My daughter-in-law married a house for fear that my son would not marry her. Does marriage really need pricing?

Sheng Rulan in Do You Know is a low marriage.

Fu Sheng's old lady said this to Sheng Rulan's humble marriage: "Hua Lan is at least tall, but I don't think she can stand suffering in her husband's family. If this is an inferior marriage, if we have to suffer, it will be a joke for us to live in a rich family. To get married, it is natural to be suitable and equal. This is not a cheating marriage. Anyone who doesn't have it has to swallow it. "

Feng Xiu said her family was a joke.

Everyone else is married from the countryside to the city. She is a woman whose parents have a house and a car in a second-tier city, and her family conditions are above average, but she married from the city to the countryside. Her father flew into a rage and refused to attend her wedding. She was also glad that her parents didn't attend her wedding, and she was too shabby to let anyone in her family know that she had married so disgracefully.

Although both parents are unwilling to attend her wedding, Feng Xiu is her own daughter after all. When Feng Xiu got married, they married her to the small house where Feng Xiu worked with men. His parents' idea is that they can't let their daughter get married and rent a house.

Supposedly, Feng Xiu paid so much for love that her parents married a house. If Feng Xiu's husband and in-laws are not grateful, they should at least be nice to Feng Xiu. But not at all.

Feng Xiu's mother-in-law despises Feng Xiu's affectation and extravagance. As long as Feng Xiu returns to her in-laws' house, her mother-in-law will say, "If you save some flowers, you will spend all your money. What will my grandson spend in the future?"

Feng Xiu doesn't want to quarrel with her mother-in-law. She feels that she can't afford to hide, so she seldom goes back to her mother-in-law's house with men. Men complain a lot about her. On several occasions, men even dropped things. Feng Xiu is very stubborn. The more a man does this, the less she wants to go back.

After Feng Xiu became pregnant, the man took his mother to the small house where they lived, saying that he was going to take care of Feng Xiu. In fact, he just wants his mother to enjoy the life in the big city.

Feng Xiu still goes to work to earn money after pregnancy, and she is exhausted when she comes home every day. But nothing was done at home. Feng Xiudao: "What is your mother doing here? Just two meals in the morning and evening, can't you do it well? "

The man was angry: "What do you take my mother as, a nanny?" My mother cooks and you eat. My mother doesn't cook, you cook by yourself. If you don't want to cook it yourself, we'll just order takeout. "

Feng Xiu sometimes hits herself with anger. She hates how she could blindly marry such a man. She wants a divorce, but the thought of the baby in her belly makes her sad and uncomfortable.

When a mother-in-law treats her daughter-in-law, she always looks at her son. When Feng Xiu's mother-in-law saw that her son was completely on her side, she was even more cynical about Feng Xiu. Feng Xiu worked all day during the day, and when he got home, he had to face such misfortune and was exhausted.

She ran to her mother's house and cried. Her mother just said, "Who made you so cheap?"

Feng Xiu was angry: "I am not an object, and marriage is not a transaction. Why am I mean? Isn't it necessary to force all women to clearly mark the price before marriage? "

Her mother doesn't want to talk to her. She thinks Feng Xiu's thoughts are abnormal. When a woman marries a man, there is nothing in the man's house. The woman's parents want to marry off the house and let her daughter have a place to live after marriage. She thought it was incredible.

Feng Xiu couldn't find comfort from her mother, so she had to go home and make trouble with men. And men have long lost patience with her. When she needs him most, the man just wants his mother to live comfortably here.

Men take their mothers out to play and never take Feng Xiu. The man said that she was pregnant and was not suitable for running around.

If these Feng Xiu can bear it, then what her mother-in-law said to her neighbors is really unbearable. The mother-in-law first said that Feng Xiu had a particularly bad temper. She beats herself when she is angry, just like a mental derangement.

When the neighbors asked about the house, Feng Xiu's mother-in-law said, "Their family was afraid that my son would not marry her girl and married the house. If she doesn't marry this house, my son will despise her. She has a bad temper. "

The neighbors laughed at her words with malicious intent. Someone teased Feng Xiu's mother-in-law: "No wonder your daughter-in-law hit herself when she was angry. If you get married and marry your own house, you are still so angry. Can you stop hitting yourself? "

These words spread like wildfire and finally reached Feng Xiu's ears. At that time, Feng Xiu was about to give birth. She kept saying to herself, "Hold on, hold on, don't be angry, don't be angry, give birth to the baby first."

She dare not cry loudly. She sat on the sofa, gasping for air. She thinks she's really a joke.

Give everything you have, but this is the end. She hated her blindness, but she was confused about marriage. Do women really have to put a price tag on their marriage to get respect?

Li Juan in double-sided tape is a Shanghai girl. She married her husband Yaping, and her parents bought a house for Li Juan.

However, her mother-in-law understood it this way: "Why do you have to pay? Why did you pay? You are afraid that my son will not marry your daughter. My son has no money and nothing. He can get a wife, which shows that he is capable. Who has value and who doesn't. "

You see, sometimes we think it's right. In each other's eyes, we think love is the biggest mistake, that is, cheap, that is, worthless.

Are we wrong?

Yes We overestimate human nature and love. We feel that if we give a lot of love, we can get a lot of love. However, if equivalence is not equal from the beginning, its process and result cannot be equal. Because you were unequal from the beginning.

Because of this inequality, you and men need to pay more. You need to be more tolerant, like Ada Choi. He needs to pay more love and efforts to match your efforts, just like Max Zhang.

If neither of you wants to be better, you want him to be nice to you by getting married at a low price. And he only thinks that you are willing to marry low because you are cheap.

Then, love before marriage will eventually become a bitter couple.

But is this all our fault?

No. Our mistake is to overestimate love, and their mistake is never to understand love. Or in other words, some families don't believe in love, and they measure right and wrong through interests.

Feng Xiu's mother-in-law and man, Li Juan's husband and mother-in-law, they don't think that Feng Xiu and Li Juan are desperate for love, they think that she is "cheap" to marry low. They can't see love, they can only see benefits.

Their profits are more hateful than their mistakes because of love.

So should we really put a price tag before we get married?

We are not objects, and we will never be. Girls should remember that things like bride price and house can't bring real sense of security. What really makes your marriage happy is the man's three views and the family style of the husband's family.

Therefore, when girls get married, they should not only think about love, but also fall into reality. Look at this man's character and your future husband's family style.

You can get married if you have a good personality and family style, because you may suffer a little, but you won't suffer too much injustice.

If you have a bad personality and a bad family style, no matter how high or low, you are not a good target for women.

May these simple truths be useful to you.