Methods and experience of educating children

Lead: Children's education must not be ignored, and parents should know that finding the right method cannot be blindly educated. The environment inside and outside the court has a mixed effect on children. It is not easy to educate them to become talents. So, what methods and experiences do parents have to educate their children? Welcome to read the reference!

Methods and experiences in educating children 1 1. Parents are the most important and irreplaceable educators in a child's life.

0-6 years old is the key period for children to form quality and good habits. The first two years of a child's life is a crucial period for establishing a strong emotional bond with his parents, and it is the basis for children's future psychological growth and building a relationship of trust and love with others.

All the knowledge about life, 50% is learned in the first year of life, and 25% is learned in the second year of life. The knowledge of life here mainly refers to the ability of love and the development of emotion.

2. If you want to change your child's behavior, parents must first change themselves.

Educating children is the process of educating yourself. Children's bad behavior is often directly inherited by the environment or parents. Education by example is the most reliable way to cultivate children's moral behavior.

Cultivating children's spiritual quality is far more important than intellectual development.

Spirit is a tree, mind is a fruit; Spirit is a lamp, and thought is light. Human intelligence is a reflection of spiritual quality. If we only pay attention to the cultivation of skills (such as various early intellectual development interest classes) and ignore the cultivation of children's spiritual quality, we can only put the cart before the horse. When children grow up, their personality will be flawed and their moral development will be hindered.

4. Reasonable control

Disciplining children is to tell them the standard of behavior, that is, what can and can't be done. Control must have authority: when children may make mistakes, we must have authority when we want to control them. Let your children know that you are serious, and your request will be accompanied by punishment or reward. Restricting children beneficially can cultivate their discipline. Of course, the control of children must be responsible. And tell your child the reason for your request. Consistency with the child's father: Parents have the same control over the child, so that the child can establish a unified standard of behavior. Even if you don't agree with dad's control, you'd better discuss it with him when the child is not present in the future. Doing so can also establish the authority of both parents. Don't over-punish: don't abuse children physically and psychologically. The best way to manage a child is to reward him for his good behavior.

5. Encourage children to establish good self-values in a positive way.

Parents need to actively teach their children basic values and behaviors. Let children grow up in society. Of course, in this respect, example is better than words, and we can be good examples for children. It is very important to create a good family atmosphere. Therefore, we can't let our children do what we don't want to do, and we can't do one thing by ourselves and let our children do another. Only by setting an example and paying attention to the cultivation of children's values and etiquette can we educate the next generation with noble morality.

People with high self-worth have three "abilities": I have the ability; I can associate with people around me; I can contribute to the happiness of others anytime and anywhere. Believe that you have the potential to learn and grow, and cultivate qualities such as courage, faith, self-confidence and trust in life and others. On the contrary, low self-worth is a negative understanding of yourself, and destructive emotions such as self-blame, humiliation, anger and hatred will accompany you all your life.

6. Establish clear family rules and hold regular family meetings.

Children need to know where the boundaries are, what to do and what not to do. Without rules, children feel insecure. There are no more than five or six family rules. To meet the specific needs of families, they must be stated in affirmative sentences and posted. If you violate the family rules, you should make clear the corresponding punishment measures. Once established, we must resolutely implement it, and adjust and repair the family rules every once in a while. Hold regular family meetings to let the whole family share the process of life development, promote democracy, respect each other and enjoy the atmosphere of love.

7. Give children a certain range of choices.

As a child grows up, it is important to give him more and more freedom and power to control his own life. We should consciously demand ourselves; Even restraining yourself from doing anything is for the children's ideas and giving them some freedom. Giving children some freedom shows that we trust and respect children, and children will respect and love us more.

Giving children a certain range of choices can avoid nervousness and provide them with practical opportunities to make decisions. For example, "It's time for bed. Do you want to hear yesterday's story or is it new? " "Do you want to wear a pink coat or a blue T-shirt today? (If the children don't choose either, parents may ask, "Shall I help you choose, or do you choose yourself?" It is a daily behavior to make choices and make children responsible, which is very important for developing children's self-worth.

