or lose.

For example, if you have been in a relationship for a long time and finally break up, it may be your fault or her responsibility. To explain it would take the length of a master's thesis. You and I are full of emotions. Others talk about it, from acquaintance and falling in love to getting along and hating each other, and they are filled with tears and full of sorrow, thinking that others can forgive you.

But in fact, people were already yawning after only listening to the beginning.

Instead of doing this, it’s better to coax yourself. I have a unique way to heal lovelorn. Every time I fall in love, I go to the restaurant and order a meal for one person, but the price is equivalent to two yuan. For the price of eating alone, I told myself after eating that it was actually not bad for one person, and I enjoyed eating more. Or go to a specialty store to buy clothes, and buy a piece of clothing that is about the same price as two couple's outfits. After buying it, you lie to yourself. In fact, it doesn't matter if you fall out of love. At least you can save some money and wear better.

After continuous self-hypnosis, I slowly came out of the haze of lovelorn. I no longer wanted to listen to those bullshit romantic love stories, but just wanted to make money (laughing).

This kind of "spiritual victory method" similar to Ah Q's may sound funny and look funny, but it is really practical.

Jia Pingwa wrote such a plot in a book. The protagonist is a waste collector. Later, he got a serious stomach problem. He had stomach pain every time he worked. He went to the doctor and found folk remedies, but he ignored them. After using it, I fell down on the roadside in pain several times. Later, he came up with a way. Every night he touched his stomach and talked to it, telling it that you must be obedient and sensible. When I make money, I will serve you delicious food. Later, the stomach problem really stopped working. Whenever he made a mistake, he regarded it as a miracle.

At the end of Yu Hua's book "Alive", the helpless Fugui said to the old cow: Today is Qing, Erxi plowed one acre, Jiazhen, Fengxia plowed seven, Eighty percent of the field, even half an acre of Kugen was cultivated. As for you, I won’t tell you how much you have cultivated. If I tell you, you will think I am trying to shame you. Having said that, you are old, so you have to work hard to cultivate so many fields.

Fugui regarded the old cow as his sustenance and coaxed himself to continue living.

You can say that these are stupid self-deceptions, but I think this is self-salvation. Only by reconciling with yourself can you reconcile with the world.

We also need to get used to the fact that even if it is a big deal in our own world, it is an insignificant thing in the world of others.

The joys and sorrows of human beings are not the same, they will only think you are noisy.

And only yourself is the antidote to save yourself.