Is it true that men are gentlemanly and most popular with girls?

Is it true that men are gentlemanly and most popular with girls? Sometimes gentlemen can make people feel alienated.

English men are all gentlemen? When it comes to Britain, people first think of "the gentlemanliness of English men": straight suits, hats, umbrellas with long handles or black canes; They have high status, good education, elegant manners, modesty and gentleness, courtesy, honesty and trustworthiness, and respect for women. When I was in college, my English teacher was Mr. Shi, the wife of Mr. Chen, vice chairman of Jiu San Society. She studied in Coventry for a long time, which is only 15 minutes' drive from Warwick College where I went to school. She often feels British gentlemanliness in class: sometimes when she goes out with British male colleagues, her colleagues will let her go first; Walking in the street, men must walk outside to prevent accidents. But she spoke quickly, was "restless" and often "deviant", so she made many jokes. Before going abroad, my colleagues and friends also let me have a good look at the gentlemanly manners of the British. I once thought: "China is also a country of etiquette, so what about English gentlemen?" ? When I went to England, everything made me feel that the gentlemanliness of the British was really amazing.

Respect for women is a concentrated expression of British gentlemanliness. It is very uncivilized for men to grab seats in public, especially with women. When a man meets a lady, he must ask her to go first. Now British men don't have to say "ladies first", but use a friendly and elegant gesture to indicate that ladies are advanced. As soon as I opened the door, I met someone behind me, especially a lady who was about to walk in. You must wait until you come and grab the door before you leave. Such a thing is an important aspect of showing gentlemanly demeanor, and it is also something that people are willing to talk about.

When you first arrive in England, when you are a stranger, it is common to ask for directions. My colleagues and I in China have a general feeling that the British are very warm and polite. As long as you ask for directions, they are never stingy and are responsible for the end. In the town of Bath, I once went to a place called Bath Boating Station by myself. I know this place very well, and I want to deliberately test the patience of this English "gentleman". I asked a middle-aged man who was in a hurry in the street. He enthusiastically told me how to get there. After I explained, I pretended not to understand. Seeing that I was really in trouble, he simply led me to my destination and walked for nearly 20 minutes. Along the way, he kept complaining that the streets in Britain were messy and some places were hard to find, which brought a lot of inconvenience to tourists.

One weekend, I invited a friend to Cambridge University. I arrived at the railway station early. Not many people. The conductor is a gentleman in a suit and tie. I first asked him the train number, fare and time I would take, and then sat in an armchair waiting for my friend. But the 9: 30 train is coming and my friend hasn't come yet. At this moment, the conductor put down his work, came to me and said politely, "The train you are going to take is coming in. Why not take it? " Do you need any help? "I said that when my friend went with me, he said that he could make a phone call for me, but my friend didn't have a mobile phone or a landline. He suggested leaving a message for my friend ... My friend didn't go to Cambridge in the end. I don't know how the gentleman conductor handled my note. In fact, English gentlemen are so serious and responsible.

Nowadays, it is very shallow to judge whether a person is a gentleman only by his clothes. Of course, those who wear suits and ties, hold their heads high, look handsome, and look fresh and gentle are the real "gentlemen", which makes female colleagues in China very envious. However, English gentlemen are not only "men's patents", but also women and children. In fact, the "gentlemanly demeanor" of the British people is reflected in daily life and goes deep into the bone marrow of the whole nation.

