The groom went to pick up the bride, and the mother-in-law proposed to give her brother-in-law 30,000 yuan. What happened next?

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Nowadays, many people hire wedding companies to get married, and wedding companies will arrange many programs. These programs are actually a bit of a combination of Chinese and foreign. They have both old traditions and Western things. For example, wearing wedding dresses comes from the West. Our ancestors did not have wedding dresses.

But some families still choose to get married in the old traditional way, which will be more lively. Whether it is a new way of getting married or an old-fashioned way of getting married, as long as both men and women accept it, there is no problem.

Weddings are meant to be a joyous occasion. Relatives and friends are invited to witness the wedding. The bride and groom become newlyweds and start a new life happily. But when it comes to weddings, some unpleasant things happen to some families, mainly because of money issues.

Getting married is very expensive. If you count from the beginning of the relationship until the wedding is completed and the bride returns home, all the money spent in this process is huge. The wedding house alone is a huge amount of money, not to mention the bride price, wedding and dowry, etc.

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There are also various red envelopes at the wedding, which add up to a large amount of money, and most of these red envelopes are given by the men. For example, when a man goes to the bride's house to pick up a bride, he must give out a red envelope when he enters. Otherwise, the bride's house will put up several benches at the door to prevent the groom from entering, and the groom will not be able to pick up the bride.

Of course, both parties must discuss these matters before the wedding, and the wedding will be carried out as agreed upon by both parties, and everything will go smoothly and successfully. Generally, people abide by their agreements. Whatever is discussed before the wedding will be followed during the wedding.

But everything has exceptions, and some people will suddenly change their mind, such as adding red envelopes at the last minute. This can easily lead to unpleasantness. Even if the man is forced to give out extra red envelopes, he will still feel unhappy inside and feel like he has been kidnapped.

This situation happened when my cousin got married. Fortunately, my cousin-in-law took care of the overall situation, so the wedding went smoothly in the end. My cousin has an eldest brother, and her parents are very patriarchal. From a young age, they have always put their son first in everything.

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After the cousin and cousin-in-law fell in love, the cousin-in-law’s mother tried every means to get things from her son-in-law’s family through her daughter, and then used these things to please her son and daughter-in-law. Before my cousin and cousin-in-law got married, when the two families were discussing the wedding, the cousin-in-law's mother demanded a heavy gift.

Originally, my cousin’s family planned to pay 20,000 yuan as a bride price. At that time, 20,000 yuan was already considered a lot in our place. Most families only had a few thousand yuan, and some families had more than 10,000 yuan. Put the bucks. It was because my cousin's mother was very greedy for money, so my aunt and uncle gritted their teeth and wanted to give her 20,000 yuan.

But when the marriage was being discussed, the cousin’s mother raised the bride price from 20,000 yuan to 60,000 yuan. Although my aunt and uncle were unhappy, their son and his future daughter-in-law loved each other very much. How could they break up because of money, so they bit the bullet and agreed.

On the day of the wedding, my cousin took the welcoming team to the bride’s house and gave out various red envelopes. Things went smoothly. But when it was finally time to pick up the bride and leave, something unexpected happened. The mother-in-law actually offered to give the brother-in-law a red envelope worth 30,000 yuan.

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The old rule here is that when the bride goes out, her brothers have to carry her out of the natal house, and then the groom takes the bride away. Of course, the groom's family will give a red envelope to my brother's back. My cousin's family is prepared to give 5,000. This was agreed upon when we were talking about marriage.

Unexpectedly, the night before the wedding, the cousin's sister-in-law thought the 5,000 was too little, so she made sarcastic remarks in front of her mother-in-law. The mother-in-law heard what her daughter-in-law meant. At that time, my mother-in-law felt that if she asked my cousin’s family for more red envelope money, she might be rejected. So at the wedding the next day, the mother-in-law temporarily increased the price.

My cousin was unprepared. He didn’t have that much cash with him, and there was no WeChat or Alipay at that time. The cousin had no choice but to collect 5,000 yuan with the people who went to pick him up. In this case, he would give his brother-in-law 10,000 yuan.

But the mother-in-law disagreed and insisted that the cousin send someone back to collect the money, so the two sides reached a stalemate.

My cousin-in-law didn't see her elder brother coming to carry her out for a long time in the room. When she asked, she found out that something had happened outside. She was very angry. Her mother regarded her as a cash cow. She sent a text message to her cousin, saying that she was going out through the back door and asked her cousin to drive the wedding car to the back door, and she would get in the car and leave.

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Just like that, my cousin lied about going home to get money, but the wedding car drove to the back door, picked up his cousin and ran away, while the mother-in-law’s family was still there. Waiting stupidly at the front door. The day after the wedding, her cousin-in-law was kicked out by her parents when she came home, but she didn't care because she felt she was worthy of her parents.

This incident later became a big joke. If my cousin-in-law hadn’t taken the overall situation into consideration, I’m afraid the marriage wouldn’t have happened. Based on the conditions of my aunt's family, it was not an easy task to pay another 20,000 yuan at that time. The old couple had already emptied their pockets and owed some debts.

And the most important thing is the behavior of my mother-in-law’s family, which is so annoying that my cousin’s family cannot accept it after all. You must be honest in life, and you must be honest in marriage. Since you have agreed on something in advance, you must do it as promised. This method of suppressing others in public and forcing them to give money is really a kind of kidnapping.

Later, my cousin was very kind to his cousin. He was grateful to her for her understanding of the general situation and taking the overall situation into consideration. Husband and wife love each other first and then love. It seems to my cousin that his cousin is kind to him, so he loves his cousin very much. The relationship between husband and wife has always been very good.

People who truly love each other must not be influenced by other factors when getting married. They must bravely overcome difficulties and strive for their own happiness.