Why don't your children study hard?

Since the children went to primary school, academic performance has become the focus of parents' attention. Under the current education mode, no matter how to talk about quality education, the key to determining the future fate of children is that the test scores remain unchanged. Even if my child is proficient in piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, he can't learn well and can't be called an excellent child. In this era of great competitive pressure, it seems that it is not children who go to school, but parents; Parents are the ones who bear the greatest pressure such as junior high school.

Although helpless, I have to face it. Nearly 90% of parents are dissatisfied with their children's study. So, why don't your children study well enough? After reading this article, maybe you will get some insight.

0 1. Is your child like this?

When children reach the lower grades, the school focuses on cultivating children's basic study habits such as writing and seriousness. Homework and exams are very simple, often in the same class. Many children can get full marks, and everyone is very happy. At this stage, there is basically no big difference in academic performance. Children are happy and parents are complacent. They think children are learning materials and children are great! However, children's learning problems have gradually emerged since they entered the third and fourth grades and the fifth and sixth grades. Many questions are sexual. Do you think your children have these problems?

The exam results are not ideal.

In the junior, middle and senior grades, it is obviously not so easy to get full marks. You can't do the questions you can't do, you can't do the questions you can't do, you are careless if you don't have a solid grasp, and your exam results are unstable, sometimes good and sometimes bad. Sometimes it makes parents angry to see the test paper.

Work along, work hard.

With the increase of homework and the escalation of difficulty, children and parents need a lot of time to spend on homework every day. It is often more and more difficult for children to do homework after 9 pm, and it is more and more difficult for parents to give guidance. Weekend homework or holiday homework often lingers until the last night.

There are many math problems that can't be solved in middle and senior grades.

Just like the joke in cross talk that "the water inlet pipe and the drainage pipe open the irrigation pool for several hours at the same time", the math application problems in junior, middle and senior grades are more difficult. If children don't learn thoroughly in class, many math problems will become as difficult as parents and children. While lamenting whether the questioner is "full", it is inevitable to be anxious: why can't our children?

The composition stays at the level of daily account.

From the beginning to write a paragraph, keep a diary and write a little travel notes, to the primary school stage, the requirements for children's writing are getting higher and higher. Homework will be assigned on weekends, and composition will be tested in Chinese exams. However, many children's writing level has been stuck in the lower grade stage, often staring at the topic in a daze, unable to squeeze out a word for a long time, unable to write, unable to write well, and unable to get high marks. Bored, empty, poor in vocabulary, superficial and scattered, parents feel that they can't change.

Playful, without self-control

Although both children and parents feel that the learning burden is heavy, children still can't change their playful nature. I want to get off the computer, play with my mobile phone and watch TV when I have time. They forget to study while playing and have no self-control.

02. Is Xueba "someone else's child"?

Every class has several primary school bullies that all children and parents envy. There is such a person beside Bian Xiao in Fast Dream Education. Do you feel the same as the top students around you?

This child is in the fifth grade this year and usually plays very hard. He hardly attends any remedial classes, but he studies well and never has any problems that he can't solve. His homework is easy to finish and he always gets an A+. He always wins big prizes in various competitions, and he always gets full marks in exams. The key is that when everyone else fails and there is only one full mark in the class, does he still get full marks? You mean irritating, not irritating? As said in the paragraph, scum asked Xueba how to get more than 95 points, and Xueba's answer was: That's not easy. Just leave two questions blank and don't do them! We really don't understand the world of Xueba?

Why is my child not a schoolmaster?

Objectively speaking, IQ has a little influence on learning, but it is definitely not a decisive factor. With the development of modern society and the improvement of national quality, there is no great congenital gap between children. So, why is there a division between top students and ordinary students?

The most common reasons given by parents are two:

1, my children just play?

2. Is my child careless?

So, are these two reasons valid?

Speaking of fun, every child loves to play. On the contrary, children who study well play more time than those who study poorly. Many children who don't study very well are often squeezed out by their parents in their spare time. It can be seen that playing is not the reason for not studying well.

If you say something carelessly, parents often think that my child knows this problem clearly because he didn't do it right in the end. All wet! 1+ 1=2, no matter how careless, you can't make mistakes, can you? Why? Because of proficiency! Carelessness is also a sign of poor learning ability If you don't do it right, you won't Not without a solid grasp!

Since it is not these two superficial excuses, why don't children study well enough?

03. Why don't children study hard?

Many educational experts' research shows that the quality of children's academic performance has its deep-seated essential reasons. To sum up, there are several key points:

I'm not interested in studying.

For children, learning is only a task imposed by parents and schools. Children learn passively for others, not out of their own interest in the subject, but for themselves.

Learning wisdom is not yet enlightened.

Countless educational experiences show that all children have the day of enlightenment in their studies, but the day of enlightenment, some come early and some come late. As the saying goes: "Children are sensible!" Inspiration is something that can only be understood but not expressed. An enlightened child, like getting through the second pulse of Ren Du, can learn it at once, which shows that the child has realized the correct learning method. Poor learning means that learning wisdom has not been enlightened.

Did not develop good study habits.

Influenced by the family education environment, children's study habits are different, some positive and some negative; Some are rigorous and some are lazy; Some people value it, some people despise it? Children's poor learning is often due to the lack of correct learning concepts, serious and meticulous attitude, time planning and management skills, and self-summary awareness.

No effective learning method was found.

Learning pays attention to skills and methods, and proper methods can get twice the result with half the effort; If you can't get a method, you will get twice the result with half the effort. Children with poor grades usually study with physical strength and energy, not with wisdom and thinking. Fighting for study time, after-school tutoring and sea tactics are not the right ways to learn.