First of all, it is reflected in speech, tone and gestures. In Britain, when talking with people, a lot of movements and loud noises, especially shaking your head and swearing constantly, will be considered rude behavior without education. During my stay in Britain, my colleagues and I in China heard the most frequently used words: "Thank you", "Please forgive me", "I'm sorry" and "You're welcome". There is a path in front of the teaching building of Warwick College, which is full of people before class in the morning. Later people will get a "thank you" when they pass the path. If someone doesn't notice, he will take the initiative to say "please forgive"! This is true in buses, shops, bars and all public places. And their tone is gentle, sincere and simple, and there is no suspicion of affectation. The voice of "thank you" makes people feel the warmth of society, and the sentence of "please forgive" makes people feel the harmony of society. According to the British themselves, they often say these three words, not only others are happy, but also themselves. So how is the gentleman atmosphere in Britain formed? First, Britain has a longer history than the United States or other European countries, and feudal rule has made the British more tolerant. In addition, Britain has formed a conservative character on its relatively isolated island. Second, Queen Victoria reigned for 60 years. Her reign was a period when Britain gradually reached its peak, and it was also the most important period for the formation of various etiquette. She finally made Britain a world-famous "state of etiquette". Queen Victoria was once famous in continental Europe for her elegant personal cultivation. She has made a series of strict family rules and is very strict with the upbringing of her children. If she is not careful, she lashes them mercilessly. She is very strict about her image education, demanding that she be elegant, decent, dignified and temperate everywhere. The Victorian era was called "elegant society" by later generations. The behavior of the Queen of England had a great influence on the middle class in Britain in the future and became the highest standard they followed. The Victorian period was also the period when British gentlemanliness was finally formed and perfected.

What impressed me most about going to Britain was "driving civilization". 80%-90% people in Britain have cars, so there are few pedestrians on the road. There are traffic light operators at the intersection with heavy traffic. Pedestrians need to press the operator beside the sidewalk when crossing the road. When the signal light changes from red to green or a prompt tone appears, pedestrians can contact the operator. There are no operators on individual sidewalks, and pedestrians must stop when passing vehicles; If the driver sees someone crossing the sidewalk, he will stop early to make way. This is very common in Britain. Several times, my colleagues in China and I were embarrassed and just wanted to take a step, but when we saw a car coming, we had to shrink back. The driver always stops to control you: you can't go first! However, a few years ago, a big city in the same city introduced a traffic law: pedestrians crossing the road disobeyed the rules and killed people in vain. What a sharp contrast!

What moved me most was one thing before returning to China. It's time to go back to China and sell things at Tesco, the biggest supermarket in the area. Tesco's design is very user-friendly. There is a long glass corridor outside the supermarket, and most private cars are parked next to it. There are too many rainy days in Britain, so customers can push the commodity car out of the supermarket gate and enter the glass corridor, and then enter the car through the corridor, saving the hard work of opening an umbrella in the rain. I pushed my bag to buy good things and waited in the corridor for a whole hour. The rain didn't stop, so I had to get up my courage and go ahead in the rain! Walking out of the corridor and stepping on the steps is a branch line of the expressway. Cars in the rain also seem to take shelter from the rain and drive very fast. There are no traffic lights, but there is an intersection sign. I was hesitating about the way, when all the cars in the two-way lane stopped, and the driver of a car close to me kept beckoning me to go first! I hurried across the street and looked back at the cars in the two-way lane. There was a lot of traffic. When I shared this experience with my colleagues in China, my colleagues joked: Is it because there are few pedestrians in Britain and things are rare? Of course, there are few pedestrians on the road. I'm afraid I was the only one on that road that day, but there are many cars in Britain! Traffic intersections without traffic lights generally have signs to give way, which makes the atmosphere of giving way enviable. There is such a road on my way to college, and the traffic volume during peak hours is similar to that of Chang 'an Avenue in Beijing. After school, I often sit on the side of the road and admire the civilization of their driving. I noticed in particular that the driver will consciously slow down when driving from the slip road to the main road, and look around to make sure that it will not affect the main road before going on the road. They are also modest when driving and often look at gestures to thank each other. Once, a woman's car was crowded in the motorcade and it was difficult to pass. A man saw that there was still a distance behind his car, and immediately backed up and politely signaled the woman to pass. At the moment of passing by, she smiled, took off her sunglasses and waved her thanks to him. This scene of urban civilization is unforgettable.

