What kind of experience is it to fall in love with someone you have known for 10 years?

From 2008 to 20 19, we met 10 years and 6 months.

When we first met, there were no graceful teenagers with white shirts, girls with long hair and pleated skirts, and even we couldn't remember what we looked like when we first met. But after dealing with each other many times, they changed from friends to lovers, from lovers to familiar strangers, and then from strangers to lovers.

Those suspicions and anxieties, fanaticism and loss, parting and reunion, moving and tears, both of them have experienced together. Now, standing at the intersection of thirty, there are many temperatures in my memory.

1. I think you are a farmer and I look like a village girl.

The day before I returned to Shenzhen, it was also the last day to spend time with my parents in my hometown. My mother's leg hurts and it's inconvenient to move. She arranged for me to wear rain boots to pick some fresh vegetables in the garden and take them back to Guangdong.

I haven't worn rain boots for many years, so I put on my equipment. I teased him like a complete farmer. He laughed at me for being a real village girl.

We all grew up in the countryside, know the hardships and difficulties of life, and enjoy the sureness and happiness of labor.

Probably because we come from the same class, in the process of getting along, we can be ourselves completely at ease, without inferiority complex and without deliberately changing ourselves to please each other.

The smells are the same, but they are also happy, and then they work together towards the goal.

He is your arm and you are his eyes.

On Valentine's Day, it happened that we were going back to Shenzhen. Starting at seven o'clock in the morning, six or seven hundred kilometers, he drove alone for more than ten hours, exhausted. On the way to Guangzhou to deliver things, I strolled for several hours and had dinner by the way. It's past 9 o'clock.

He has poor eyesight at night and plans to stay in a nearby hotel for one night and drive back to Shenzhen the next morning. Just as I was driving to find a hotel, I suddenly turned the steering wheel and decided to go straight back to Shenzhen. He said: you help me look at the navigation route, and I feel at ease when you sit next to me.

Two people on the dark road, carefully forward, as if a rational adventure. At a distance of nearly 200KM, he insisted on keeping the middle lane unchanged and letting one car after another pass in front of us. We talked one by one, and every time we got closer to our destination, we felt safer and more confident.

He said that on Valentine's Day, people always send flowers and red envelopes, and I will take you home from morning till night.

Flowers, gifts, surprises and romantic Valentine's Day are romantic, but when you know someone for more than 10 years, he becomes your arm and you become his eyes, and their lives are more closely linked.

You know where his heart is, and you know his asset geometry. It doesn't matter whether there is a gift or not. Trust and understanding are more advanced romances than any gift.

3.？ We no longer talk about love, and we no longer prove love. We just feel happy in ordinary days.

On the morning of my birthday, I said to him, come and have dinner with me tonight.

He replied: good. Happy birthday, dear.

Before I got off work, I got a call from him asking what I wanted to eat. I said, I'll eat whatever you do.

When I got home, the food was ready. Let me bring the cake back by the way.

I've known him for so many years, and it's my first birthday to eat cake. In previous years, he cooked and gave red envelopes.

A bottle of wine, two people, three dishes, birthday is as simple as that. I didn't pay special attention to expressing "I love you", but I still received the touch and happiness brought by "little luck".

The most romantic love words are not "I love you", but: Never mind, I'll do it.

A few days ago, he told me that several important friends were coming home for dinner on Sunday (yesterday), and my role was to cook a delicious table and create a good conversation atmosphere for them. But this is not my strong suit.

Sure enough, after buying fruits and vegetables and going home, they ate fruits and chatted in the living room. I spent several hours in the kitchen, but I didn't get a whole dish.

During this period, he came to see it three or four times and saw that the steamed bass I steamed was almost fried. To be safe, I finally decided to cook it myself.

With his cooking skills, my cooperation and supervision, the serving speed soared, and four or five dishes were cooked in less than half an hour. There is only one scrambled egg with green peppers and vegetables left for me to cook. In order to give me face, he said I did it in front of my friends, and I naturally won a wave of fame in front of his friends.

In this small matter, what I care about most is not my image in front of his friends, but that he didn't show any anger when the accident happened, which makes me feel at ease.

Some boys may feel humiliated in front of their friends and say in a reproachful tone: If you can't even cook a dish well, what else can you do? In fact, face is earned by yourself, not by others.

When a man starts to blame when there is a problem, he will not only lose face, but also lose feelings.

When two people are together, not only are they accompanied when things are going well, but more importantly, when they make mistakes, someone can tolerate them and tell you with a smile, it doesn't matter, I'll do it.

Passion fades, and we no longer try to find and prove love, but every day becomes Valentine's Day.