04. What happened to parents?

In the process of school-based education, all teachers in the school are treated equally. In the same teaching environment, why do children get grades? It is the difference in family education! Therefore, parents should bear great responsibility for their children's learning problems. Parents should consider the following questions:

Supervise and help children do their homework every day.

Parents, like sheepdogs, stare at their children's homework every day and spend a lot of time on supervision and counseling, but they just cultivate their children's learning dependence and make them feel that they are learning for their parents. Passivity+dependence = weariness of learning!

Yelling at children with poor grades.

It is the common mentality of parents to hope for success and hate iron and not produce steel. Parents are the most anxious once their children behave badly in school. If they can't control their emotions well, they will always "yell" at their children. However, is it useful to shout? Yes, it is also counterproductive. Many things are incomprehensible at a child's age, and all children can feel are grievances and actual inner conflicts.

Deprive children of entertainment time.

Many parents forbid their children to engage in computer, mobile phone, TV and other entertainment activities in order to ensure their children's study time and extracurricular tutoring time. Of course, this is understandable. It is a good thing to protect your eyesight and put an end to game addiction. However, unconsciously, it also closed the door of the times for children. Children suppress their inner desire to play while accepting heavy learning tasks. In this state of mind, it is strange that they can learn well. The correct approach should be: benign guidance, reasonable planning, and a combination of work and rest.

Force children to follow their parents' plans.

Many parents pin all their hopes on their children and can't wait to realize their unfulfilled wishes as children. I haven't studied piano, but I envy it. I want my children to learn piano. I can't draw, but I envy it, so I want my children to learn to draw? Others are learning Go, so should our children. Who is learning to dance, and our children have to sign up? You know, any talent that wants to reach a higher level needs efforts, and the process must be very boring. Do children study for themselves or for their parents? Have parents really considered it? When children say "I like learning", are they actually comparing with learning or playing games? In fact, the real mentality of many children is: at least learning this is much better than learning to do problems at home, right?

Let children participate in a large number of cultural classes.

If the child's grades are not good, the parents will report to the cram school. Mathematics can't complement mathematics, and Chinese can't complement Chinese. My parents think that my child knows everything now, right? But in fact? This problem will be solved, but not the next one. On the contrary, more and more problems are not solved. What's going on here? A child once told Bian Xiao of Kuaimeng Education that in our class, someone made up English in the morning, math in the afternoon and Chinese in the evening, but his mother certainly didn't know that XX always slept in class! Where can the usual cram school make up for it? It treats the headache and the foot pain, but it treats the symptoms rather than the root cause. On the contrary, it makes children dependent and the school is not easy to learn. There are cram schools anyway! Parents must look at this double-edged sword.

05. How can I make my study better?

It is not enough to reflect, but also to find the correct solution. Find the root cause and prescribe the right medicine. This requires parents to reverse some biased educational concepts and take a good look at the current educational environment and methods. As long as children are "enlightened" in their studies, all problems will be solved.

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Cultivate children's interest in learning

Interest is the best teacher. Mathematics, Chinese, English, as well as historical geography and physical chemistry to be studied in the future, seem boring, but in fact they all have strong practicability, and they all contain great wisdom and rich knowledge and fun. It is necessary to guide children to find and enjoy these pleasures in the process of learning, and constantly inspire children with a sense of accomplishment. Driven by interest, children can go further and further on the road to success.

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Cultivate a sense of honor and enterprise

Parents should communicate with their children more and tell them that they are working hard for their future, and that achievements and honors belong to their own children. Pay attention to your own progress and promotion, and win more praise and recognition for yourself.

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Cultivate good study habits

Talk to your child, find out the bad study habits, correct procrastination, set up the wrong book, do well today's work, write carefully and be good at summing up? Recognizing the problem is the first step to solve it. Parents can establish a study plan with their children, manage their children's time well, assist their children to complete the plan by reminding them, encourage them more with less criticism, and set certain entertainment or material rewards.

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Learn Mathematics Well —— Establish Mathematical Thinking

The key to learning mathematics well is to establish mathematical thinking ability, including logical analysis ability, spatial thinking ability and calculation ability. Children should start from establishing mathematical thinking, find ever-changing laws from ever-changing, and learn to draw inferences from others. For questions that children can't learn, don't blindly coach them, but guide them to find out the reasons and thoroughly understand the core knowledge points and assessment points. Wrong questions should be recorded in a special book, and similar questions should be recorded by summarizing the rules of problem-solving ideas.

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Learn Chinese well-read a lot

The key to learning Chinese is reading a lot. The Ministry of Education stipulates that primary school reading should reach 2.2 million words, but children often can't even get a fraction. In order to cultivate children's interest in reading, establish a good family reading environment, guide children to read quickly, extensively and intensively, and exercise their ability to summarize the main contents and central ideas in reading, it is advisable to ask questions and let children express their gains orally.

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Improve learning efficiency

Let children learn more efficient learning methods besides talent and make up lessons, such as mastering certain scientific memory methods of primary school Chinese and English learning; For the study of mathematics, properly contact with certain Olympic mathematics content; Do some targeted writing training and so on.

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Cultivate learning initiative

As parents, we should correctly guide children's attitude towards learning and not exclude entertainment, but we should play while learning. Cultivate children's scientific inquiry consciousness and thirst for knowledge, encourage children to think independently, practice and solve problems by themselves, and form good subjective initiative.

To sum up, the right way to become a bully is to let children truly realize their learning and fundamentally cultivate their learning ability. The team of experts of Dr. Meng Education believes that children's potential is unlimited, and every child is a genius. Even if your child is inferior to others in 99% aspects, he must be superior to others 1%. To achieve satisfactory results, the key lies in whether to adopt scientific and correct educational methods. Ideas determine thinking, and thinking determines results. Parents, isn't it time to rethink planning their children's future growth and development?