How terrible is it to marry a patriarchal family?

The following is a true story around you, telling you that in our country, there are still a large number of families that prefer boys to girls.

How the fuck did I give birth to a daughter?

In my hometown, girls can't get on the genealogy, they are not allowed to worship in the ancestral hall, their elders die, attend funerals, and their wives are not allowed to appear. Ironically, the reason is fear of affecting the feng shui of future generations.

My uncle has no son and always scolds his daughter. "How could I give birth to a damn daughter?"

Even in the New Year, there is endless work to be done, and a person eats on the stove with a bowl. Who advised her parents to ignore it? "Damn it, go to work after eating!"

Later, his family adopted a boy, and his daughter was even more rejected. Dropping out of junior high school forced her to get married just for the bride price. It is no exaggeration to say that it is selling a daughter.

What is even more exasperating is that the family that got married that year also preferred sons to daughters. She was like a coolie, a fertility tool, humiliated, unable to finish her work, and unfortunately lived her whole life.

Marry your daughter to your son, buy a house and get a wife.

A colleague's best friend and a younger brother in the family all regard it as a treasure. After four years in college, she hasn't received any phone calls from her father. Only when her brother comes to this city does his father call him every day to ask about his condition and then order her to take good care of him.

After graduation, she worked hard in Shanghai and really had no money to borrow 2000 yuan from her mother. When her father found out, he called her every week to urge her to pay back the money. "Your parents can't be happy anymore." Finally, she had no choice but to borrow 2,000 yuan from a friend, and her father never contacted her again.

When she went back for the Spring Festival, her father urged her to get married. "If you get married in the past two years, I will give you a 20% discount on the bride price." "You see that your brother is not young, and you have to buy him a car, a house and a wife."

In her father's eyes, she is a commodity that can be raised and sold, and she has no affection at all. If it weren't for her poor mother, she would have broken up with her father.

There are really parents in the world who think that "the daughter suffers", and it is a joke that the palm of the hand is full of meat.

If you have no son, get out.

This is what my friend told me. It is really shocking to have such a husband who is worse than an animal and an ignorant mother-in-law.

The girl married into a patriarchal family and gave birth to a daughter for the first time. Mother-in-law looked unhappy and said that girls were raised for others and would marry sooner or later. She has never held a granddaughter since her daughter was born.

After the opening of the second child policy, her mother-in-law urged her to have grandchildren, and the girl refused to regenerate, so she quarreled with her husband and mother-in-law.

She felt that being born was unfair to her daughter. She began to favor her son before she was born, and her daughter was destined to be left out and despised from an early age.

Her husband actually hit her and threatened to get her out of the house if she was not born. What is even more exasperating is that the girl complained to her parents, who in turn advised her: "If you have a son, everyone will be happy."

How can a woman be happy living in such a family? What about family ties? What's the use of such a family if the husband and elders don't understand pity?

Finally, the girl divorced her daughter decisively. But many girls are not so free and easy or independent, and more can't get rid of such a miserable family all their lives.

Girls need to know

You must know the man's family before you get married. Even if the man doesn't prefer boys to girls, his parents will never marry him. In such a family, boys and girls are second-class citizens outside the family.

If you have unfortunately married such a family, girl, don't cry for yourself, learn to be independent, put away your humility and timidity and leave!

Never marry a family that favors boys over girls!