8. Games are children's main activities, and children learn through games.

Children need to interact with peers, adults and the environment, and learn by contacting concrete and simulated things related to life. Games let children relax and cultivate a focused work attitude. Before the age of 5, don't start practicing symbols such as letters and numbers too early, which will limit children's thinking, because children's minds are not mature enough to understand abstract concepts.

9. Actively tell your child what to do, not what not to do.

The condescending attitude of traditional educators always tells children, "Don't hit people, don't eat on the sofa" and so on. This negative tone will only lead to attention and focus on negative behavior; And children still don't know what good behavior is and what to do. The positive statement is to use virtue to modify children's behavior, such as "you forgot to live in peace with others" or "we eat at the table!"

10, take time to get along with your children alone every day and do something of common interest.

Every child needs to get enough attention from his parents. Every day after work, take some time to participate in children's games. It is necessary to provide children with various experiences and expose them to various things as much as possible. As children's listeners, supporters and spiritual companions, parents should respect their children's feelings when they encounter setbacks and accompany them with detachment and sympathy.

Methods and experiences of educating children. The educational principle of benefiting for life

1, fish tank rule.

The tropical goldfish in the fish tank is three inches long, and no matter how long it is kept, it won't grow up. However, if you put this goldfish in the pool, two months later, the original three-inch goldfish can grow to a foot.

The same goes for children's education. The growth of children needs free space. Parental protection is like a fish tank. Children will never grow into big fish in their parents' fish tanks. If children want to grow up healthily and vigorously, they must be given free space to move around, instead of sticking to the "fish tank" provided by a small parent. With the progress of society and the growth of knowledge, parents should restrain their thoughts and impulses and give their children room to grow freely.

2, the law of wolf nature.

Wolves are the most curious animals in the world. They don't take anything for granted, but tend to study and experience it themselves. The charm and novelty of nature always amazes wolves. Wolves are always interested in the surrounding environment, so they can constantly look for food in the environment and understand the dangers, so as to survive effectively.

Therefore, to cultivate children's super learning ability, we must cultivate children's curiosity about the world, let him observe life carefully and use interest as his learning teacher. Such children can have new ideas and new inspirations for their work in later life.

3. South wind effect.

The north wind and the south wind bet on who is better, and they decide who can take off the coat of pedestrians. No matter how strong the north wind is, pedestrians just wrap their clothes tighter and tighter; The south wind blows only gently, so people open their coats.

The south wind effect tells people that tolerance is a more powerful force than punishment. The same is true of educating children. Criticizing the parents of children blindly will eventually find that children are increasingly not listening to themselves. Every child can make mistakes. Parents should tolerate their children's shortcomings, deal with various problems in daily life objectively, rationally and scientifically, and at the same time do a good job of self-cultivation in order to better educate their children.

4. Rosenthal effect.

In Greek mythology, King Pygmalion of Cyprus was a highly skilled sculptor. One day, he finished a statue of a girl, which was so perfect that the king himself fell in love with it. The king's love moved Aphrodite, the goddess of love, who injected life into the statue. Pygmalion's fantasy came true, and there were Cypriots from then on.

Rosenthal is an American psychologist. 1966 He did an experiment about students' expectation of grades. After a class exam, he handed over a list of "the most promising people" to the headmaster. The headmaster gave the list to the head teacher of this class. Eight months later, when Rosenthal and his assistant came to this class again, the scores of the students on the list improved greatly. The secret of improving students' grades is simple, because teachers pay more attention to it.

Every child can become an extraordinary genius, but the realization of this possibility depends on whether parents and teachers can love, expect and cherish these children like geniuses.

The growth direction of children depends on the expectations of parents and teachers. Simply put, what kind of person you expect your child to be, what kind of person your child may become.

Second, do you criticize children like this?

1, in a low voice: Parents should criticize their children in a lower voice than usual. A "deep and powerful" voice will attract children's attention and make them pay attention to what you say. This kind of "cold treatment" in a low voice is often better than a loud reprimand.

2. Silence: Once a child does something wrong, he is always worried that his parents will blame him. If he thinks so, the child will have a feeling of "liberation" and will not agree with criticism and his own mistakes. On the contrary, if parents remain silent, children will be nervous, feel "uncomfortable" and then reflect on their mistakes.

