Interpersonal relationship: the philosophy that people with high emotional intelligence must follow-if they see it, they will not break, and if they see it, they will break.

He who sees through will not break, but he who sees through will break. These two seemingly contradictory things are often used by people with high emotional intelligence. The two complement each other and choose the right time.

He who sees through doesn't tell the truth, in fact, what he said is a famous saying of ancient Mr. Zheng Banqiao, which is called a rare confusion.

It is rare to be confused, which actually requires us to look confused or even stay out of it when we need to express our position on some things.

Why are you doing this?

This is because, in many things, it doesn't mean that you must be right if you make a statement, but even if you are right, you may not benefit from it. On the contrary, you will suffer damage, and the significance of this damage is equivalent to zero. In other words, it is meaningless that you get negative benefits with your attitude.

For example, you have a colleague. Today is her birthday, and her boyfriend bought her a dress. At this time, she happily wore it to work. I'm telling you at this time, you see, today is my birthday, and my boyfriend bought me a dress. Isn't it beautiful?

In fact, you can already see that she is overweight recently. It's horizontal, which makes it look fatter and less attractive.

At this time, don't you want to say, I will go, what are you looking at? You are already fat, and this is a striped dress, which makes you fatter.

As a result, it is estimated that she never wants to talk to you again.

So what should you say? Lying? It's not appropriate either You can try to say that. Wow! Is today your birthday? Best wishes for a happy birthday! I really envy you having such a good boyfriend. I miss you all the time. You are so happy!

What will she think when she hears this? Do I have to chase you and ask me if my clothes look good? Actually, it's not necessary She has been greatly satisfied.

That's why there are some things to see through.

So what will he say if he sees through?

This is a matter of principle, or something more important to the other party.

I think, for example, it is easier for everyone to accept and understand.

For example, a colleague is about to sign a bill recently, which is a project that brings relatively objective benefits to the company. It can be said that it is a very good thing. However, you happen to know something about this project and see that there is a very obscure clause in the contract sent by the other company that is unfavorable to the company. If the contract is signed, the consequences behind it may make colleagues in this company suffer heavy losses.

What should you do at this time? Tell him straight out? Or is it impossible to talk about it?

My suggestion is that if you pull at a critical moment, it will be a friendship that will benefit you all your life. Don't think about reading a colleague's jokes, because you may be unhappy after reading his jokes, but helping him will be very helpful for your future development.

At this time, if you see through it, you must tell the truth. First, consider the company, second, consider this colleague, and third, and most importantly, consider yourself. Because you can't guarantee that you will never make mistakes, can you?

And by the way, it's very tactfully. You can pretend to tell this colleague unintentionally. You are amazing. You can negotiate such a list. The contract is really comprehensive, huh? What does this mean?

You must tell him this in private, because then he will appreciate you. No one will thank you if you say it in public.

Well, what I want to say today is my personal view of life. In other words, be kind to others and pave more roads for yourself from kindness. This road is smoother.

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