There are fewer people who feel the same way, and more people are watching jokes.

It is said that people with strong empathy are easy to feel and consider other people's experiences and can help visitors in psychological counseling, so it seems more suitable to be psychological counselors.

But from my own experience, it's just an ideal idea. Or, just take it for granted.

Yesterday, from the perspective of caring for B, A told me about the great changes that took place in B's family: the day before the college entrance examination for B's children, the father of the children suddenly fell ill, and not long ago, the old man in B's family was also lingering in the hospital bed.

At that time, I was horrified and felt very uncomfortable.

Those coincidental tragic stories I have seen really happen to people I know and are familiar with. Shocked, I feel sorry for B. ..

A means, if it's convenient, I want to comfort B more and help B get out of grief as soon as possible.

To tell the truth, no one has this ability.

A few years ago, I experienced the death of my loved ones. Under the knock of life, I intermittently appeared many depressive symptoms, and the state of crying at any time lasted for several years before I got out of the mire with the help of constant self-regulation and various dignitaries around me. This process is neither smooth nor long.

The man said I'm not a counselor. Even if I can help B, I will only listen quietly when B needs to talk and cry, prepare enough paper towels and tell B that this is an inevitable process. Cry if you want!

I can't help anything else.

But the fact is, I didn't sleep well last night, I always dreamed, and I had some nervous and scared dreams, which showed that I had aroused my psychological trauma because of my strong empathy.

Even though I have read a lot of psychological books, that is, using psychological knowledge to save myself, and achieved good results, I don't think I can be a psychological counselor because I can't isolate myself from the joys and sorrows of others.

With the network becoming more and more convenient, everyone has a microphone in his hand.

Some social news often spreads quickly in a short time, especially things that conflict with truth, goodness and beauty. Even if you don't watch hot search, you don't need Weibo, and you can see it quickly with any social media account.

When I saw some shocking, frightening and inevitably self-substituting social news, my touch, especially the pain caused by empathy, directly affected my personal life.

It will make me react strongly, with great internal friction, and it will take a lot of effort to clean up and repair myself. Perhaps only I know the troubles best.

After being kindly reminded by my friends, I consciously let myself use less social media and keep a physical distance from those distractions. I can also understand the "stop" that Teacher G repeatedly told us to do at a certain time.

When you don't have the ability to change something, it's better to be an ostrich and calm down and do something within your power. It's not too late to change when you have a certain ability and become a "person who can say that".