3. Tip: The child made a mistake. If parents can inspire their children calmly and don't directly criticize his mistakes, children will quickly understand their parents' intentions and be willing to accept their criticism and education, which will also protect their self-esteem.

4. Guidance: When a child is in trouble and scolded by his parents, he often puts the blame on others. At this time, he replied, "If you were that person, how would you explain it?" This will make children think: if it is someone else, what should they say? This will make most children find that they are also at fault, and will prompt him to reflect on himself, and it is wrong to put all the responsibilities on others.

5, timely: children's concept of time is relatively poor, playful by nature, and their attention is easily distracted. The mistake they just made was forgotten in an instant. Therefore, parents criticize their children to strike while the iron is hot and not to procrastinate, otherwise it will not play its due educational role.

Methods and experiences of educating children 3 The first type: more discussion, less command.

For example, to remind children that it is time to do their homework, you can say, "It's time, shouldn't you do your homework?" Instead of just saying, "Stop watching TV and do your homework!" "In this way, the child will feel that you respect him and are willing to listen to you.

The second type: more guidance, less reprimand.

In fact, the more parents respect their children, the more self-esteem they will have, and the more they will pay attention to correcting their words and deeds to win the respect of others. Of course, the specific situation should be treated on a case-by-case basis. Parents don't have to be euphemistic about their children's bad behaviors and habits, but they can't reprimand them. Instead, we should talk to him equally and seriously, point out its harmfulness, ask them to correct it and draw up some punishment measures.

The third type: make more friends and less pry into "privacy"

Many children are particularly disgusted with their parents going through their schoolbags and peeking at their diaries. In fact, parents should make friends with their children, spend more time chatting with them and ask them about school, interpersonal relationships, views on some things and so on.

Methods and experiences of educating children. Protect children's interest in learning.

First, it is not because of learning to beat and scold children.

My child has had poor academic performance and low ranking, but I have never scolded him or hit him for this reason. I think it is harmful for parents to scold and beat their children. What are the disadvantages? We can analyze it: children will hate you and you because you treat them like this. If they hate you, then your education for them will be invalid from now on. He doesn't like to hear anything you say. Seeing you makes him sick. Can he still communicate with you? Can you still understand what he really thinks? Besides, he will have a rebellious attitude towards you. You say east, I'll go west. You want me to be good, I'm bad. You want me to win your face, I'll lose yours. In that case, a good boy will be ruined. Besides, doing so will make him hate studying. He will wonder why I was abused and beaten by my parents, because I didn't do well in the exam, why I took the exam, because I went to school to study, so I hate going to school, I hate studying, I hate exams. Then, your words or your actions will ruin your child's lifelong learning career. In addition, everyone has self-esteem, so what kind of people have strong self-esteem? Someone who is respected by others. He thought, my parents respect me so much that I must be well, so as to maintain the respect of others. Such children will get better and better. If his parents always scold him and beat him, he will think, if my parents don't respect me, I don't need to get better, and I will break the jar, so the child will gradually lose self-esteem and self-confidence Therefore, parents should not beat and scold their children, so as to protect their interest in learning.

Second, don't add too much extra-curricular burden to children.

I found that many children began to make up lessons from kindergarten, and their extracurricular time was almost occupied. In his early years, he was exhausted by various studies. Not only did he consume enough energy, but even his thirst for knowledge faded. How can such a child love learning? How can we cultivate the initiative of learning? How can I have enough energy to study? So I think parents should not make up lessons for their children casually. They should let their children solve problems at school and ask teachers for help if they have any problems. Make-up lessons are necessary or interesting for children to learn what they can't learn in class. This will not affect children's energy too much, but also protect and stimulate children's interest in learning and effectively broaden their knowledge. Why not?

Guidance on children's learning methods

First of all, tell children the importance of listening carefully in class.

From the day my children go to school, I have always stressed the importance of listening in class. A student's academic performance is directly proportional to his classroom listening. Once a student who is not attentive in class changes under the guidance of his parents and teachers, his average score in all subjects can easily increase by ten points. Why are those students admitted to Tsinghua Peking University never tired of studying, and their grades are still so good? Because their learning efficiency in the classroom is particularly high, they can fully grasp 75% of what the teacher said in the classroom, and the remaining 25% will be almost the same when they go home to review, so their study is very easy and their grades are excellent. So I told my children not to miss every word the teacher said, every word written and every request made by the teacher in class, which is a necessary condition for good grades.