There are times when traffic in Britain is scary, that is, ambulances and fire engines. When the vehicles on the road pull up the siren, whenever the vehicles on both sides of the road are parked on both sides of the road without exception, regardless of the red light and green light, these ambulances walk around unscrupulously. "Crazy driving" is the best way to describe a driver. I once discussed this problem with the landlord, and the landlord replied: the siren sounded, indicating that this is a matter of life and death, or injury or illness or fire. To make way for these vehicles is to save people's lives as soon as possible.

The British are also a people who like to queue up very much. At stations, banks, cinemas, customs, restaurants and scenic spots. ..........................................................................................................................................................

In my opinion, gentlemanliness is a kind of culture. It is a kind of civilization naturally formed after the economic, cultural and educational level reaches a certain level. Once this civilization is formed, it will have a strong social effect. This kind of civilization will constantly influence the individual in society and make everyone try to be a modest and polite gentleman. No wonder you can see that people don't litter or spit in public places. In the supermarket, people can go in with their big bags and small bags, and no one will check you out. There is an automatic credit card counter, you can scan the goods yourself and check out yourself. In most railway stations, tickets are sold and no one checks them; The fruit trees on the roadside are full of mouth-watering fruits, and no one can pick them at will. ...

Does every man have to be a gentleman? Of course he has to be a gentleman.

A gentleman's demeanor is politeness.

How to Cultivate the Connotation of Gentleman Manner

Gentleman demeanor can only be possessed by boys? Yes, gentlemanly demeanor refers to the charm of being polite, educated and elegant displayed by men. If a lady shows these, it is not a gentleman's demeanor, so it can be said that her family is good and so on.

Gentleman demeanor and chivalry Gentleman demeanor, courteous, well-dressed, respectful of women, elegant in speech, cultured, knowledgeable, caring, respectful of women, away from bad hobbies, healthy, civilized in manners, elegant in speech, well-dressed, and good in interpersonal relationships. In order to win the gentlemanly demeanor of women, it is a bit too tired to exercise specially to make up for their own shortcomings. The biggest difference between people is the difference in thinking. Even if they are identical twins, their minds are different, but it is this difference that has created this ever-changing wonderful society. Of course, to say that I think it's important to have a good attitude, and peace is also good. Because this is itself a question of comprehensive quality, rather than compensation there and there, the overall comprehensive problem should be qualitatively changed with a dull and internal accumulation. That's the truest and truest expression.

A man's politeness can often show a man's moral demeanor in a civilized society, and can also show a man's education level. In fact, a man's demeanor should be reflected not only in his communication with his girlfriend, but also in his attitude towards women in his daily life.

(1) You should greet the familiar lady with a slight nod first. If a lady walks up to you, please remember that you can only shake her hand when she reaches out.

(2) When you meet a familiar lady in a public place, you don't have to shake hands, but you must take your hand out of your pocket and take the cigarette away from your mouth. If you are eating, you should stop chewing. Of course, so do women. It is disgraceful for a man to stop a woman in the street, even an acquaintance. Of course, if there is an emergency, there can be exceptions.

(3) If you meet an acquaintance while walking in the street with your female companion, you can't let your female companion hang out and chat with the acquaintance endlessly. You can introduce acquaintances to your female companion, but if you have to talk to acquaintances about something, you can make an appointment or make a phone call if you can't say it clearly in a few words.

(4) If a woman is in the car you drive, you must open the door and let the woman sit in the co-pilot position first, then you can sit in your own position. When the lady gets off, you should get off first and open the door for the lady. It's unsightly to bend over to open the door in the car. Of course, women can't take out their luggage by themselves.

(5) When you meet a familiar lady in a cafe or restaurant, you should lean forward slightly from your seat to show your welcome. If a lady approaches you, stand up and talk to her.

