Salted eggs hurt.

The young man asked the master anxiously, "Master, natural disasters such as air pollution, global warming, earthquakes and tsunamis are still going on. Thinking about these problems all day, I am very anxious and have psychological trauma. " The master took out a raw duck egg and a salted duck egg and smashed the egg on the young man's head. Ask the young man, "which hurts more?" The young man replied, "Salted eggs hurt!" The master said, "Idle eggs hurt. It's no use thinking about them. "

Nowadays, the society pays more and more attention to mental health, especially those who have experienced disasters often need emotional counseling and psychological comfort to heal their psychological trauma. However, for the "cruel" Adler psychology, it clearly denies the psychological trauma theory.

Adler said: any experience itself is not the cause of success or failure. We will not suffer from the stimulation of our own experience-the so-called psychological trauma. In fact, we will find the factors that meet our purpose from experience. What determines us is not the past experience, but the meaning we give it.

What determines us is not the experience itself, but the meaning we give it. This is crucial. Adler does not deny that childhood disasters or abuse have an impact on personality formation.

For example, we should be able to understand it. As we all know, Du Xuan is drinking at the boss's county magistrate's house. When he saw the shadow of the bow on the wall in the glass, he thought it was a snake and he was ill. Later, the county magistrate found out the reason and explained it to Du Xuan. Du Xuan's doubts were dispelled and he recovered. The experience of drinking at the county magistrate's house is not the cause of Du Xuan's pain and illness. When Du Xuan gave the meaning of the bow shadow snake, it caused Du Xuan's pain and illness. He thought too much.

We often say that when life is busy, there is no time to moan. It may be rude, but it may still have a point. When you feel depressed and bored, keep yourself busy properly, and maybe depression and troubles will slip away uninvited.