Second, tell children to speak actively in class.

Positive speech can encourage students to use their brains actively, improve their attention and improve the excitement of learning. Especially for questions and problems that can't be done, we should try our best to speak. It doesn't matter if the answer is wrong, just think positively and deepen your impression, so as to enter a virtuous circle.

Third, tell children to make full use of the precious resource of teachers.

I find that many students are afraid to ask questions to their teachers. My children used to be like this. When asked why, he said he was afraid of the teacher's criticism. It's right to think about it. Some students ask teachers questions, and some teachers will say, "You don't understand such a simple question", or "I just finished, what did you listen to", or "I'm busy now, come back when I have time" and so on. Students can't stand these words and dare not ask any more questions. I told my children that it is human nature for teachers to have these behaviors. If you are a teacher, you will also have these reactions. You should understand the teacher. You don't have to care too much about the teacher's attitude. You only need to understand your problem, and you will achieve your goal. I also told my children that 100% teachers like curious students. Ask questions frequently, and teachers will definitely like you, support you and pay more attention to you.

As parents, we should also make good use of the valuable resources of teachers. If your child doesn't do well in any science, or has difficulty in learning, you'd better go to school to find a teacher in this subject, and let him give your child a good diagnosis like a doctor, why your child doesn't do well in this science, and what methods you should take. This is much more effective than going to the society to find a tutor and a cram school.

Parents should also tell their children to communicate with teachers in various subjects frequently. For example, after the exam, children can find the undergraduate purpose teacher with a roll of paper, and ask him to analyze what the problems on his roll of paper are, how to correct them in the future, and what direction to work hard, which is of great help to children's progress.

Fourth, choose some exercises for children to do and find some good learning methods for children.

Some exercises were selected online for children to do, which played a multiplier role. For example, Shoushan Topic Network has many such exercises.

Fifth, children are required to absorb rich extracurricular knowledge.

Pay attention to let children learn all kinds of extracurricular knowledge extensively. Because just mastering the knowledge in class can't meet the social demand for talents, students must master more extracurricular knowledge and have higher information acquisition ability. Nowadays, exams tend to examine students' various abilities and knowledge richness. Gone are the days when you can get high marks by learning books well. So I told my children to read more extracurricular books and watch more TV programs, such as Full Documentary, Science and Technology Channel and Cultural China.

Cultivation of children's autonomous learning ability

Some people say that "laziness promotes the development of science and technology", which makes sense. Because I was too lazy to wash clothes, I invented the washing machine, because I was too lazy to cook, I invented the rice cooker, and because I was too lazy to walk, I invented various advanced means of transportation. Because I am too lazy to study with my children, I try my best to teach them to learn to learn by themselves, so as to cultivate their autonomous learning ability. His study is entirely his own.

However, the way we learn with our children is different from that of many parents. Many parents study with their children without telling them. Parents become guardians and mentors of their children. As a result, children become more and more dependent on their parents. Without parents, their children cannot go to school. If parents don't tell them, parents will become crutches for their children. Their children can't learn to walk by themselves, and they will become disabled without crutches. Once one day they lose their crutches, the result of their children will be

We study with our children, not with them, but by teaching them how to study. For example, when learning Chinese, you should read the text aloud, recite the good paragraphs aloud, keep the dictionary by your side, read more and accumulate more; When learning English, you should read the text aloud, recite it more, and use various sensory organs such as eyes, ears, mouth, hands and brain to achieve the best learning effect. To learn science, you should do the questions and set up the wrong book. Doing one more question is better than sea tactics. Go home to review first, and then do your homework; There are also how to learn, preview, review and so on. After teaching him these learning methods, we basically don't have to worry about entering the sixth grade.

Therefore, studying with children today is to avoid studying with children tomorrow and let them learn to study independently.

Methods and experiences of educating children 5 1, always smile.

Telling jokes, making up some funny songs and laughing with children are good for you and your children. Just laughing is good exercise.

