I have been delayed by love. What the hell is going on?

Every woman is beautiful when she is young. At least when she compares herself with herself, she can see the difference in face value under the crisscross of time and space as long as she takes out the photos many years ago. Time is like a sharp knife, focusing on youth, quietly taking away women's youth and depressing the value that women once cared most about.

Youth is often a "blink of an eye" thing, and it is not until 1: 30 that people suddenly realize. It turns out that they are no longer young!

For many older "leftover women", even if you can keep a girl's heart, you can't keep the youth and beauty that are destined to be taken away by the fleeting time. Picking and choosing in the process of looking for love, I spent my most beautiful years.

Love of beauty is the norm, and everyone has it. However, with the passage of time, years have left traces on the face, and even heavy makeup can't cover up the vicissitudes of life on the face. When youth is drifting away, it is easy to lose the courage to pursue love.

First, beauty makes people beautiful, but it also misleads many people's youth.

The word "love" is often annoying. Sometimes you love someone wholeheartedly, but what you get in the end is sadness. Sometimes there is a person who tries to be good to himself, but he is not his favorite type.

In love, women's feelings are often more delicate than men's. Because there are too many things to consider, people who are really worth cherishing are delayed unconsciously. The reason why many "leftover women" can't solve lifelong events is more or less related to their complex mentality, and they miss one person after another unconsciously.

Leftover women are different from leftover men. Generally speaking, leftover men want to get married but can't find a woman who is willing to marry themselves, and most of them can find someone who is willing to marry themselves but not willing to marry.

Meng Juan, 34, unmarried. Although she doesn't admit that she is a leftover woman, many people talk about her behind her back and occasionally describe her as a leftover woman. Meng Juan knows all this clearly, but she can't refute it. She has her own concept of love and always thinks that she is beautiful and has the capital to continue dragging on.

Meng Juan has been in love several times in the past 10 years. Because she thinks she is beautiful enough, she has never solved the big wedding. She doesn't like men who like her, and men she can like are not interested in her.

Meng Juan didn't know that she was not young or beautiful until her last lovelorn and her elders urged her to get married. It used to be beautiful, but now "beauty" is set off by the beauty of mobile phones. Lost beauty, just ordinary people.

A word from her ex-boyfriend brought Meng Juan back to her original shape. Playing cool with beautiful women all day, thinking that you are a goddess, is deceiving yourself. How old are you? Don't you know how much you weigh? I won't wait. I'm not getting married. Let's break up!

Second, her parents' urging for marriage made her "beautiful" speechless.

In Meng Juan's feelings, this lovelorn relationship is inevitable, because she despises her boyfriend and always feels that her boyfriend is above her. For her, this is just one example of many lovelorn people, not too sad. In her opinion, breaking up is not a problem at all, and she can continue to wait for a good man who really cherishes herself.

It's just that this time things are different. A word from her ex-boyfriend almost woke Meng Juan up from the long "goddess dream". She took out her toiletries, looked in the mirror and looked at her mobile phone. They are all herself, one is a goddess and the other is just a woman.

Even so, Meng Juan is not convinced. She is used to waking up every morning and taking selfies in her circle of friends. Every time someone praises her, saying that she is exquisite and beautiful, which makes Meng Juan full of confidence. But only half a month after the breakup, parents began to urge marriage again.

Meng Juan believes that marriage cannot be fixed. With the face value, there is capital to continue to drag on. If you want to find a man with good conditions.

My mother disagreed with Meng Juan and said malicious words to her for the first time. Be sure to get married this year, or don't go into the house. You think you are beautiful. You are not as beautiful as your aunt without a mobile phone. Take photos easily with your mobile phone all day, no matter how beautiful it is, it's not you, what's the use!

Meng Juan was even more unconvinced and contradicted her mother after being criticized. You've been urging marriage all day. What is wrong with me? I don't care whether I get married or not. Which girl doesn't need beauty these days? Is it wrong for girls to love beauty?

Meng Juan quarreled with her mother about proposing marriage. My mother wants her to get rid of the bill quickly, but she also has a wish not to deceive herself with her beauty all day, let alone dream of an unrealistic prince charming. Meng Juan has always stressed that she has not found a man worthy of herself. Girls should not criticize beautiful women!

Finally, Meng Juan's father stood up and completely shredded Meng Juan's "Goddess Dream" in one sentence. You are not a girl. You are 34 years old and an old girl. Your brother's children are 10 years old. Are you still young? Claiming that girls are not afraid of jokes!

Meng Juan doesn't know what to say. My father's words are too harsh and realistic.

Third, the blind date made her understand her "strength"

That day, Meng Juan rushed out of the house crying. She thought she had a face value and that she could find a boyfriend who matched her beauty. But if you think about what your parents said and then contact your ex-boyfriend, it seems that you are not too beautiful. ...

