The magnetic field between relatives

Some people say that the most neglected child in the family is the most filial when he grows up, because he wants to behave! It's no exaggeration to describe this sentence in tears at first; Later, I felt uncomfortable, and there was a ripple until now!

because there is a * * * sound, I feel the same! I am the one who is ignored, disliked, and even subjected to cold violence, but I have always been the most filial one; The only difference: I definitely don't want to show myself. I don't have that pride from the bottom of my heart. Maybe it's just my nature, and I don't remember anything!

(1)

Never take a reason, just ignore it.

until now, whenever I think about it, I think my grandmother is a very headstrong old lady. For example, many things are done according to my own mood. It may also be that the so-called magnetic field is different, only for an individual, of course, that individual is me!

When I was a child, I lived in a yard with my grandparents and aunts. Grandma especially likes cousins; As for me, I am the type of action, cousins and cousins are the language type; What about a leopard cannot change his spots? Until now: I still have a hard time changing my nature: I am the kind of practical activist, whose actions are ahead of language, and even after the actions have been completed, the language is still lagging behind or even negligible;

When I was a child, my cousin was very naughty. One thing before I went to primary school: One day, a hen raised at home could not be found, and the next day, I found it under a basket of wood, and the chicken was detained and was dying of boredom; It suddenly occurred to me that my cousin had done this the day before. After all, I had forgotten about playing when I was young, even though my mother had been looking for it for a long time, I didn't remember it. So I told my mother about the cause and effect;

at the beginning, I was interrupted by my grandmother, and her voice rose more than ten degrees. She said harshly, "Well, good things don't have a yuan (cousin's nickname), but she did all the stupid things ...". Scared me to shut up immediately; Grandma hugged her cousin in her arms and glared at me to open the door and enter the house; My mother smiled and led me into the house!

Actually, it was because my mother was around that I dared to say it in front of my grandmother and cousin. Otherwise, I wouldn't have the courage. Do you want to say: worthless, I can be scared when my mother is around!

Look at my grandmother. How many old people in the world can be so headstrong? Now I think that my mother, a peasant woman who has not learned a few words in a few days, is reasonable enough, not a general measure! It's too inappropriate even for an aunt to say that.

I'm in high school. One day, my aunt came to my house with my cousin, and she came from my grandparents' side. At noon, I had to stay with my aunt and brother for dinner. I went to my grandparents' side in advance to get milk powder and bottles for my cousin. Aunt has confessed some matters; When I got to my grandparents' side, my grandfather didn't come back after going out for a walk, and my uncle went out to do things;

From the time I entered the door to the time I relayed my aunt's account, from the time Grandma took the milk powder to the time I left, I was always chatting and smiling. However, every word I said, every sentence I accosted grandma didn't respond all the time, and I didn't look up and answer me!

You can put a hat on it: Say that I spoke in a low voice and didn't hear it; But according to my paraphrased to prepare these things! Obviously, it is not necessary.

much better later! However, I always feel that there is an invisible diaphragm!

When I was a child, my grandmother went to stay with my great-grandmother and great-grandfather for a period of time. After my father picked me up, my cousin and I both called out to her, but my grandmother only answered my cousin and picked up the rare one. For me, I don't care when I talk to others, I don't care at all, I turn a blind eye!

grandparents have more than a dozen grandchildren, and I have all my brothers and sisters! From small to large, from the age of six or seven to the first three or four years, as long as the family gets together for dinner, or in the case of eating with me, as long as I don't go to school, I am always the one who washes the dishes and cleans up after work, and the other is the elder (in the case of many people); And my other sisters always put down their bowls and chopsticks and lie on the bed, staring at their mobile phones and smiling or eating snacks and chatting on the sofa;

Of course, I totally volunteered. Grandma kicked me out of the kitchen to chat with them! That I especially don't want to eat in the past, it feels like eating is not a burden; When a large family gets together, there are people to help wash dishes and clean up;

or just with grandparents and other elders, I am also very happy to wash; If there are many sisters together, I can only wash them, or leave them to grandma to wash themselves;

after countless times, I told my parents about this feeling! I don't want to eat in the past, just don't want to wash that pile of dishes! I really hate washing dishes myself, and I feel worried when I see it! Somehow, the dishes were taken away by others, but they were still not peers but elders!