2. Don't arrange your life too regularly, and give your children time to play casually.

Thomas Armstrong, an American scholar of children's education, pointed out that free play is healthier and more beneficial to preschool children than planned activities. Parents should try to avoid giving their children time. All children need some time to play around.

3. Encourage him to do more exercise.

Playing ball games, cycling, swimming with your child ... Doing more exercise can not only exercise your child's physical fitness, but also make him more cheerful. Maintaining a vibrant life can moderately relieve children's stress and emotions, make children like themselves, have a more positive body image, and find fun and a sense of accomplishment from sports.

4. Teach him to care about others

Happy children need to feel that they have some meaningful connections with others and understand what he means to others. To cultivate this feeling, you can help your child to get in touch with others more. You can sort out some old toys with your child and donate them to charity with him to help homeless children. Children can also be encouraged to participate in some volunteer activities at school. Experts point out that even at a very young age, you can get happiness from helping others and form the habit of helping others.

5. Creative compliments

When children behave well, don't just say "good." Be specific, tell the details, and point out the places that are impressive or better than last time. For example, "It's really polite of you to take the initiative to say good morning to the doorman's uncle today."

However, we should also pay attention to praise and not develop children's false expectations. Some parents will reward their children with gifts or money, so that their children can focus on what rewards they can get, rather than doing well. Parents should let their children discover the satisfaction and sense of accomplishment brought by completing a thing, instead of rewarding him with material rewards.

6. Ensure that children eat healthily.

A healthy diet can not only make children healthy, but also make their emotions more stable. Whether it's dinner or snacks, we should try to follow healthy principles, such as low-fat, low-sugar, fresh and balanced diet.

7. Stimulate his inner artistic talent

Although scientists have confirmed that there is no so-called "Mozart effect", exposing children to music, art, dance and other activities can still enrich their inner world. Experts have found that when children dance to music or hold a crow with a brush, it is actually a way for children to express their inner world and feelings. Children like painting, dancing or playing music, and they will feel more satisfied with themselves.

8. Hug often

A gentle hug conveys infinite care and is a silent "I love you". Studies have found that gentle touching and hugging can make premature babies healthier, more active and more emotionally stable. For adults, hugs can also relieve stress and calm restless emotions.

9. Listen attentively

Nothing can make children feel cared for more than listening attentively. Want to be a better listener? Don't listen with only one ear. When the child is talking to you, try to stop what you are doing and listen to him attentively. Listen to the child patiently. Don't interrupt, hurry to help him express himself or let him finish his words quickly, even if you have heard what he said many times. It is the best time to listen when you accompany your child to school or put him to bed.

10, give up perfectionism

We all expect our children to show their best, but sometimes we are too eager to correct or improve their performance. For example, we hate that they don't clean the table, but simply clean it. Or correct them. They must put things in a certain position. Demanding perfection in everything will weaken children's self-confidence and courage not to be afraid of making mistakes. The next time you can't help but want to get involved and try to help your child do things better, think about it first: "Is this related to health or safety?" "Imagine, after 10 years, is this matter still so serious?" If the answer is no, let the children do it.

1 1. Teach him to solve the problem.

Every step from learning to tie your shoelaces to crossing the street by yourself is a milestone for children to become more independent. When children find that they have the ability to solve the problems they face, they can bring happiness and a sense of accomplishment to them. When he meets obstacles, such as being laughed at by his playmates, or unable to solve a puzzle, you can take several steps to help him:

(1) Confirm his problem.

(2) Let him describe his solution.

(3) Find out the steps to solve the problem.

(4) Decide to let him solve the problem by himself or provide some help.

(5) Make sure that he can get the help he needs.

12, his stage

Every child has a unique talent, why not give them a chance to show it? If they like telling stories, encourage them to tell you more stories. If he is good at numbers, take him shopping and ask him to help you choose a cheaper one. When you can appreciate your child's talent and show your enthusiasm, your child will naturally be more confident.

Children around us not only need a carefree living environment, but also need adults to accompany them to' experience' its growth process. There is a saying: "To know what the world looks like in children's eyes, you must first squat down and look at the world from the position and height of children."