Which relatives should have less contact with each other during the Chinese New Year?

Among the many customs during the New Year, the one that everyone hates the most is paying New Year greetings, because in this way, you have to face questioning from various relatives. The connections between modern people are getting weaker and weaker. Throughout the year, we can only say a few words during the New Year, which makes New Year greetings even more embarrassing. There are several annoying relatives:

1. Relatives who smile on the surface but gossip behind their backs.

Stay away. There are many people who are getting older. They have nothing to do in their fifties and sixties. What they like to do most is gossip. You like to talk about everything to others, and don't care about the feelings of the person concerned or the impact of your own nonsense. Everyone in my family is considered one of my own, so I always share some things with everyone without hesitation. And if this kind of family matter is known by these talkative people, it will be known to everyone immediately, and the person involved will suddenly become a big joke and become a topic of conversation before and after tea. They also feel that what they have done is not wrong and they have no intention of repenting, so it is better to stay away from such people.

2. Stay away from your good relatives if you don’t want to see them.

There is a saying that goes well, some people want you to live well, but they don’t want you to be better than him. Many relatives are like this, or even worse. Their greatest pleasure every day is to know what misfortunes have happened to the people around them, which makes them feel a sense of superiority that they usually have no ability to obtain.

If something good happens in your family, they will immediately pour cold water on you and say that you will not always be good. The jealousy is self-evident. And if you say something very ordinary, he will tell others in an exaggerated way in order to attract everyone's attention. In the end, the news will become more and more outrageous, and uninformed people will take it seriously.

3. Stay away from two-faced relatives.

This kind of relative is also very annoying. Let me give you an example. Maybe your family needs help very much now, but instead of helping, he says that he is poorer than you and it is you who should help him. Even raking it over can make your situation worse. In fact, there are many reasons not to help, but pretending to be poor is really detrimental to one's moral character.

Not only will he not help, but he will also laugh at you behind your back, saying that your current unhappiness is all because you didn't listen to him. If he has money, he will try every means to show it off, even if he pretends to be poor in front of you. If someone is rich, he will show a flattering look, which makes people look down on him. When they are in trouble, they will try their best to get you to help them, making up various excuses to kidnap your morals and make you feel guilty.

Don’t talk about what he has done for you. If you don’t help, he will go around talking bad about you and make your relationship rotten. Even if you help him, he will not be grateful. Instead, he will complain that you did not help him effectively enough or in time enough. This kind of person is a vampire, and the farther away the better.

4. Stay away from relatives who like to ridicule you.

Some people just like to deny others. When they meet, they will show concern and ask you how you are doing. If they say that you bought a house, they will say that your house is not good, the foundation is not good, the development is not good, or someone they know bought a house that is bigger than yours.

If you say you have a good job, they will say that the job is useless and may be lost at any time. It is not as good as the iron rice bowl of your son's three thousand or four thousand a year. If you point out his problem, he will say that he speaks bluntly. You really can't take a joke. Why is this kid so pretentious? If you can't stand and talk without pain, it's all your fault anyway.

In short, relatives are just people who are related to you by blood. Some relatives will help or take care of you. These kindnesses must be repaid well. But some relatives have not made any contribution in your life and only add trouble to you. Then they are just strangers who are related to you by blood. If they don't respect others, they will certainly not respect themselves, so you don't need to respect them. Staying away from them is the best way to protect yourself.