The world of duality is restrictive and narrow

It is still a cliché and an old theme, but it is extremely important to life, so we need to always be vigilant and comfort our hearts.

I haven’t sat quietly at the table for a long time, just simply talking to myself and others. On a certain level, oneself is others, and others are oneself, there is no difference. Oneself and people other than oneself are like two sides of things, they are just the result of mutual transformation.

Therefore, the writer Zhang Defen proposed that there is no one else outside but ourselves. From this point of view, if we distinguish ourselves from others too clearly, we are being narrow-minded to a certain extent. If you care too much about personal gains and losses, it will also be a limitation and obstacle to life. Therefore, selfish people must be narrow-minded and not free enough. He cannot understand that everyone is another me. It is also because of this that we have the height of life to love our neighbors as ourselves, which is worth climbing.

Since there is no one else outside but ourselves, why do we care so much about the opinions of the so-called "self"? Because we unconsciously live in a state of "separation". We are always creating contrasts, establishing standards, and opposing all people and things, forming a pattern and state of binary opposition.

In this way, there will be subjective oppositional distinctions between good, bad, right and wrong, as well as various levels of status comparison. The biggest result of this opposition and comparison is "separation". When we are separated, we cannot be unified, and there are countless oppositions. Therefore, a simple self begins to leave its central position and becomes "others".

This "other" begins to doubt and judge himself. At this time, the real me can no longer settle in the present, nor can I concentrate on being myself, but I am always worried about what "others" will think of me. , will "others" laugh at me or deny me?

Stop, stop, stop! What do "others" think about it, and what does it have to do with me? For now, let’s not talk about whether that “other” really exists. He may not be there. Isn’t it just unreasonable and unreasonable for me to worry about things? If there really is an “other”, what does it have to do with me?

Therefore, I feel more and more that if there is no opposition, there will be no limit. Only when there is no distinction can we become one. There is no real loss, and there is no so-called loss. When you lose, you gain, and when you gain, you lose. We just actively or forcedly choose one side of things, which is the best choice at the moment. Become one with others, be one with yourself, and let go of opposition, and you will have more compassion and abundance.

Loss is gain with a mask, and it is a different way to accompany us; gain is doomed to lose other possibilities, so there is no need to deliberately oppose it. Only by changing your mentality can life have real height and freedom.

The pursuit of all external tangible things is nothing more than to expand the dimension of life and gain infinite freedom. Life, because of its infinite freedom, is worthy of our unique exploration and experience.