Are you really not young? Meng Juan is still unconvinced, after all, she is so young and beautiful in the photo. Even beauty is part of strength.

Meng Juan made a phone call to a man who seems to be interested in her on weekdays but she doesn't like it. This man is her colleague. Meng Juan said she was unhappy. Can you go out for a walk?

Men take taxis, take Meng Juan to dinner and go shopping.

Meng Juan asked him, "What do you think of me? Do you secretly like me? Do you think I am beautiful? "

The man was a little surprised and didn't dare to look her in the eye when he answered: "I think you are very nice and you dare to do it." I really have a crush on you for a long time, but I have never dared to confess. " My family wants to introduce me to someone. I mean, I can't date that woman for you. "

Meng Juan is impatient: "I ask you if I am beautiful, just say it, what nonsense!" " "

The man answered her, "You are the most beautiful in my heart, and I like you. If I can, I want to take care of you for a lifetime. "

In the rivers and lakes of feelings, there are always some "leftover women" who share Meng Juan's thoughts. They can't recognize themselves clearly, so they can only listen to good words, but not the truth. When others say that she is beautiful, she will feel attractive and think that others want to climb on her. She hates someone when they tell the truth.

After Meng Juan went back, she blacked out the man who secretly loved her and pretended not to know her.

For leftover women, the most feared thing is that their parents are urging them to get married. Meng Juan thought she could find it if she wanted to, but now there is no condition not to find it. In order to persuade her mother, Meng Juan agreed to a blind date.

But after the blind date, she realized that maybe she was really "old". Men of the same age probably have children, and those who have no children are seven or eight years younger than her, or even more than ten years old. The younger one despises her, and the older one has children. It's too difficult to find a suitable person.

Fourth, it is not beauty that delays love, but high heart.

In the memory of many leftover women, only by walking around the blind date field will they know how much they weigh. Too many women younger than themselves can take advantage of too little. Many men come on blind dates, but not many people can take a fancy to themselves.

After hitting a wall several times, Meng Juan finally understood her mother's words: Where did you get the capital to be picky? You are 34 years old. You can't find a suitable one when you are young, and it is even harder when you are old. It's good to meet someone who wants to live with you. Don't worry your father and me.

I thought I was beautiful. I thought I could at least get rid of the bill quickly if I wanted to find it, but I never thought that it was too difficult for Meng Juan to get rid of the bill. She has always been praised as beautiful and called a goddess, but she is too ordinary to be beautiful.

Meng Juan remembered the man who had secretly loved herself for several years, but unfortunately the blind date was over and there was no turning back. Meng Juan and he are colleagues. In the past, he was very concerned about Meng Juan. Now that people have taken off the bill, they don't care so much about Meng Juan.

This pair of people who should be lovers most will end up just ordinary colleagues.

Feelings are always strange to many people. When you don't want to fall in love seriously, there are always people around you. When I want to fall in love, I know that everyone around me has found the right person and is tired.

It's been 9 months since we broke up last time, and Meng Juan still hasn't found the right person. Her greatest wish is to take off the bill early. I didn't cherish so many opportunities in the past, but now every opportunity seems very extravagant.

She said that beauty made her overestimate herself and delayed love. In fact, the only thing that keeps her from falling in love is herself. The self-righteous goddess unconsciously turned herself into a leftover woman.

Sisters around the same age like to talk about children best. With the growth of age, those "romantic love stories" are no longer said.

Meng Juan realized that she was out of date and out of place in this circle.

The most beautiful thing in love is the consistent heart, not the face value.

I once met a lovelorn girl 1 year older than me. She said that her boyfriend didn't know how to cherish her, and she was in pain.

When introducing her emotional experience, she said this: "In fact, I am not ugly. I am smart and lively. Look at my photo. "

After that, she took out her mobile phone and pulled out some photos that she thought were the most beautiful.

At that time, I was thinking, you are sitting in front of me. Why should I look at your photos? How low is this emotional intelligence?

Besides, love has little to do with face value. Lovers have been in contact for a long time, and what they care most about is the clear and transparent heart of each other, not how much value you have.

Although "beauty" can increase women's self-confidence, it also makes many people overestimate themselves and miss people who should not be missed.

Sixth, a woman's greatest charm is not her face value.

Women should understand that beauty is a kind of temperament, not flashy publicity. It is elegant from the inside out, not the fake exquisiteness piled up by beauty. Life never needs to be fake and exquisite, so it's better not to be fake. A woman who dares to face her plain face is truly beautiful.

Many older unmarried women have expressed the view that the older they are, the less confident they are to pursue love. If they can't marry the right person after waiting for so long, they will feel more wronged and have to wait.

But the problem is that when you are young, you can't find a better love. What are the chances of finding it when you are old? Is it worth the wait?

Being more and more passive in the process of finding love is the biggest entanglement in the hearts of most leftover women. If you don't recognize yourself in the entanglement, you may be more entangled.