Whose fault is it for those broken friendships?

1. What is the pattern and what is the horizon?

As for the rhetoric about the split of friendship, I often read some articles on the Internet.

Some say that the patterns are different and there is no mutual conspiracy. Some say they have different visions and eventually become strangers.

Does that mean that if you want to be friends, you must have the same vision and a unified structure?

Of course not.

Two people become friends together, maybe one of them has a rich family background,

The other person comes from an ordinary family and has no identity background.

The most important reason why these two people can become long-term friends together is that they understand each other's lives.

Those with a strong family background will not show off their advantages.

Those without a family background will not use their disadvantages as an inferiority complex.

Because such a long-term friendship is not based on family background, but on congenial personalities, mutual respect and understanding.

Another example is that one person earns 30,000 yuan a month, and another person earns 3,000 yuan a month.

The long-lasting friendship between these two people does not lie in the fact that the person who earns 30,000 yuan a month "tolerates" the person who earns 3,000 yuan a month.

It’s because these two people are together and “don’t judge a hero by his income.”

The establishment of a relationship lies in understanding and trust.

The establishment of a long-term relationship lies in deepening mutual understanding and accumulating trust in each other.

The friendship is split based on the different patterns. What splits this friendship is not the pattern, but the lack of patience to manage the relationship.

The friendship is divided based on the gap in vision. What divides this friendship is not the vision, but the lack of understanding of each other's lives.

No matter how lofty the rhetoric is, it cannot be compared to the rejection and rejection in fact:

We all know that wishful thinking is the most taboo in love.

In fact, friendship Same thing.

2. Not forcing is the greatest respect

The closeness between two people who are strangers may only become a memory.

Furthermore, it is a blessing among misfortunes to be able to become a past event worth remembering.

The breakup of most friendships will result in two people not having contact with each other forever.

One party may even break up for some very clear reasons (such as robbing his boyfriend, prying him off, etc.) His girlfriend behaved similarly) and hated the other party to the core.

Some people say that it is not worth it and should be let go.

But what I want to say is, it’s worth it!

Why value? Why can't you let go easily?

In this life, many things have a negative result in the end. In addition to not allowing ourselves to be immersed in negative emotions and finding ways to get out, there are many other things we can do.

The important thing is to make it clear to yourself why this thing will hurt you.

If your friendship has been destroyed and you are a victim,

Never let yourself forgive the other person easily, then use "fate is like this" to excuse you. Own.

You have to take this opportunity to learn to see clearly the characteristics of those who betray friendship.

You have to remember them, but don’t hate them, because hatred will make a person People lose their ability to judge.

Remember them so that when you build trusting relationships with others in the future, you will not make the same mistakes again.

What next?

Then, don’t force it, don’t let yourself get entangled in emotions like “why you became friends with such a person?”

You have to tell yourself that things have already happened. Yes, you have to remember the lesson, but for the person who betrayed your friendship, don't bear grudges or be angry, because it's not worth it.

Don't force this relationship to have a "result",

Your not forcing it is not to respect your former friendship,

It’s about respecting your own efforts and your own efforts in this friendship.

Those memories of trying your best, suffering, and compromising.

This may make you think it is not a funny joke,

But these memories will indeed become precious memories as you grow up:

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What really makes people grow are often not good memories, because good memories are too perfect.

And those bad memories are the real driving force for a person's growth, because only Among those bad memories,

you can better understand yourself and then change yourself.

3. The past cannot be allowed to pass away

Let the past pass away. This kind of thinking is not impossible, but must be made valuable. of leaving.

Learn lessons, learn to see people, and let yourself understand the relationship behind some things.

Behind those broken friendships, the interpretation of human nature is what we should really pay attention to.

In this life, all experiences have their most realistic value.

To this day, I still think of the sentence I wrote in my novel when I was in high school:

Some people should not have friendship,

Because their characters are so despicable that they are not worthy of true friendship.