"Son, why are you so good to your daughter-in-law? What a coward! " How to return to such a mother-in-law

Wife: "alas! How can a housewife always have endless housework? "

Husband: "Impossible! You don't agree with me to marry two. "

Marry two wives and you can finish the housework?

Since ancient times, it has always been a marriage mode of "the man is the master and the woman is the master", which seems to have become a tradition. After a woman gets married, there is no romance and freedom, only an empty house and endless housework.

After marriage, women have to wear several hats, such as cook, nanny, cleaner, driver and nurse. As if she were a top, spinning tirelessly.

"It is a woman's duty to do housework, and it is also a woman's duty to take care of children." There are countless people who have such ideas.

Nowadays, with the rapid development of society, when women begin to wake up, break away from convention and do things that used to be thought that only men can do, such as "women are the external masters and men are the internal masters", can you accept it?

Guangping and his wife have been married for three years. At first, her wife was at ease at home and kept the house in good order, but her mother-in-law always came to pick and choose from time to time. Guangping encouraged his wife to do research and then find a job instead of staying at home.

The wife quickly found a job and worked hard. Because his wife is in the period of career precipitation and rising, after discussion, Guangping proposed that his wife should be busy with her own career first, and then consider the children's affairs after her career is stable.

His wife goes out early and comes back late every day, and Guangping gets up early to make breakfast for his wife.

My wife often works overtime at night, and Guangping will send her dinner and pick her up after work.

After a hard day in the company, his wife was very tired when she got home, so Guangping took the initiative to do housework such as washing clothes and mopping the floor.

Guangping's working hours are relatively fixed, and his spare time focuses on his family. Even his buddies invited him to drink at night many times, but he refused.

On one occasion, Guangping's sister came to visit her home. It was at night. Seeing her sister-in-law coming home, she stretched her feet and rested on the sofa, while her brother ran before and after pouring water, cooking and washing dishes after dinner.

A few days later, at the weekend, my mother-in-law came, and then she got angry and scolded her daughter-in-law for not doing housework. Seeing her daughter-in-law say nothing, she speaks even more recklessly.

At this moment Guangping spoke: "Mom, mind your own business. She earns more than me now and doesn't have to do housework. "

Mother-in-law was furious: "Why are you so kind to your daughter-in-law? Why do you do housework? What a coward! What a pity! You should go out to drink more after work! "

Guangping replied domineering: "Mom, I don't care how my sister complains at your place. What I want to say is that times have changed and your ideas are out of date. It is shameful for men to do housework. Who stipulates that women must do housework?

At the beginning, my wife cleaned up the house thoroughly, so I didn't have to take care of anything. It's so nice of you to come. When she saw the dust on the windowsill, she erased everything she had done and said all kinds of ugly things.

Now my wife is busy at work and earns so much more money than I do. She spends more time working. I am willing to take the responsibility of cleaning the house. I don't want to make her tired! Husband and wife should help each other, * * * housework to make money, all for the good of this family! After all, what does this have to do with you? "

My mother-in-law was speechless and silent for a long time. Her mother-in-law burst into tears: "If your father is like you, why am I like this?"

In the traditional concept handed down from generation to generation, it is natural for a woman to serve a man and turn around him all her life, washing, cooking and doing housework for him.

Some mothers-in-law think that women should put men first, so it is natural that daughters-in-law should also focus on their sons and give them whatever they want. Once a son is kind to his daughter-in-law, it is cowardly and worthless.

But actually getting married is a matter for two people. No matter what they do, they are both tied together. Between husband and wife, one glory is glorious, and one loss is lost.

Therefore, whether it is property or debt, or doing housework, supporting the elderly, or even raising children and adults, we must bear it together. No one stipulates that women must bear all the responsibilities, while men just need to enjoy life.

In marriage, as a whole, men and women need to share the housework, which is an obligation and a responsibility, with one person sharing half.

However, home is a place to love, not to reason. So when one of them is busy at work and the other is not so busy, he can take care of his family and children properly.

And this, regardless of gender. Women can also work and men can do housework, which is nothing to be ashamed of. Husband and wife work together for the happy future of this family. How is this shameful?

Instead, it's those who point fingers and gossip behind their backs. Do they look down on other people's happiness or what?

Judging from what Guangping's mother said, she should also be a victim of old ideas, because her family used to be like this, and she thought everything should be like this. As we all know, a real marriage needs the mutual support of husband and wife.

At the same time, the last sentence about Guangping, the young couple's business is really not the mother-in-law's responsibility. Mother-in-law always has a strong desire for control, but since children are married and independent, they are independent individuals.

Mother-in-law always intervenes in the affairs of the young couple, but she will have a bad feeling, which not only destroys the feelings of the young couple, but also gradually alienates herself from the children.

Cousin Xiaoyu worked as a housewife before, and after giving birth, she began to do some part-time painting on the computer. As time went on, she painted better and better and received more orders.

Mother-in-law often helps Xiaoyu with her work, babysitting and housework. When her son came home from work, her mother-in-law also asked her son to do more work at home and take care of the children at night. Xiaoyu is tired of painting and looking after children.

Xiaoyu spends a lot of money and buys a lot of things for her children. Her mother-in-law never said anything wrong. Even if Xiaoyu quarrels with her husband, her mother-in-law always blames her son and always treats Xiaoyu as a prostitute. There are both appropriate limits and intimacy.

A reasonable mother-in-law will not take care of things between young couples, let alone let her daughter-in-law do this and that. Instead, I will treat my daughter-in-law as my own, not an outsider. Obviously, they are all women, so it is easier to get along with them by knowing more about women's minds.

Look at your heart, you are good to your daughter-in-law, your son and daughter-in-law will appreciate you, and they will naturally be good to you.

Men should remember that it is not natural for a daughter-in-law to do housework, nor is it natural for a daughter-in-law to look after children. It is natural for a man to be kind to his daughter-in-law.