What is a pickpocket?

Picking up ashes, the old man and his daughter-in-law have misconduct called "picking up ashes". The word "father who picks up ashes" refers to an old man who has an affair with his daughter-in-law. This word is swearing, but it doesn't necessarily mean that the person being scolded has something to do with collecting ashes. The source of this allusion has the following legends.

Wang Anshi's son died in the Northern Song Dynasty, and Wang had an idea for his daughter-in-law. One noon in summer, when his daughter-in-law was resting, Wang recited a poem to her daughter-in-law and said, "She has a lute in her account. You are afraid of her if you want to play. " Daughter-in-law said, "If Grandpa is interested in playing the string, good flowers will not fall on others." . The daughter-in-law said to her father-in-law: I wrote the date on a note and put it in the ashes of the incense burner every day. You will know as soon as you pick up the ashes. So Wang Tiantian waited for his daughter-in-law to burn incense and went to pick up ash to find a note. It is said that day after day, he picked it up 96 times and couldn't find the note. Later, the matter gradually spread, and the word "picking up ash" came into being.