At the party, your girlfriend will go to the bathroom to clean up. You can take her to the hall, but be careful about the detour so as not to disturb the people who are dancing. "Chivalrous morality is the noble cultural spirit of the upper class. It is a moral personality spirit based on the superiority of personal identity, but it also accumulates some positive factors of the ancient warrior spirit of western European nations. As belinsky pointed out, "Love and respect individual personality; The generous and brave spirit of sacrificing all strength and even life for the oppressed and the forced; Western scholars point out that tradition has the upper hand in Europe as far as the tendency to choose morality is concerned. In the western cultural tradition, chivalry in the middle ages plays an extremely important role in shaping the national character of modern Europe.

It constitutes the so-called "gentleman spirit" in western European countries, and forms the attention of modern Europeans to personal identity and honor and etiquette. Pay attention to etiquette and appearance; Yearning for advocating spiritual ideals and respecting the romantic temperament of women; While observing open competition, fair competition depends on spiritual quality. In a word, it makes the national character of modern Europeans not only contain elegant aristocratic elements, but also have the generous military character of keeping promises, helping others and sacrificing for ideals and honors.

Eternal myth-immortal chivalry

Chivalry, believe in a belief. Standing on the lonely peak, let the wind drive the shabby clothes, pat the armor covered with dirt, lift the bloody face and stare at the distance with a smile. Fame, etiquette, humility, perseverance, loyalty, pride and piety. ...

The chivalry of men's spiritual level runs through the whole process of human development. No matter through the ages, east, west, north and south, without exception. Japan has the spirit of samurai, and their loyalty is to the emperor. China has a chivalrous way. They are loyal to heaven and to the moral standards set by heaven. There are so-called acts of heaven. Chivalry in the west is the most romantic. If he is loyal to a woman, he will never be the laughing stock of others.

They shed too much blood, but their loyalty to the empire is like a solid armor, protected on the chest of the motherland. With the knight's unswerving determination, the empire has unparalleled pride and reserves.

I believe that every warrior and knight's spiritual home has an empire that can give everything for it. This is our belief.

Empire is proud and sacred, even if it is a declining empire. Why? Because he still has the loyal protection of the knight, the knight defended the proud empire with his life, thinking nothing, and some may just be the confidence of the empire that he will protect himself.

For the innate pride and confidence of the empire, the knight found his mission. For him, in order to realize his mission of protecting the empire, life can be taken away.

In the post-cold weapon era, chivalry has been transformed into gentlemanly demeanor. This gentlemanly demeanor transformed from chivalry has become the basic personality criterion of men in modern civilized life, and has spread to the whole world by extension.

Gentleman demeanor, full of romantic chivalrous spirit. In our society, it has become a symbol of men's quality in a sense.

We must not let selfish, greedy, seductive, self-destructive and other evil forces invade our inner princess. In other words, no matter what kind of environment we are in, we can't lose our sense of justice or go against our conscience. As a man, we need such chivalry.

There is no shortage of chivalry in this world. Therefore, we are moved by some real stories every day.

Yes, chivalry is a belief, a sword for people to overcome all ugliness, and a man's demeanor.

(7) After the party, if you can drive your girlfriend home by yourself or take a taxi, don't forget to thank her for accepting the invitation to the party. I usually watch my girlfriend approach the stairs or the door. It's more polite to get off and see your girlfriend off at her door.

What do you mean by being a gentleman?

[Interpretation] Characterized by a gentleman, it refers to a civilized and elegant identity.

Gentleman's demeanor is the basic etiquette standard advocated by the public in western countries, especially the male public in Britain. Asking people to pay attention to their appearance and manners in public communication can give people the impression of being polite and educated. More refers to a man's polite way.

Does America pay attention to gentlemanly manners? Still exquisite, but not too much.

There are formal occasions and general occasions.

On formal occasions, women are preferred.

However, if you queue up to buy a dish at work on weekdays, it will be a problem for women to rank first.