(2)

Educated people are called mothers, but uneducated people are not called mothers

Since I graduated from college, I have never been empty-handed every time I go to my grandparents' house; Usually, you can wear it online or in a physical store, and you can buy it directly when you see it. The food is even more.

things bought for them are never cheap; Clothes are all design and quality; Very fit and fashionable; In short, buying clothes for them has never blinked at the price; Women's clothes are always more styles, so I still buy more clothes for my grandmother;

When I grow up, I always buy clothes for myself, but I can't bear to see more and buy less. When I buy clothes for them, I always start with them. In terms of price, I don't buy a coat for my grandmother, even a sweater and a pair of shoes are one-third as expensive!

I never care what other brothers and sisters do-I never show off when I buy it, let alone whether other brothers and sisters buy it? How much did you buy? Is it expensive or cheap? Sometimes I mail it home and ask my parents to take it back and bring it directly. I have never seen the real thing! Know that it fits and likes it!

When I first started working, my cousin and I lived in my grandparents' house for a period of time at the same time. My grandmother nagged me several times about a sesame and garlic skin: You are not as good as your sister Ru (cousin), but you are far from others! Maybe I'm really shameless and shameless! Such a big man, let's say that he is still on the pole, and he is a proper personality.

The cause of this trivial matter is: a distant sister of Grandma's, we called her aunt to chat at home, and her little daughter-in-law who had just left the house was so diligent and talkative that she kept asking if there was any medicine at home, and then bought it and sent it back after eating; A phone call was only heard from her, but I couldn't catch up with one sentence, so I couldn't get in a word at all. This mother called her too unaccustomed to strange twists and turns, and the medicine is not a meal, but it can also be eaten as a meal;

Grandma said: That's because people are educated, just like XX and XX (the names of two aunts) are called Mom. It has been said several times in a row that educated people are called mothers, but uneducated people are not called mothers;

My mother is a rural woman who graduated from primary school in a backcountry. She has never called her grandma, but she is more filial than her two aunts and aunts, even as good as her aunts! I'm nearby. I'm already working in my twenties, and my grandmother never cares about me. I don't know if I should give a message to my mother.

Grandma still has a girl, while my aunt only has a son. Her own girl, my aunts are also other people's daughters-in-law, and it seems that she has never called her mother-in-law mom; My father's mother's sister has no daughter, and my eldest daughter-in-law has never called her so. She has never heard a girl call her mother, which is natural at first sight.

some things grandma said are really inappropriate! Being raised to the height of education is too on the line, and it is emphasized over and over again! I don't know if it's a reaction or an art of speaking. Although the aunt and my mother mentioned later are also very good, I feel quite uncomfortable, just like being stabbed and then pulled out.

Maybe it's because I have emotions that I speak loudly later. But I didn't feel myself, where the loud voice offended me. One day, I said that I was too rude and too loud to speak to her, because there was a sensitive "upbringing" incident in front of me. There is a conclusion that I am not as good as my cousin, but far from others! Perhaps this is what she has always really thought and the root of the problem!

(3)

Although I am the mother of my child, I am afraid that my child will be laughed at because I am not confident in myself, and I know that this worry is unnecessary, but I just can't get over it.

I don't know whether she is old or I am more pleasing to the eye now. Anyway, there are some things that I can't think about and don't want to think about. The growth of the years is not worth thinking about. Although it is already a child's mother, there will still be a trace of emotion when I think of this scene. Like a scar;

Now that my son is five years old, although he is close, I have hardly taken my children there except for big festivals like the Chinese New Year. I go there by myself, and even these big festivals, I will not take my children there.

To tell the truth, in my heart: I have always been insecure about myself and I am also afraid that my children will be laughed at. I know that this worry is totally unnecessary, but I just can't get over it. My child is the best in my eyes, but in the eyes of others, especially a person who didn't like it once, but now I don't know whether it's changed or not, your child is naturally more expensive by her mother! If it is really because I have involved my children, I have no confidence in my words.

Really: If you don't like it, you don't like it. There is no need for any reason! The improvement of my grandmother's attitude towards me is not because I never go empty-handed every once in a while and take a fancy to my food and clothes;

Our family is very harmonious. My father, uncles and aunts are very filial. My aunt, aunt, mother and uncles are also very kind and filial people. There has never been any contradiction between mother-in-law and sister-in-law, who are like sisters. Grandparents are very hardworking, and their popularity and reputation are very good;

Especially since uncles, fathers, uncles and aunts grew up, grandparents have never lacked food, clothing and company! It's not because I didn't study well before, but now my job is poor;

I don't respect her when my voice is loud. It is clear that my cousin's voice is louder, but her concern is often yelled at, and my deafening voice can't stand it; I think this may be because our eight characters don't match, but now we may grow softer and more tolerant with age! Perhaps the precipitation of time has tested some once inherent views, but for me, at least in front of them, this is a spell that seeps into the bone marrow!